|
Well I'm having a little boy obviously, I live in Australia and i havent talked to my midwife or doctor about this procedure as of yet. The childs father is american, and lives there and not apart of the childs life, but he did mention i should have him circumsized. I have no idea what to do? I wouldnt be doing it for religious reasons, only i guess it would be more socially acceptable when he is older. I know its only added stress on his tiny body...but i would like to know what you all think ↓
|
|
| Name: vane20 | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 10:37 PM |
Hey 13ithcy 13unny
well, i have a 22 month old son and he is not cirucmsized. i wasnt with his father when he was born and i didnt give it much thought. my sister in law and her sister have both cirucmsized their boys.my baby's father (we're together now) is circumsized, but has never asked me why i didnt do it to our son.
my other sister in law tells me i could still do it, but i wont put my little boy through that pain, especially since hes a little bit older
i guess sometimes i wish i had done it, like you said, for social reasons, but i know of some guys who are not and they never had any problems. i guess if you decide to not do it, you wont be the only one. i believe about 85% of boys are cicumsized at birth. ↑ |
| Name: Tariece | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 10:53 PM |
| I'm having a boy and he will most definitely be circumsized, I live in american and men who are not circumsized are always second guess, you have to worry about infection and keeping that area clean. I believe no little boy should go without having it done. ↑ |
| Name: Tariece | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 10:55 PM |
| And it's much more painful if you wait to get it done when he's older you have to think of his social life later. ↑ |
| Name: rowe_leah | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 11:26 PM |
| I live in Australia and are having a boy.the midwife told me that after hes born to get a referal off the doctor at the hospital to get it done.there are not many places that will do it now but the hospital will be able to tell you who does.it costs a couple of hundred and youl get some back from medicare.they like to do it within the first 6 months of him being born too.hope that helps you a bit. ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 11:45 PM |
hi i am from new zealand my culture does not circumcise unless through nesscessity (medical reasons) i have 5 boys and 2 stepsons none of which were circumcised. i sort of thought that its there for a reason (like dogs that a born with a tail but people cut it off for looks) My husband is circumcised and it didnt bother him that i didnt want my kids to go through it. i have friends who have and some who havent had their boys done, but all have healthy kids who have never had any medical problems and alot of them have wifes and girlfriends i would also think dont have i problem with it. The choice is yours. The babies father or his background, if he is not going to be a part of your lives should not be a factor, but on saying that, if my husband had pushed for circumcision and had a viable argument i may had changed my mind. i know that all my friends were in the same boat as they were not questioned by boyfriends or husbands about their decision. Maybe its more relaxed down under or because down here the procedure is considered a cosmetic procedure and you have to pay for it?
goodluck ↑ |
| Name: ambernkenny | Date: Oct 10th, 2006 12:32 AM |
| my bf and i chose to have our son circumsized when he was born mainly due to the fact that it can be more sanitary and we dont have to worry about him having any problems down the road...my bf was also circumsized,and he pretty much left the decision up to me,it didnt take long at all for dakota to heal up either,so all in all im glad we had it done right there at the hospital when he was born. ↑ |
| Name: tylersmom06 | Date: Oct 10th, 2006 1:23 AM |
| I would have had my son circumsised but he was born with a birth defect called Hypospadius.. and it had to be corrected with surgery.. but I would have went ahead and done it.. at least he is now and he will never remember! ↑ |
| Name: daisyusa | Date: Oct 10th, 2006 2:56 AM |
| I have 2 boys and 1 is and 1 isn't. My husband isn't circumsized and it looks just like one that has been circumsized to me because his skin is just back all the time. As far as cleaning, you just teach them how to clean properly. I can't believe I'm discussing my husbands parts. I wonder what he would think if he knew. ha ha ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Oct 10th, 2006 9:40 AM |
| well thanks! its certainly given me a few things to think about. I have a exam tommorow where i have to have that RH negetive shot for my 28th week, i guess then i can talk to my midwife about there procedures and policies. ↑ |
