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i am new and need some very serious advice. i have been seperated from my husband for 3 months and the divorce will be final in 3 weeks. i just found out 2 weeks ago that my ex' new gf was in jail for 2 years and is now on probation for manufacturing and using meth. now heres where i need the advice. i have stopped taking my 3 yr. old daughter to see my ex on his one day a week visitation. my lawyer that i have gotten to get a order of protection from my ex for my daughter advised me not to. whats worse is i found out that my ex knew that his new gf is an ex con and doesnt think anything about it. he doesnt think that he is putting our daughter in harms way even after i told him that the percentage rate of meth users to go back to is 96% the first month after probation. he didnt care and swears that she isnt going back to it. she even lost her two children b/c of the meth. so am i doing the right thing by keeping my daighter away from my ex when he chooses to keep his gf even after i told him that if he tell his gf to go somewhere while he is with his daughter that would be fine, he chose not to and now we are going to court shortly for custody. of course i am going for sole and i hate that i am going to keep my daughter from her daddy. hes a good dad, or so i thought before he chose a meth user over seeing his own daughter. so what do you think? so this is so long i just didnt want to keep anything out. thanks for any suggestions. MANDY
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Name: to mandy | Date: Jan 2nd, 2006 1:48 PM
yes I think you are in the right. I wouldnt let my kids be around someone like her either. Stick to your guns and see what the court says about the situation. Good Luck. 

Name: bianca | Date: Jan 5th, 2006 2:55 AM
just because someone is an ex con doesnt mean they did something that can hurt you. it all depends on what she went to jail for. he know her better than you do and hopefully he has good judgment. as far as not having your daughter around her, i agree. if he has that much faith in her then im sure he may leaver your daughter with her at times, and who knows what could happen. so no your not wrong, youre only being a mother but dont act out of spite 

Name: Mandy | Date: Jan 5th, 2006 3:31 AM
she went to jail for manufacturing meth and trying to get someone to sneak some into her while she was in jail. yes she is a danger to my child and none of this is out of spite. yes im pissed that he gave up on us and moved onto another woman only 1 week after getting rid of me, but he made me even more pissed when he put our daughter in harms way by being with this woman. there is no telling if she has some of the chemicals to make the meth in the house and my daughter could find it and die just by smelling the ingredients. so i am just being a mama lion protecting her cub. he messed with the wrong lion, thats all. 

Name: lonely | Date: Jan 5th, 2006 5:40 PM
mandy u r totally right, u cant risk its ur daughter, 

Name: get real | Date: Jan 5th, 2006 7:40 PM
She's not acting out of spite. Who the hell would want their children around someone who is a known meth user and manufaturere at that? I know people can change but the odds of someone kicking a habit like that and not going back are slim. She has every right to feel the way she does. Keep your little girl away from this dirt bag Mandy. Do what ever you have to do hun. Example: I know this person who went to prison for manslaughter because of the fact that 2 people died in his home of overdose of herion(SP?) He had been in jail for like 10 years I beiliev and was just let out on parole. He did great for about a year and guess what , he was caught back in the same neighborhood trying to buy more herion. So if someone like that is dumb enough to go back after so long. I gurantee this loser gf of her ex is still using meth. 

Name: LALALALALALA | Date: Jan 29th, 2006 10:40 PM
Althogh i am only 15 i think that you should give your husband's x a chance. Alot of people do drugs and then get over it. you shouldn't keep your kid away if she is trying to do better. One of my really good friend did drugs and because his parents were divorced they wouldn't let him be around his younger sister. it killed him and still does. YOu may be right in not letting your kid see the women but if you haven't even tried it out then you would be doing the wrong thing. 

Name: To LALALALALALA | Date: Jan 30th, 2006 1:00 PM
Why would she even risk it? Your right you are only 15 and you have no clue what having kids is about and what a mother will do to protect that child, so until you do then may I suggest you dont comment on something you know nothing about. 

Name: Agnes | Date: Feb 6th, 2006 1:14 AM
You are doing the right thing. 

Name: BILL | Date: Feb 6th, 2006 1:53 PM
I am going through the same thing my ex wife just married a man who has been in jail for 20 years. The first ten for armed robbery and the second ten for drugs. My ex wife has my son thinking this ass got a bum wrap,this is not a person I want my son around. There's alcohol in the house there never was when I was there and my ex wife well I dont even know who she is anymore. I guess if I had not left this would not have happened but we alway's argued and I did not think that would be good for my son. Anyway if you can keep her away do it, you never know if your ex will leave her with his girlfriend or not. 

Name: aZn GrL | Date: Feb 15th, 2006 11:04 PM
Hey Mandy, It sounds like you have a real hard situation to think about, Being an ex- meth user I understand where you might have some concerns especially if your going through a custody case now. I wouldn't take the visitation awy from your ex but because of his choice to be with an ex- drug offender I think you should at least put stipulations in the visitation order to keep your daughter safe. Maybe supervised visits or visits at a relatives home with out the girlfriend of course. Besides she should be very busy with her own committments and parenting classes that she has to go through since she had her children taken away. I'm sure she is very busy trying to get them back. 

Name: kiarra | Date: Mar 31st, 2006 2:49 AM
hey,i get what your sayin but people do change i meen my old man was in prison for dealing meth and when he got out he quit completly u need to talk to your ex i meen u need to tell him what u thank and that u are afraid that his gf might be a bad person for your doughter to be around and when your soughter is with him make it so that he can't she her with his girl friend .

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