| Ask him if he wants to come back to your home and live. ↑ |
| that is a tough one. i am one the other end of the spectum, i admit that i feel jealousy because my husband puts his son between us. my stepson and i have a great relationship. do you do family activities together? maybe take a saturday afternoon and have father son time, just be careful not to "cut" out your wife. that will only make matters worse all around. same thing for your wife, maybe they can spend time together doing something fun so that he can understand that she is his family too. that is what i try to do with my stepson who is six ↑ |
| Lizzi he does live with me now he just went to my parents for the summer but i would love what ever adviceyou got for me im very greatful thank you ↑ |
| hey jesse ive tried the father son time ive tried the father son step mom time ive hit it from every angle there are times he is fine times when he has a rough time of it the weird thing is he is a good kid very respectful and everything he is my life i would do everything for him my problem is i have alot of guilt for not being in his life as i should have my wife loves him dearly but doesnt have the guilt I thank you so much for your help what else do you think might work ↑ |
| To Jack Cherry---Your son could be going through a phase. Perhaps he doesn't know exactly how and what to feel. Although, if you give him a lot of love and support, he will come around. My 13 year old son has been going through the same issues. He has a problem what the doctor calls as a changing disorder. He's never like change very much and doc said it will take time for him to adjust. Perhaps he won't realize all the reality until he a lot older. Perhaps you can put your personal example like it was one of his friends treating him that way he's treating you. Sometimes you have to relate things to children on a level they can fully understand. As parents we have to acquire alot of patience with our children. As much as we want them to adjust quickly some kids just don't. I have three children and two out of three are definately ok with all the new changes in our life but my son is the only one, who baulks. Perhaps some counseling might be another avenue you can do for him. He might need a neutral party to just talk and vent too but put things into a better prespective. I'm trying the counseling sessions with my son in hopes they will help him to be able to make decisions on his own without the influence of his father and grandfather. As much as he seems to be a follower, I certainly hope when he gets into high school he will be able to fight the peer pressure and be able to stand up for what is right or wrong. Now, is the time for you to start with your son so things won't get worse down the road. Maybe another family member that he might be close to him can help to talk with him about what he's feeling. I don't know if my advice helped and perhaps you have already tried. Goodluck and remember to have lots of patience and love for him. It's tough but when he gets older, he will realize it. ↑ |
| pj757thank you so much it's hard being in this position. there are times i just want to crawl up in a ball and cry cause i try to be the best dad in the world and also be his best friend. i think its hard for him also because his real momo doesnt hardly come around i usually have to take him to see her she lives about three hours away in corpus christi she doest sent him christmaspresents or nothing for his birthdaybutshe left us when he was about 2 she left me for another girl after 10 yrs together so it has to confuse him a little but i never talk bad about her me and my wife are always telling him how much we love him a how we will always be there for him. ive never been on a chat room like this before but i knew there had to be other parents out there who had some advice and i'm greatful for everone who has given me any advice thank you and god bless u all ↑ |
| IF i WERE YOU JACK I WOULD NOT PAY MUCH ATTENTION TO IT, i THINK HE KNOWS IT GETS TO YOU SO HE KEEPS PUTTING YOU THOUGH THIS. HANG IN THERE. iT WILL PASS. ↑ |
| Talk to your parents and see if he openly talked to them about his feelings of you and your wife while he was with them. They may know something you don't. Maybe it would help if your wife spent some one on one time with him. That might make him feel better about the situation. Then the 3 of you should do more things together as well as you having one on one time with him. Good luck! ↑ |
| i have talked to my parents all he does is talk good about her when he goes to stay with them he comes back with all these cute pictures for her saying how much he loves her we went camping this year to garner state park they had a blast when im working and they are home alone not a single problem when i get home it all starts not that its bad just that everywhere i go he follows or if he is doing something he hears us talking he will stop what he is doind and run to where ever we are at i love him to pieces he my life i just want things to get better i guess it is just going to take time and patients thank you again ↑ |
