I just want to know that I am not alone I guess... I have lost sex drive, and lost it at around 6 weeks when I was sick. We have had it minimal times since I was pregnant, a lot in the first 2 weeks and then ZIP! I have had it once in the last 5 weeks and it annoys the skin at the back of my vagina and it cuts a bit and bleeds lightly (think of the stitches when bub is born). I know it is safe, but I still think of bub. I have NO SEX DRIVE. Dh is a little sad as he is really turned on by me, but I am not even wet. (Sorry if TMI)
How have you sex lives been during pregnancy?
Am I selfish for not 'putting out" in sympathy for him? ↓
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| Name: NIKKIS | Date: Sep 25th, 2007 2:29 PM |
i lost my sex drive until i hit my second tri, then after about a month i lost it again and it has yet to come back (Brooke is almost 4 months old) so it is completely normal.
as for the dryness many women feel dry and others are the oppisite, they are super wet, so just get some lube where that is concerned.
sex was very painful for me while i was pregnant, it just hurt me sooo bad. also remember that the two of you were having a lot of sex trying to make a baby so this is kinda a break for you.
all in all it is completely normal, you are not a freak :) ↑ |
| Name: automansgirl | Date: Sep 25th, 2007 2:39 PM |
| My sex drive has been total ups and downs since being pregnant. I don't think I had a sex drive at all during the first trimester. Then I kept waiting for it to come around. It finally did well into the second. There will be times when you just absolutely have to have it, and it will sometimes be disappointing. You are so ready to go, but your body just isn't working with you. Then there will be other times when it is the best you've ever had. Now that I'm in my third it's back to up and down. My biggest problem now is that I am very succeptible to contractions from sperm. My doctor has now "ordered" that we use condoms during intercourse until I reach 37 weeks. The contractions just come too easily for me! Don't feel bad about not giving sympathy sex. Your body is going to continue to change. Hopefully soon you'll get to a point that it doesn't hurt. Just remember that everything is swollen down there, and there is extra blood flow so if you aren't lubricated enough you will very easily get cuts and tears. Just enjoy being pregnant as much as you can, and in the meantime be creative with your sex life. You don't have to have sex all the time, but at least try to make the effort to play a bit when you are in the mood. It will only last for a little while! And feel fortunate that your hubby finds you so sexy right now. Not all women are lucky enough to have that! ↑ |
| Name: automansgirl | Date: Sep 25th, 2007 2:40 PM |
| Also, the more foreplay you have the less it will hurt! ↑ |
| Name: MyTwoBabies | Date: Sep 25th, 2007 5:34 PM |
| I haven't had much of a sex drive for a loong time. i got pregnant again so fast that one time I decided to put out that I hate sex. ↑ |
| Name: ..RoSey.. | Date: Sep 25th, 2007 6:19 PM |
i didnt have a sex drive at all...
and i still didnt even after having the baby..
mine STILL hasnt come back and im 3 months postpardum. ↑ |
| Name: 04nidak | Date: Sep 25th, 2007 9:07 PM |
| I'm so glad that you wrote this post so I know I am not alone. During my first pregnancy, hubby and I had sex all the time. With this pregnancy I am sick from morning to night, my boobs hurt so bad, and it takes everything I have to stay awake and sex is the last thing I want. He's been the same as your hubby, really wanting it and I feel so bad telling him no time after time, I've tried and it hurts sooooo bad for the same reasons you wrote. I've looked it up online and it's completely normal and everything I read said your sex drive should go back up in the second trimester. ↑ |
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