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Name: pam
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Hi, every one I am new here and am in major need of advice, Im getting married in one month to a great guy who I love dearly. we are both divorced parents. him for 5 years, me 8 years. we have lived togehter for almost 3 years and have been engaged for 1 year. My two daughters are twins 14yr. and i have a 20yr. son who is in the army. his girls are 16yr. and 20yr., one has her own place with her boyfriend the other lives with her mother about half an hour away from us. the 16yr. goes to school, has sports every nite and works every weekend. we see never little of both girls but not for lack of trying, he calls them alot and invites them to our home. the problem is that both girls in my eyes are selfish and self centered. the only return a call when it benifits them , they dont call on their fathers b-day, fathers day or any other day that is importabt to him. this hurts him deeply but he never calls them on their actions. when we decided to set a date and get married they flipped out crying and saying the were losing their dad, you know the dad they never call or come see. we wanted to just go away and get married and they true a fit saying they wanted a wedding so they could be part of it so we gave in and have planned this wedding that we really cant afford and didnt want to please them. the 16yr is one of my bridesmaid the oldest chose not to be in it because it displeased her mother but she would be there for it. now the wedding is comming up and they are causing SO much grief , 16yr was suppose to sleep over at our house nite before wedding for hair ect...he will be staying at his moms the night before to give me time with my girls and his 16yr and i had planned this together months ago, furture husbands sister also in the wedding will be there too, we talked about ordering takeout, renting movies and playing games, a real girls night!! now she tells her dad on the phone, crying that she doesnt want to stay with me, but wants her mother to drop her off at wedding. Jim and I talked and of course i am very hurt and confused as to why, she makes me feel like the wicked witch of the west!!! last month while her mother was away on vacation she spent a weekwith us, Ive been off work due to surgery so i planed many things that i knew she liked to do we even cooked together she told her dad she had a great time so what is goinging on??!!! she was very rude at our shower two weeks ago and sat of by her self pounting the whole time causing many distant family member to ask us lots of questions on what should have been a great day. im Very afraid she will do same at wedding ,20yr never showed up at our shower never even called so we decided not to reward her with a outfit she asked him to buy her for the wedding as she only calls we she wants money. last night she called her dad to ask him to drive 2hr. to her so he could buy her a dress in stead of confronting her he pretty much kissed her butt and said sure. she was also crying and asking her dad to not get married and i overheard her talking very badly about me, he didnt stop her or set her straight. this is not the first time she has done this. problem is we had a huge fight after he got off of phone he gets very defensive about his girls but I am tired of being treated like this by his girls and I think he should let them know they dont have to like me but they damn sure have to show respect and stop treating me like dirt. Im really thinking maybe I should not marry him and thats so sad because we were so luck to have found each other, we both want so much to make a happy safe home for all our children. PLEASE Help
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Name: pam | Date: Sep 7th, 2006 6:42 PM
anyone? 

Name: amy | Date: Sep 7th, 2006 6:50 PM
wow 

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