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i am 30 weeks pregnant and hate my lil girl i cant stand her i love her but we just dont get along can some one help. ↓
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| Name: aliaa | Date: Jun 19th, 2006 9:46 PM |
| think that she is ur own daughter,,,she has no one in the world but you,,,,if anyone hurted her she will scream by calling you momy,,,,think if anyhting happened her,,,u will be happy? ↑ |
| Name: Sarah M | Date: Jun 19th, 2006 10:00 PM |
| I would maybe get some help with a therapist or something because their should m\be no reason to hate your child I understand getting frusterated now and again but there is something that needs to be done if you feel this way. ↑ |
| Name: momat14 | Date: Jun 19th, 2006 11:33 PM |
| Name: lbarnwell | Date: Jun 20th, 2006 1:26 AM |
| You need to get some help for that before you do something you will regret. You will be glad you did it later on down the road. It probably has something to do with hormones and all that fun stuff. ↑ |
| Name: S.M.B. | Date: Jun 21st, 2006 3:11 PM |
| Maybe you should read some stories about the couples that are haveng a hard time adopting a child because for whatever reasons they can't get pregnant. You need to realize how blessed you are. Seek help immediately, post-patum depression can last days, months, even years and it's a terrible thing to go through, that may be your case. Children don't ask to come into this cruel world, and it's moms job to raise them with love, discipline, and respect. Alot of women go through this, you are not a bad person, but you need to see a doctor for proffesional advice and help for your situation and feelings. And "we just don't get along" , to say that about a child is not right, please seek help, you are her guide. ↑ |
| Name: soontobe6 | Date: Jun 21st, 2006 3:31 PM |
| my girl acts like me sometime sit drives me nuts but i love her ↑ |
| Name: EthansMom0213 | Date: Jun 21st, 2006 7:05 PM |
| I would definately talk to someone. I had post postpartum depression with my first child and was told that my chances of having it this time around is highly likely. Infact, I was told that should anytime I have any sort of feeling of wanting to hurt myself or my family I should let them know because they can give me something that will be okay to use during pregnancy, if not the last month they will start me on something just o prevent it from happening. ↑ |
| Name: mom247 | Date: Aug 8th, 2006 3:22 AM |
| i dont think hate is the appropriate word being 2 is a very trying age and just think when they are good time flys when they are bad time stands still you her mother her example. You are prob. a little more on edge than you would be normally bcz your preg. but PATIENCE is what you need. good luck! ↑ |
| Name: tylersmom06 | Date: Aug 8th, 2006 4:30 AM |
Hi! First of all I want to say that my heart goes out to you, it must be terrible to feel the way you do. But the good news is that you recognize the feelings you are having! Don't feel like this is your fault many women go through these feelings, just because someone else does not and can not concieve of the way you are feeling does not give them right to judge. You said you love your daughter so get some help and do it for her. You are wonderful for at least asking for advice. Children are trying during this age, its not just you! Try talking to your OB maybe than can refer you to someone who can help or write you a perscription for something that can help you feel better! I wish you the best of luck and I hope things will be better for you soon. You can do it!
Karen ↑ |
| Name: michelleguy | Date: Aug 8th, 2006 9:49 AM |
Hi there,
How old is she? I think people are not understanding properly, depends on the age, I have a son and he is almost 5 now, and they can become so very willfull and stubborn and act like crazy people at times... how old is your daughter? ↑ |
| Name: michelleguy | Date: Aug 8th, 2006 9:52 AM |
Sorry, should learn to read properly!!!! Ja, 2 is difficult, they start trying to exert their will and also are very demanding of your time, perhaps she is feeling threatened by the fact that you are gonna have a baby soon? Maybe you just need to take a time out and let your hubby/b.friend look after the "terror" and you have a break... it is important for you to be selfish at times...
