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Name: BTKB
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i am a 38 year old woman who is not in love with her husband. we have been married for 13 years. i have been having an 5 year affair with a married man who is 11 years older than me. i am and have been in love with him since we meet. he is the best thing that has ever happened to me. my problem is that i really want to have a baby. i have not had sex with my husband for over 2 years. i really want to divorce my husband but the words won't come out. do you think i should have a baby with my husband or wait until i divorce and my lover divorces
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Name: LOL! | Date: Feb 6th, 2008 3:19 PM
I do not want to know what I think of you. If I were you, I would be ashame to come on here and disclose such trash. You are nothing but a trashy .... 

Name: Mary | Date: Feb 6th, 2008 3:27 PM
Girl how is the ATL? I am sure that he is doing just fine in the USVI - doing all his girls while you as a foul destroy your AIDS? Julian is a dog and I guess you are one too - perhaps you all should open a brothel on STT. 

Name: maryjane4175 | Date: Feb 7th, 2008 9:09 PM
First of all, this is a really bad thing that you are doing this to yourself and more importantly your husband.

Be true to yourself and him divorce him so he can find someone to love him in the way he deserves. You can’t keep living like this!

Make sure that once your divorce is over you do not brake up the other guy’s home even if it’s not a happy home, because more than likely he has kids with his wife. Better yet break it off with him until he has left his wife. Have no contact with him until then. Stop being "the other woman". Know one likes “the other woman”! Who knows, you might enjoy being single for a while.

As for the matter of having a child… well… NO, NO, NO! NEVER BRING A CHILD INTO THIS WORLD IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS. Are you on crack?!?! Are you aware that 85% of America’s children come form broken homes. Would you have any idea how hard living in a broken home would be like for a child. You don’t want your child to go through that. If you do, you don’t need to be a mother, or a wife for that matter. Sorry it’s so harsh, but you asked. 

Name: Really | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 1:15 AM
Maryjane are U the one giving advice here? Well! Well! BTKB just look at other posting from that Mary come to your own conclusions on her - to me she may be the one on crack or something even worse. Don't take any advice from someone who is wosre off than U and is in the same boat as U. MaryJane is a marriage or home breaker. 

Name: maryjane4175 | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 3:03 PM
I misspoke in my previous forum, & and did not realize how it sounded until I read it out loud. I have never had an affair with a married man, (you admitted to it). I have never cheated on neither of my 2 husbands (you admitted to it)! I am a Christian women that does volunteer work for animal shelters, & a mother of 2 teenage kids of my own and a step mother of 2 teenage kids and a wife to my current husband for 9 years, & extremely happy with my life, but like everyone I have times I feel like the world is closing in on me. Who doesn’t feel that way sometimes? So please don’t judge me for things you think I have done. You know nothing about me. Be nice or go somewhare else, because people don't come here to hear criticism from someone who is more that likely has done just as bad. He who is without sin cast the first stone. 

Name: BTKB | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 3:10 PM
Maryjane why don't you read your own postings (not mines)? If you do just that you will see your own double-standrads here - so stop the BS. You talk about Christian - no true Christian behave like you do in particular with their husbands - so go repent and then come back here and give advice later. Until then I suggest that you get yourself right with God. 

Name: Julian | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 3:17 PM
Maryjane people may not know you on this site, but don't be fouled I know who you are and you are no Christian. Would you like me to reveal some closet dirt on you? Just be cool and stop playing miss saint on here because I best. 

Name: maryjane4175 | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 4:13 PM
To be honest with you, I actually think it’s kinda cool that your giving me a hard time over you thinking I cheated on my husband, when I DID NOT CHEAT ON ANYONE, because it shows me a little something about your character. You just might be a decent person after all, just a little too judgmental.
I have been through tones of hard times; I am a cancer survivor so I cherish every moment with my husband and kids, because I almost did not have them anymore. Kinda makes you appreciate life a whole lot more after almost dieing. Stay cool Really, and everyone else out there that has given me a hard time over my misspeaking in my last forum. 

Name: maryjane4175 | Date: Feb 8th, 2008 5:19 PM
Ok Julian, reveal away, darling. Let us hear what kind of dirt you think you might have on me, and then after you got it all off your chest way don’t you tell everyone here what kind of saint-hood you belong to, little miss "I do no wrong". I never said a do no wrong we are humans here everyone has done things we are not proud of but it is not what you are thinking. Yoy don't understand, I have been with 3 mem my whole life. I hate sex too much to just have casual sex, because I am so scared that I might catch something. I was so naïve when I first found out I was pregnant that I didn’t think that could happen to me, then it did. When I thought I might have a chance I could have cancer at the age of 15, I thought it would not happen to me, and then it did. So now with something as scary as sex is I will never say, “it will not happen to me again”! Now that I have a good man to love me and I trust with every aspect of my life I can truly enjoy sex the way God intended, between a husband and a wife. 