| Name: AnnD | Date: Oct 10th, 2006 12:57 PM |
| I'm not having a boy, but if I were I would go ahead and have it done. My best friends' little brother wasn't circumsized after he was born. And when he was 13, he began having problems (I have no idea what kind) and had to have it done then. I can't imagine the fear he felt at that age knowing he was going to go in and have that done. I have also heard that men who haven't been circumsized have a higer risk of developing problems later in life (don't know if that's true or not). At the hospital, you can ask to talk to a pediatrician about the procedure and the benefits and the drawbacks. From my understanding, the pediatrician would be the doc to circumsize him. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Oct 10th, 2006 1:47 PM |
| I never really gave it any thought when I had my son. It is just so common here for men to be circumsised. I do remember feeling very very bad for him when it was over. the first time he wet him self after it was done he screamed so loud I knew that it was very painful for him. I know that they don't even numb it first the dr said that it was more painfil to have it numbed then to just cut it off real fast. I am sure that he wouldn't have felt that way if someone was snipping at his penis. When you think about it though it is not like it is really necessary unless you do or do not do it for religious reasons. It is just the norm here I guess. If you do decied to do it be sure to do it right away though. ↑ |
| Name: mom2two | Date: Oct 10th, 2006 3:34 PM |
| My husband and I are trying to decide on whether or not to circumcise as well. So far the benefits of doing it are - socially it's more common ( I did ask my little sisters football player friends and they said it didn't matter in the locker room), it is cleaner if your not a clean family it is a good idea, other wise it isn't a huge deal in the cleanliness aspect and if the dad is, the little kid might like "being like daddy". The benefit of not doing it is - he doesn't have to have his winkie cut on and it is more pleasurable for both he and his wife down the road ( I don't personally know if one is more so than the other it's just what i've read). So the sex thing for me is the biggest thing because none of the others really had as much weight in my book. We're still trying to decided though! Good luck to you on your decision. ↑ |
| Name: nicole jones1 | Date: Oct 10th, 2006 3:45 PM |
If I'm having a boy then I will definitly get my son done. I also have no religous conviction towards or against it - but I am a relativly young mom, and I know what the social ramifications of not having it done can be. Many people say it doesn't make a difference, that nobody will know, or nobody will care. Truth is that they will know and they will care. At about junior high age (sad to say) it actually does become a topic of discussion around school about which guys don't have it done - and that's not an added stress I'd want to put on my son. I'm sure nothing to terrible would happen if they didn't have it done, but for me it's just a small procedure that will heal and be forgotten about in a couple of weeks and if it could possibly save him some emotional turmoil or possible a painful surgery later in life if he decides he really needs it done. I'm definitly not saying that it is right that someone would be singled out over something so trivial - that doesn't really make a difference when it comes down to brass tacks - but it happens none the less.
I actually know a guy that was circumsized when he was 15 because the highschool locker room gossip was to much for him. He said that it was horrible and he wished his parents had thought about it when he was an infant so he wouldn't have had the painful memories or embarassing experience. ↑ |
| Name: marija | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 5:27 PM |
| wow i didnt realise what a huge issue it is for young boys in the US i know its not a great issue here in Australia and thats probably because boys arent exposed at high school.(they dont have locker rooms with showers) and alot of the new highschools have separate toilets and not urinals. So boys arent as exposed to other boys...which would logically follow...you cant pick on something you dont know about. ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 5:35 PM |
| I think it's a good thing. I had my son circumcised when he was born. The doctor said that it's healthier to have it done because the excess skin can harbor bacteria and infection can occur if it isn't done. ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 5:36 PM |
I have not had my son done and i wont be either god made him that way so that is how he should be!
