First thing is DO NOT GIVE HER FULL CUSTODY . You need to find out what ur state guideline's are for child custody. You can go into your local county attorneys office and they can get you numbers for free help and point you in the right direction. Check ur state custody rights on line also. Most the time men get screwed, because they try to play good guy and the mother knows how to get her way. Sounds like you need to break everything off with her and concentrate on your child. She sounds like shes done with you and only wanted you around for your money. Just remember its always easier to have custody on paper even if ur not able to carry out what the visitations are cause if you try to take her back to court and change them it's super hard to get a judge to change the papers. What I mean by this is (you might get every other weekend and 2 weeks in the summer and every other holiday) Say you work weekends and you think you will never be able to get your child, agree to it cause you can look for a different job at the same time. So you have to agree on some sort of visitations anyways. Watch out for the mother-inlaw she seem to have alot of influence on her daughter and will try to talk her into not letting you have any rights. there are alot of things you can put into custody papers! Like phone calls you can request you be able to call the child 3 times a day, you also can put into the papers that neither party can move or take the child out of state with out 2 weeks notice to both parties and it be reviewed by the judge.Just be sure to have 50/50 and she will prob want to be listed as primary custodian. That just means She takes responsibility for the child when it comes to all doc visits and she enrolls the child into school, the child would reside in the mothers home and you would have visitations. You need to be healthy for your child and happy for your child! Always remember if your not happy it shows and your children can see it before anyone else! I have plenty of advise on this because I have been through it twice myself and 3 times with my sister so I promise you when I say I can help and know lots of ways around things. Melisa [3 ↑ |