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I'm currently a SAHM to my 15-week-old son. I was going to return to work when he was 6-months-old, but I'm now considering staying at home with him until he's 1-year-old, as I don't feel I'm ready to be separated from him for long periods of time yet ... He's still so small and vulnerable. Still, while I love to be with my baby, I feel lonely and bored being a SAHM. My life seems to be solely about cleaning the house, doing laundry, walking my dogs, and taking care of my son. I miss having a laugh with colleagues, challenges in work, or having something to talk about to my fiancé apart from how my day at home was, and well there's so little to say that he doesn't even ask hw my days are. Don't get me wrong! I LOVE being with my son. I'm just wondering, is any woman completely happy and content in life being a SAHM? ↓
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| Name: briseis | Date: Dec 29th, 2007 1:12 AM |
| And please! I'm only speaking from my own experience on this one, and I'm possibly doing something wrong. If you are a happy SAHM, then all power to you. I guess I'm looking advice is all ... ↑ |
| Name: Randi | Date: Dec 29th, 2007 2:58 AM |
Try and make new friends with babies the same age. I have a few moms who all have kids born within 2 weeks of Kaden. It's nice to get together and let them play or talk to someone else who is going through the same things at the same time. Being a SAHM can be boring or repetitive, but I would rather have that than someone else raise my son. I wanted to be there for the first smile, first laugh, steps, words etc.
I think it's hard to be 100% content with your life no matter what you are doing. You might go back to work and be happy to have that other life, but I would bet anything that ALL day you will be thinking about Joey, wondering if he is ok and missing you as much as you miss him.
I would try joining a mom and tots group or taking a class with your baby. ↑ |
| Name: NIKKIS | Date: Dec 29th, 2007 4:28 AM |
| What I do to not be bored is I do a work from home business that allows me to talk with other women on a daily basis. It's great because I work right alongside Brooke screaming, eating, or pooping her diaper. It's very easy and it has definitely helped with the bored factor. ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Dec 29th, 2007 5:47 AM |
I personally dont like it, im a get up and go person, and i always have to be doing some thing productive, and i love being out doors, being a SAHM is boring to me and im slick of laundry and cleaning.
well i guess im half SAHM lol because i have a part time job, but it only gives me about a 4-6 hr break from tyler and then i have him all day and night and then i get up the next day and do it all again.
Chris works form 6PM to 4AM every morning and then i work form 6AM till around 10AM so from then on out i have him all night nee less to say, im exhausted and Tyler still doesnt sleep through the night! :( ↑ |
| Name: chicksy | Date: Dec 29th, 2007 6:01 AM |
| Being a SAHM has its advantages and disadvantages. Ive been a SAHM for 10 months and as much as I would like to go out there and work, it kills me to think of my son being in daycare. I havent missed any of his firsts and its a joy to be able to see them. But, I must say that it is VERY boring and sometimes even depressing being at home especially when your baby is clingy and screams for what he/she wants. ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Dec 29th, 2007 3:07 PM |
| I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE being a SAHM. LOVE LOVE IT!! I wouldn't have it any other way. I don't mind doing the laundry, etc, as long as I can be the one to soley take care of my baby, along with hubby, of course in the evenings and weekends. He is currently 16 months old, and I love playing with him , chasing him around, taking him places, going on walks and to the park when its nice, etc. I do have to admit, I didn't like it one bit the first 4-6 mos. It was a huge adjustment for me, I had SEVERE postpartum depression, breastfeeding was a NIGHTMARE, etc. Those first few months were BAD. After he started sleeping through the night, and I figured out that I didn't have to be perfect, and the depression got taken care of, it got MUCH better. I was used to doing what I wanted, when I wanted, how I wanted, and NOTHING really ever got in the way. Then one day, this kid got dropped in my lap, and it was like, "OK, fun over." I think that was my biggest challenge. That and no sleep! Hang in there, maybe you'll feel differently later. ↑ |
| Name: Double_K | Date: Dec 29th, 2007 3:20 PM |
| I'm having a hard time adjusting too. I worked up untill I popped with kaden, then I went back to work when he was about 3 months old (my husbands mom watched him)...then lost my job almost 2 months ago and I've been SAHM since. I LOVE being with him...its just the daily grind around the house is a little boring....unchallenging. I think I'm going to look into a part time job. I think it will get better when he is a little older and it gets warmer....can do more outdoor activities. ↑ |
| Name: LindsayK | Date: Dec 29th, 2007 4:02 PM |
| I'm happy being a SAHM, but I do get bored of the housework often. However, I just remind myself that if I was working, the housework would still be here, I'd just have less time to do it! I love being at home with my daughter though. She keeps me very busy, but I couldn't imagine putting her in daycare. She's very attached to her mommy! ↑ |
| Name: PColaC | Date: Oct 29th, 2008 2:41 PM |
I think your feelings a completely normal, especially for a new mom who left work and is now adjusting to being a SAHM and kind of cut off from the real world. I had a hard time with it as well so I started researching WAH. I started with a wonderful company of women who have really turned out to be my friends!! I am posting the link that helped me find them so that you can visit and learn more if you think that could help. But no matter what you do remember being there with your babies is giving them the best start. Believe me it hurts when someone ELSE tells you about your babies first step or word....
http://www.wahmjobfinder.com/prosper ↑ |
| Name: zoey9810 | Date: Oct 29th, 2008 7:37 PM |
| LOL I was about to say Gill you changed your user name back LMAO!! then I saw that it said 15 WEEK old son LOL hahah ↑ |
| Name: Joeys_Mam | Date: Oct 30th, 2008 3:58 PM |
| Haha! And here I am, 10 months later, and STILL a SAHM. And but I'm a happier one. :) ↑ |
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