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Name: CarrieAnn123
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Hi I'm 3 and just found out i was pregnant last week. I'm completely petrified- dont know if i want kids at all. I always thought i did and that i was ready but now that im pregnant i dont know if i can handle it. i have a demanding stressful job, am on some meds i will need to come off and just dont know if i can handle the pregnancy! or having a baby for that matter. any advice?
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Name: CarrieAnn123 | Date: May 10th, 2010 10:44 PM
Sorry I am 33 years old 

Name: annasia | Date: May 17th, 2010 1:52 PM
i dont think you should kill the baby people cant have bai will take itbies and want babies 

Name: jul | Date: May 18th, 2010 3:18 PM
hello i agree with annasia about not having an abortion. i had a friend growing up that had one and she regreted it ever since. i aslo have a friend that gave 2 babies up for adoption and she knows that was the best thing she could have done for them , they are in loving families that couldn't have children.
she recieves letters and photos of them.
yes there are alot of people out there that would love to adopt. i have met alot myself.
i have been doing research into adoption for along time . i was blessed with a beautiful little girl and when she was 2yrs i lost triplets and haven''t been able to get pregnant since and she is 8yrs now. i know from personal experiance that loosing a baby no matter how far along you are is a very hard thing to deal with and you never forget and you always wonder what they would have been like. well i hope this helps. 

Name: iloveweather06 | Date: May 25th, 2010 7:19 AM
There are so many different options out there when you become pregnant. If you dont want to keep the baby, while I dont agree with Abortion, I do believe that you have every right to do what you want with your body. There are many adoption possibilities as well- you could give the child up for adoption without ever knowing where and to whom it went to, or you could look for an adoption agency who deals with open adoptions- and open adoption is where you and the adopting family remain in touch, and you can still see and or visit the child throughout life. Try discussing with your doctor all the different alternatives, what to expect while pregnant as well as what's going to happen to you when you go off your certain medications. No woman thinks she can handle pregnancy, but as a fellow female I know all women are mentally and emotionally strong. Also, discuss what you are feeling with the child's father - perhaps he wants to keep the child- but still remember, no matter what anyone says - it is your body and your baby. You choose to do as you wish. 

Name: xbekix | Date: May 25th, 2010 9:51 AM
When u find out ur pregnant u go thro every emotion imaginable. Im 6 weeks pregnant, i have everything going well for me at the moment and i always believed a child would complete everything. The minute the PREGNANT sign appeared on the test i was petrified, every emotion went thro me, and im currently on lots of medication at the moment as i have just been diagnosed with crohn's disease, i panicked this medication would harm the baby, or if i stopped taking them i wud become ill again, i realised im not ready, but r we ever ready for something so life changing, we just have to adjust to it. I believe this happens for a reason, and i would never judge u if u realised ur not suitable to b a mum sometimes its not fair to bring a baby into this world if u cant afford it, dont have the time, patience, theres lots of factors. Just remember ur 33 u dont have long left b4 it becomes harder for u to have kids. Think logically but only u cant decide, i wish u the best of luck with ur decision. 

Name: Jana Hill | Date: May 25th, 2010 4:02 PM
Hi CarriesAnn123,

I really just wanted to share a poem with you from a book I read. When I got pregnant, I didn't really have time for a baby, I was not with the father and I just plan didn't want kids. I went through my options and a friend girl of mine gave me this book to read. Here's the poem';

"I Forgive You
I am the essence of the baby whose life was terminated before my life within the world could begin. How do I feel as I sit with my heavenly Father and stare down at you from above? I feel nothing for you but joy and love, for even for a moment in time you were my mother. My very existence touched you in some way and I live within your thoughts of me each and every day. I beat with the rhythm of your heart, my blood still flows through your veins and regardless of your decision my love for you is still the same and will forever remain. You can feel me throughout because I pray over everything you do, and in the midnight hour you sense peace within, because I forgive you. ~ The Soul of an Aborted Baby"

The author is neither pro-choice or pro-life, she is more pro-you. I did keep my baby and everything kind of worked itself out. I can't tell you to keep or abort your baby, just make a choice that is both heart felt and unselfish. 


Name: angela rose | Date: Jan 26th, 2011 10:11 PM
Hi CarrieAnn, I feel your pain. Have you considered Adoption? I've heard the new parents will pay for all your expenses sometimes and other things too. There are many couples that can't have children and are very lonely for a child. I also know some adopted friends who are very happy they were adopted and are in touch with their birth mothers as they grew up. You might want to consider it. I will keep you in my prayers. 

Name: cjsims | Date: Mar 10th, 2011 9:41 PM
i'm 26 prego w my 3rd. you're 33, and sound selfish. Don't chop the kid up cause you made a decision to have sex. not that baby's fault. Do adoption if you really don't think you can handle it. Seriously. This society needs to get over themselves, and look at the big picture. 

Name: cjsims | Date: Mar 10th, 2011 9:44 PM
Also, that poem above is disgusting. All a ploy to make people who have chopped up their babies feel better. Abortion doesn't end motherhood, it makes you the mother of a dead baby. Geez 

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