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Name: fate

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im 25 years old bf i have five year old twins who are mixed they look more white than black me and my kids father has been together since we was 16 yrs old we broke up when the kids was one years old i always took care of them and he was never to be found i got into trouble because i locked them in there room so i could clean up my house which i know was not the best thing to do, i then tryed to get there father invold but he refused to help because he said he could'nt afford it .i had to move and bring my kids with me i missed my court hearing and had a warrent two years go by and me and there dad started to get back together we plainned on getting married so i was trying to deal with the legal problem i had .it did;nt work out between me and there father because he cheated alot so i packed everything and lefted on the way to my mom's house i got pulled over for making a u-turn and they pulled up my warrent my mom came and got the children and i was arrested my childrens father found out and filed for full custody i got out in four months and he already had full custody he told me i wasnt going to see my kids unless i have sex with him i took him to court for a while but the lawyers was telling me i had to ween my way back into there life but i was only out of it for four months i went to a bunch of conciliation hearing only to still have visitations he telling them that he afraid for the kids lives and then later coming to my house and telling me that if i just let him do what he wants that he'll let me see the kids i have him on tape because he's telling people a whole bunch of lie's but they wont let me use them.my children told me they hate it there and want to come home my children father dosent even rasie them he moved in with his parents who are very cult like religious what can i do to get some help ↓

Name: Lizzi | Date: Feb 9th, 2007 5:15 PM

Sounds like you need a lawyer........and a GOOD ONE!!!!! I know that means MONEY but I think that's your only option. If you have a good family maybe they can pull the Money together to help you and you could make payments to them in order to pay the money back over time? ↑

Name: fate | Date: Feb 11th, 2007 11:33 PM

yeah i think i will get a lawyer but the free lawyers keep telling me i should settle for the visitations ↑

Name: Sunshine1 | Date: Feb 14th, 2007 11:33 PM

Honey that's probably why they are free...THEY SUCK! That is some of the worst advice I have ever heard. If you can hire a real lawyer do it. Your kid's lives is what's most important here. That whole religious cult thing scares me a lot. Document everything and if possible have witnesses to all your conversations. How old are your kids? And could the reason you were locked up for 4 months be why the court gave him custody? If so, it could take much longer because you will probably have to be involved with children's services. Maybe go to them and ask to take child parenting classes or whatever. Go above and beyond to prove that the kids are better off with you no matter what was done in the past. ↑

Name: tb4 | Date: Feb 16th, 2007 3:54 AM

Unfortunately for now visitation is better than not seeing them at all. You have to re-establish yourself all over again before you would even be allow full custody of your children and even that might be hard to get changed in the courts. You have to prove in the courts eyes that you are a stable working parent, who can offer good morals to your children. So, by using your visitations is helping you to establish a good relationship with your children. Granted, they may not want to be with their father but for their sake you have to do whatever it takes to prove your sincerity in the judges eyes. This is not going to happen overnite, this is going to take a great deal of time. However, if your ex is trying to force himself on you, try arranging your visitations in a public place or at your mom's house. In fact, during your visitation, it would be a good idea to have another adult present with you to verify your credibility while spending time with the children. This person could become a character witness in your case. I do hope things will get better for you. ↑

Name: PosersNFakes | Date: Feb 20th, 2007 9:38 PM

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