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Name: kimmee
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Wow! I'm so glad I stumbled across this website....sounds like alot of good people with alot of good advise and support to offer!
i recently moved out from my boyfriend/fiancees home, and took our 15 month old daughter with me. Its been a financial struggle because I've been a stay at home mom since she was born(and loved it!) but was not appreciated at all. He wanted me to get a real job, as he put it. He hated working so much and accused me of "hogging" the baby, since I never went anywhere without her,and loved that as well. I didn't feel the need to have my own time. But we split because he was unhappy because I wouldn't go get a job and he felt my older daughter(his step daughter)was disrespectful to him, so he decided to go have an affair with a woman he works with! It took only 2 months before I figured it out, but after staying and trying to work things out for 2 months, I found out he was still seeing her, so I left him. We haven't filed a custody agreement through the courts, and he doesn't want to. He said he will not settle for any less than 50/50. Its been a month now and 50/50 is killing me....I miss my baby so much when I don't have her. I hate him for taking her from me. He gives me NO $$ for support, but says to let him know what I need for her and he'll go buy it. He is very controlling. He tells me to go get a job, but I haven't yet. I started classes for a associates degree in Early Childhood Education because I love children so much. Any advise for me on how to deal with my situation? Anyone have any comments or support?
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Name: Lory | Date: May 10th, 2007 8:28 PM
Hello kimmee,
First off...I'm sorry for your situation and what is happening to and your children. Sometimes 50/50 is not always in the best interest of you, or raising your child. If he claims he works too much, then he does not realize the responsiblity of taking care of children. He sounds very selfish! You really need to get a support and custody order taken care of a.s.a.p. or he will continue to try to control you using your child to do it!
Kudos to you for starting classes, it will be hard but...it will help for you and your children's future. Best of Luck to you! 

Name: kimmee | Date: May 12th, 2007 3:37 AM
Thanks for the kind words of support. Its really been hard....I just want to do whats best for my little one. I don't want to keep her from her dad, but on the other hand, I think she could have a little bit better role model than a selfish, sneaky, cheater like him. I just want to be fair to HER. Even if its sacrificing my own feelings....thats what moms do.....we'd give up anything and everything for our childrens well being and happiness. Too bad her daddy couldn't be that way.....it totally breaks my heart. I don't feel bad at all for myself...its the baby....she didn't deserve to be brought into this world only to be torn between 2 parents....I really wanted her to have a happy childhood like I had w/ my parents in one home with me and my 4 sisters. My dad worked and my mom stayed home and raised us.....we weren't rich, my parents sacrificed, and I think thats why my sisters and I are grateful and caring people. But, thanks again. I need as many words of encouragement I can get....it keeps me going....... 

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