Name: caucajun32 | Date: Feb 9th, 2008 5:38 AM
What you both are doing is WRONG ! Don't Boink your husband/meal ticket now after 2 years of not having sex just so you can continue your free ride, you may work and have a career. If you weren't being taken care of by your husband you would have left him already. So don't kid yourself Madam, your are just as much a whore as the crack addict walking the streets of America, at least addiction to drugs is a disease, what your doing is a pure lack of morals and absolutely no integrity.

Now if you really want to do what is right, to avoid hurting your husband, and all the inlaws of your infedelity, because yes you have betrayed them also, all the holidays, get togethers, birthdays, etc, you need to inform your husband that you aren't in love withhim and that you want a divorce.
Tell him you are moving out and that you will not fight him for the house, or any assets, you've morally lost that right.
The first step to regaining integrity begins with you and your actions.
Love is a powerful thing, and even though wrong as it may be, we are all human. I doubt seriously that either you or your boyfriend/lover are in anything more than hot unbridled lust. Niether of you have taken the steps that people in love would have taken, like getting a divorce so that you both could be together, and grow old together.

You know if you and this guy really have found the love of your lives in each other,..................... your future ex's would probably find each other attractive, ya'll ought to hook them up some way, let them fall in love and then blame the break up on them, lmao 

Name: Really | Date: Feb 10th, 2008 12:07 AM
Jun32 great responce - I could not have said it better. B&J are a mess. 

Name: mark | Date: Jun 3rd, 2009 12:04 PM
hi ya btkb how are you 

Name: Diane | Date: Aug 23rd, 2009 7:18 PM
take it from someone who knows....
my second child is with the guy I have been having an on and off again affair since I have been married 9 years ago.
you can email me [email protected] if you want more helpful info. 

Name: Lisaloo | Date: Oct 2nd, 2009 12:34 AM
Your poor husband. End the cheating. That man will NEVER divorce his wife.

You have a lot of making up to do in your marital relationship. 

Name: chula | Date: Oct 10th, 2009 8:12 PM

Name: angela | Date: Oct 20th, 2009 2:50 AM
i hate my husband and i need aexit strategy 

Name: joyce | Date: Oct 28th, 2009 2:57 AM
I dont think u should have a baby with your husband 

Name: joyce | Date: Oct 28th, 2009 2:58 AM
no no baby until u settle down 

Name: joyce | Date: Oct 28th, 2009 3:06 AM
i have a problem with my daughter she is having an affair after 25yrs and her kids found out about it and I am devastated 

Name: Mary | Date: Mar 11th, 2010 4:47 AM
Help me! How do I stop an affair when I don't want to, but know I have to . I'm hurting my husband and kids, but I have fallen for another man. 

Name: jess | Date: Mar 20th, 2010 2:45 AM
i would get an devorce first then i would talk to the other man about having a baby... but thats just what i think.. 

Name: sarah h | Date: Apr 25th, 2010 6:07 PM
If you get married and you discover marrage is wrong when at the same time you discover the man of your dreams cums along ,wot do you do, do you take the offer or do you risk spending your whole life with a man you have no cemistry or love with any more? 

Name: stepchild | Date: Jul 1st, 2010 6:07 AM
i saw my wife of 20yrs kissing another man then foud phone records of 1761 mins for the previos month i am trying to belive what she it was a mistake cause she said so and i am supposed to trust her now 1 question am i wrong 

Name: steve | Date: Sep 14th, 2010 7:49 PM
funny, my wife is 38, we are married 10 years and she is having a VERY similar affair. does us a favor, say the words.
email me if you want to chat. [email protected] 

Name: iceman | Date: Mar 17th, 2011 3:29 AM
how would you feel if he did that to you.i could of never done that to my x wife.it must be a control thing for you.to ruin his life in any is your age level. typical TRAMP!!!!!!!!! 

Name: iceman | Date: Mar 17th, 2011 3:37 AM
im not sorry. if your are looking for symrathy will dont be fooled by your own kind .oh! thats whats wrong with the dating scene these days. oh the poor thing youll get no respect here.you are what you are. you knew that you didnt love him uncoditionalybefore marriage.so why did you do it? let your games begin .good thing i dont know youbecause id disown you. 

Name: iceman | Date: Mar 17th, 2011 3:44 AM

Name: pepe | Date: Mar 23rd, 2011 10:39 PM
You are kidding, right? Do you think i should have a baby with my sperm doner or wait until i ruin another marriage? Whatever. 

Name: Maxx | Date: Apr 5th, 2011 10:28 PM
Divorce then re-marry, have a child 

Name: Attalarasu | Date: Mar 17th, 2012 1:53 PM
Mariage arrange by god want baby pray 2 god childrens r god gift do not think about divorce is a devil thinking b satisfy by what u have 

Name: olil | Date: May 4th, 2012 4:44 AM
i have been having an affair with a married women. this has been going on for 6months. i have told her that she needs to go back to her spouse and try an make it work.......she refuses to, she has flat out told her spouse that if she has to choose that he is not going to like her decisinon.... i really love this women but i also know how this will end if i dont try an get her to fix or see where her marriage is going. there are no kids involved, except from his previous marriage. what do i do, she would listen to me, she starts crying everytime i tell her that she needs to do this, not for me but for herself. i will aways be there for her, but i really want her to figure things out. \ 

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