Hope that helps!!! And I totally understand where you are coming from! People are too judgemental!!!! ↑ |
| Name: 7512melissa | Date: Aug 8th, 2006 7:02 PM |
| Tylersmom06 is right. You have taken the first step and have asked for help. This is important, it shows that you love your daughter more than you realize at this particular moment. Please seek help with anyone or anything available. Find support groups, reach out to your ob, read subjects that relate to you and your situation. Do not stop asking or getting help. It is a learning process that everyone goes through on finding what works and what doesn't work for them. Stay focused on the positive. My heart goes out to you as well. Please remember what S.M.B. said about depression, it is terrible to go through and can last a long time. Seek and ye shall find. Never give up and please remember that your two year old does love you. ↑ |
| Name: mommyx2 | Date: Aug 9th, 2006 4:55 PM |
| I know how your're feeling, my son is 17 months. I don't hate my son but there are times when he tries me just a little too much and I just step away from the situation and my fiance takes care of him. I would NEVER think of hurting him but sometimes I have to just put him in his room and take a few breaths. I know it's not his fault I am pregnant again so I try to be patient. It does take a lot of will power. Good luck! ↑ |
| Name: JennW | Date: Aug 9th, 2006 6:20 PM |
| I'm carrying my first child right now, so i don't have another child around right now driving me crazy. but i do know where you are coming from. i find that i really don't like alot of people right now. people that i really love but just can't stand while i'm pregnant and don't know why. ↑ |
| Name: sally24 | Date: Aug 11th, 2006 2:31 PM |
| First you are not going to get along with your two year old she is two she is at that magical age were she is testing her boundries and her world , no may be her favorite word just to get a rise out of you , you need to be the parent and be the strong one if she hates you oh-well this to will pass , thats the tough part of being a parent , this is not the first time you will have to be stern and have your daughter hate you , it will be like the twos all over again when she is a teenager. Now if it is some sort of feeling that just comes that you feel you can't control it could be something else going on and maybe talk to your doctor and see what help she or he can provide you with. ↑ |
| Name: Sarah M | Date: Aug 11th, 2006 3:46 PM |
| I remember this post forever ago its old lol the girl never even resoponded when we did try and help her so I dont know what to say but its kinda usless now unless someone else is feeling the same way then by all means keep posting help and what not ↑ |
| Name: lucarvm | Date: Aug 12th, 2006 3:18 PM |
| Wow, hate is a strong emotion and word, I know it must be hard at times for you with a 2 year year old (terrible 2's), however it's all about the love in this world and there's no greater love than the love for a child. I'm not saying you can't feel frustrated and angry at times, but sit down with yourself and yourself why you feel hate for this precious little girl of yours? Remember children learn by example from thier parents. What is it that you or your partner are teaching her that she is acting in such a way that you cannot handle? She didn't learn this behavoir that you hate all on her own. Be patient, understanding, compassionate but firm with her. Good luck. ↑ |
| Name: lucarvm | Date: Aug 12th, 2006 3:19 PM |
| oh!! just saw Sarah's post...oooops! thx ↑ |
| Name: momto3 | Date: Dec 6th, 2007 3:35 AM |
| ok number one get help, because you need it, you hate your daughter thats disturbing not to mention wrong, and ur pregnant, i have 3 kids and love them to death. please get help...because thats the sickest not to mention most immature any parent could say. ↑ |
| Name: cjsims | Date: Dec 6th, 2007 5:17 AM |
| Get counseling if you hate your child. That is not a good situation to be in. ↑ |
| Name: kimber | Date: Dec 6th, 2007 3:33 PM |
| It is just your hormones being pregnant right now, trust me. You are tired of being prego. and having someone needy just makes things worse. Really explore why you feel this way. Just remember that all children go through stages and just because she gets on your nerves now doesn't mean this stage will last forever. Just watch your temper, if worse comes to worse then lock her in her room until you cool off. Try to get someone to watch her when the new baby comes along, so that you can catch up on your sleep. Sleep makes a big difference in how much we can handle. ↑ |
| Name: kimber | Date: Dec 6th, 2007 3:38 PM |
| If you continue to feel this way and the same toward the next child, then maybe you should stop having children. It doesn't make you a bad women, some women just can't handle the stress. But, be careful, cause if you already feel this way, you are at a higher risk for developing post-partum depression (may need medication). Is there anyone that can give you a break from her right now? ↑ |
| Name: kimber | Date: Dec 6th, 2007 3:40 PM |
| I just noticed how old this post is. I wonder how things turned out. ↑ |
| Name: Sonya1978 | Date: Nov 30th, 2009 7:24 PM |
Hey,
I'm 31, pregnant (37 weeks) and am sitting at my computer at 3am after putting my irritating 2-year-old to bed...again. She has been getting up throughout the night for months and then has the cheek to wake up early. I feel frustrated and angry and tried, and a little nervous that I'll have two people to contend with through the night soon. You are not alone. You are not doing anything wrong. Lots of things are happening to you hormonally at the minute as with me, and I'm beginning to think that he/she is more in tune with this than we think. She's going through changes and "things" too. Toilet training, moving house, new environment, mum's moods...whatever they may be. Hang in there. We love them after all. It'll pass. ↑ |
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