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Name: sidesmile
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i feel real bad awful...is this world that crazy? I begged my boyfriend to come home after he did not talk to me for almost a year. I cryed everyday we have two kids. He came home one month latter ...he said he had 4 long realship going while he was gone...he moved in...now he wants us to be swingers . I just wanted him to love me in a old fashion way...I am sad I dont want him to leave because he does not hit me or call me names. He just wants his time to go where ever or he will leave. Yes all my other realship were bad hitting ...abuse since childhood. So this is better but why do I still cry ? Why should I not be void of feeling after all I been through? I try...but I cant be hard I cry. Hes out now said he be home in a couple days.
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Name: ann | Date: Jul 30th, 2008 9:53 PM
Honey, he may not abuse you physically but he sure is mentally!! He knows it hurts you that bad but he does not CARE. You really need to set down and take a long hard look and say what is it that I want in a man???? My deal was this...he had to go to Church like me, work like me, no drug or drinking and it was not gonna be about money but about the kind of person he was to me and my kids. Guess what 7 yrs later I am married to the most wonderful man in the world that loves me and puts me and my kids first!!! You cannot change anyone and he will only continue on... If I can help let me know 

Name: IVETTE | Date: Aug 2nd, 2008 6:38 AM
Relationships like yours, are not healthy.I should know I have one myself. I have been married for 19 years and my husband does not hit me, but mentally and emotionally he abuses me. i would think that you must feel like i did years ago. I thought that he was to good for me and that i should put up with his way of being becuase he loved me. But in reality he is not better then me. In all the years that I have been with him, I was a wife and mother. I could care of my children whom now are young adults in college, I cleaned, feed the kids, took care of all his needs. I was a housewife. But in the past 10 years, I have started working in a good company and made more money then he did. Now I know that he is no better then me. I could be a mother a wife and now a self dependt women with a high paying and high position in a company very well known. But that doesn't keep me from loving him. He is the same none caring, man that I have been for years, I understand now that I am not the problem he is. I cryed myself to sleep every night but not anymore. I know that he doesn't feel anything for me becuase he barely touches me and when he does it is to satisfied himself. I understand that it is hard to let go. Becuase I am in the same boat, but you should say no more crying do you want your kids to see that type of relationship and think that is the way a relationship should be held. One think that makes your relationship different then mine, is that my husband has never cheated on me and he doesn't go out just to his mothers house, also he loves my children like they are his he has always been here for them. Now that my kids are old they love him like a father and respect him like one. I really think i will put up with that situation becuase of my kids, doen't get me wrong i love the men to death, and i wounder what would i do without him, that might be the reason why i just put up with the situation He is a hard working man, works at company that everyone knows me and he know better then to mess around. I guess that I pray to God , that one day he changes and starts acting like he really loves me and cares for me. Becuase a women could just put up with so much. Maybe i am not the best person to give you advice, but let him go he is just a boyfriend and he doesn't seem to be committed to the relationship. Think about your kids, they cannot see their mother in that state of mind. Like I said before they are going to grow up that it is okay to have a relationship like that, especially if they are girls they will follow your lead. As a mother i don't think that you want to hurt your children in that way. I hope that you could get control of your life and find yourself a man that will love the way that you want him to and your kids whom are the most important thing in any womens life.=== Good luck. If anyone will agree with me it will be nice see their opinions. 

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