| I'm thinking that most girls at this age go through the whole "independant" stage. I didn't want anything to do with my Dad or Step-Mom from the time I was 13 until I was about 17! I could do it on my own. I was a good girl, did well in school, excelled in sports, and held a job my junior and senior year of high school. So the fact that they trusted me meant a lot. All they asked from me was that I communicate with them about where I would be, when would I be back, did I have a ride, was there adults supervision...that sort of thing. I ALWAYS told them exactly what I was doing and where I would be and left phone numbers. It made me feel very grown up and responsible. However, I did not have a mother growing up and have never had a mother daughter bond with anyone really. But it was still important to my father that I spend a little family time at home once ina while:) I hope this helps. I now have a 13 year old boy and our relationship has gotten stronger the older he's gotten, but I am told that's what happens with mother and sons at this age. Good luck:) ↑ |
Yes, girls this age do what some independence. My 13 year old daughter does the same things while complaining that we are too strict and feels she needs to have some more freedom. There a times she doesn't tell me detail things only b/c she feels they are not that important to discuss. Yet, there are other times, I can't keep her quiet. You have to just sit back and let her come to you when she's ready. She'll talk when she wants too but then again, maybe there really isn't much going on in her life that she feels the need to talk about. My daughter has figured out that boys are taking interest in her looks which I think is making her head swell but I'm always reminding her that there are boys out there that only have a one track mind for sex. While I'm giving her a little more freedom, I'm still the snooping parent behind the scenes just so I can keep her honest. I will always check up on her no matter what she does. I don't want anything to happen to her.....just the same as you. So, when she does tell you somethings, try not to sound so dramatic about it and she might open up more. It's hard but you have to listen without responding. It's your reaction to things she tells you that makes her clam up. She sounds like she doesn't want to disappoint you in anyway but she's afraid to say anything b/c your always telling her about the worry sides. I have found that my daughter will tell her step-father more detail things than me. Only b/c she already knows what I'll say without having to say anything. So, she confides in him and he'll tell me but I won't let her know that I know all about it.
Your daughter is trying to find her own way in life and she's afraid to hurt you or disappoint you. She obviously loves and cares for you so much but sometimes we have to take a step back to watch them grow. It's very hard to have this kind of patience but I feel it's the only way with my daughter. Good luck to you.....I hope this info helps. ↑ |
| when your 13yr old does something good tell her and reward her, when she does not punish her its that easy, she is still young enough to be spanked, im 17 and thats how my mother makes me behave, praise me when I do good and spank me when I don't ↑ |
