| Name: Tamora | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 8:15 AM |
My ex remarried a few months ago, they lived together about a year proir. The wife cuts my 3 childrens's hair w/out asking, (dyed my daughter's hair) grounds, punishes, throws away, or gives away clothes I get the kids, degrades me in front of the kids, overrules me, and just makes everything very difficult.
Juat a few weeks ago I found that the wife was grabbing my boys by the face and squeezing hardly (boys ages are 8 and 9)
I talked to my ex, but everytime I try to discuss anything the wife says I am "starting" things. I also want to mention when the wife leaves a voice mail message she says I am a unfit mother, or "be a mom". And this woman has biological children she has either abondended, or can't visit. She informs my children that her ex husband just won't let her see them. ↑ |
| Name: pj754 to Tamora | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 8:56 PM |
| You ex hubby's wife sounds like a real cracker. I would definately question the issue about her having biological children and never getting to see them. Sounds there was a serious reason why she can't. Boy, you have your hands full for the safety of your children. Do the children tell their dad what this cracker does? I know children have a tendancy to exaggerate the story a bit but for the most part the things they do tell you are mostly true. What is your ex's response when your children tell him? Is he that blind to not listen? I'd be afraid the cracker would fly off the deep end and seriously hurt one of your children. Maybe you can check with the DCFS department to see if there was ever a reporting of abuse by her. Plus I wouldn't send anything that you purchased for your children with them to their dad's. In my case, any new clothes, playstation games or big items, stays at my house. The kids have a separate set of play clothes they are only allowed to wear to their dads. 98% of the time, the good stuff never comes back home. Also, this prevents from their toys being lost or broken while at their dads. This may seem a little harsh on my part but their father didn't purchase the stuff and he doesn't pay child support on a regular basis. The things like MP3 players or their gamesboy I let them take because it keeps them occupied while they are at their dads because their dad doesn't spend any quality time with them. Other than that the rest stays at my house. The kids have adapted well to this and it works out great for me. Also, make sure you tell your kids that this woman seems to be the way she is and you can't change her no matter how hard you try. Be sure to focus on your children when they are with you because when they get older they will see for themselves just exactly what this cracker is all about and they won't go around her. At least, that's what I'm hoping with my ex. Good luck and I hope this helps. ↑ |
| Name: millie | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 9:43 PM |
| my boyfriend talk to his ex wife on the phone like there are still married ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones | Date: Jun 28th, 2006 1:00 AM |
| you guys should BOTH be called mom if you share equal time/effort on the kids. she shouldn't be pushing the kids to choose titles... kids decide that on their own! ↑ |
| Name: Serina S | Date: May 17th, 2007 2:53 PM |
| Sorry ment to bump this one ↑ |
| Name: crystalcncl | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 7:58 PM |
| My ex husband wife does the same to me with my 13 year old me and his dad share custody I only see my son every other weekend and for the summer hurts me more now because I don't know how much to deal with it causes problems. ↑ |
| Name: crystalcncl | Date: Jun 1st, 2007 7:59 PM |
| My ex husband wife does the same to me with my 13 year old me and his dad share custody I only see my son every other weekend and for the summer hurts me more now because I don't know how much to deal with it causes problems.From [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: billy22 | Date: Jun 4th, 2007 12:21 AM |
| My ex's new wife hasn't tried to push that issue on my kids and I'm not sure she ever will. My husbadn and I have been raising the kids together for over the pats 5 years and I was raising them on my own for a year and a half before that. My ex has just started really being back in they're lives on a regular basis and it's only every other weekend w/ no holidays or summers. So it comes out to be about 52 days, or something like that ,out of the year and I can tell you what, if my kids started calling her Mom I wouldn't be very happy. They don't call my husband Dad, he has told them from the very beginning that they have a Dad who loves them very much even though he can't be here for them all of the time. So I guess it really just depends on the situation. A child's age has some to do with it as well as which parent spends the most time with the child, living wise. ↑ |
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