In the uk not many men have had this done it is not such a big thing! ↑ |
| Name: Kristy84 | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 6:23 PM |
| I personally think that it's ultimitely the family's decision, but I think this is one subject that the father has more of a say in, if the father is in the picture. I would have my son circumsized b/c most men say they are happy it was done, but I've also heard that men who are uncircumsized have much more sexual sensation...the foreskin is supposed to be extremely sensitive. There are even procedures nowadays that are like a circumsicion reversal:) Yeah it's natural, and if you keep it clean there's not much risk of infection, but here in the states there is a big stigma attached to being uncircumsized. ↑ |
| Name: jillw | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 6:29 PM |
| Ehen you think about it though the only time you can tell a huge difference is when the penis is limp, and in all honesty how many people are going to see that to be able to make fun of him. As I said my son is circuncised, but I never gave it much thought. I think as an adult woman it wouldn't matter much to me if my husband were or were not. ↑ |
| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 7:15 PM |
| When my son was born I did get him circumcised, not for religion reasons. I actually decided on doing it after one of my birthing classes where they had showed pictures of what an uncircumcised penis looked liked. To me personally it just looked odd. Plus my husband insisted on getting done. As for pain my son never cried when the procedure was done or even after. Infact he slept through the entire thing. ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 10:01 PM |
| Well i talked to my midwife yesterday about it. They dont do it at the hospital when he is born, but there are 2 doctors clinics in my area that do it. She just reccomended that it be done straight away after birth. I thought it would be more of a issue for them to do it here, in australia. Because like marija said in Aussie boys at school arnt in open locker or bathrooms. So there are no teasing etc. So ive decided to get it done anyway..considering he is half american..and it was a request by the father, and i think he would know more about this then i would. So thanks everyone for your opions and advice :) ↑ |
| Name: connie | Date: Oct 11th, 2006 10:48 PM |
| How much does everyone pay? I know it will cost me $125.00 ↑ |
| Name: Tariece | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 2:48 AM |
| It's covered by my insurance here, I can't believe you guys have to pay for it to be done. ↑ |
| Name: connie | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 2:51 AM |
| I live in Calgary-Canada. I know other citys you don't have too but I guess it's hard to find a doctor that will do it here. Oh well we have great health coverage beside that. ↑ |
| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 4:39 AM |
| I'm not having a boy this time around but if I was it would cost me $47.50 ↑ |
| Name: christiansmommy | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 4:55 AM |
| THAT PROCEDURE HAS COME A LONG WAY NOW, SO THEY REALLY DON'T FEEL IT BUT FOR A SPLIT SECOND. BY THE TIME THE DOCTORS BRING HIM TO YOUR ROOM (ONLY A FEW MOMENTS LATER), HE IS ALREADY FAST ASLEEP! ITS BETTER TO DO IT NOW THAN LATER. TRUST ME! ↑ |
| Name: lana_81 | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 8:16 AM |
| Hi, Iam 24 weeks pregnant with a boy and I have a 3 year old that was circumsised, I think its so much cleaner and tidier when they are done. Now days its not as easy to find a Doctor that will do the procedure but ask around. My boy cried more having needles than getting his doodle done and it only took 7 days and was all healed. Each to there own but I totaly agree with having it done.. Good luck and whatever you do its YOUR decision...Lana ↑ |
| Name: lana_81 | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 8:18 AM |
| I live in Australia and it cost $180 with $90 rebate from medicare that was in 2003, my sister had her boy done this week in Brisbane and it cost $450 and she got only $90 back. Its worth it though! ↑ |
| Name: lana_81 | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 8:20 AM |
| I thought Doctors have found a link between uncicumsised men and womans cervical problems becasue of there doodles not being cleaned properly.Does anyone know?? Be interesting to find out! ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 9:45 PM |
| I'm pretty sure that i heard the same thing about cervical problems. I'm going to ring the 2 doctor surgerys today to get a price on it with the medicare rebate. I will let you guys know then! ↑ |
| Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Oct 13th, 2006 11:22 AM |
| That shouldn't be necessary if you teach your son to clean underneath his foreskin properly. I don't agree with circumcision unless it's for medical reasons. It makes the penis less sensitive in later life. ↑ |
| Name: jamcarant | Date: Oct 14th, 2006 4:27 AM |
My son Anthony has a circumsision ring on his thing tat he got on there when he was 2 days old. they said it will come off in a week or 2. my son Jamie was a premie and they wouldn't do it at birth. he is going to columbus in a couple of weeks to talk about doing it now (he's 3). he only had half of his foreskin anyway, so i don't think it will be that bad.
if you do it at birth, they won't remember it so it shouldn't be that bad. ↑ |
|
|
