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Name: Astrid
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Is there such a thing as an over-eating disorder? Ever since my daughter started high school, she's gained a significant amount of weight and always seems to be eating. I've tried forcing her onto a diet and even stopped buying junk food. At one point I had nothing but low-fat foods in the house but none of it made any difference. She would just eat an entire tub of low-fat ice cream instead of half a tub of regualr fat ice cream. I've found chips and candy bars and cookies and even fruit hidden all over her bedroom. I've tried talking to her about this but she just gets upset. I don't know what to do. Please help!
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Name: Noelle | Date: Jun 16th, 2005 4:55 PM
I believe that is how my eating disorder started. I would just eat b/c I was bored or depressed. Then one day I got so full that I just threw up. It was that easy. I thought, "hey, you mean I can eat all this food and all I have to do is throw up?" Before I knew it, it had consumed me and I had dropped a lot of weight and I couldn't stop. I wish that I had "nipped it in the butt" when I started over eating. But my therapist told me that this started a long time ago. And after been going through therapy, I've realized that this started back from my childhood and it just a result of what happen to me a very long time ago. When you over eat, you are compensating for something one lost....your daughter probably feels out of control in some way, form or fashion. And she probably doens't even know what is making her feel out of control. It may be a lot deeper of an issue than you think. Get her help....a specialist in the field is the best way to go. Please get her help, so that she doesn't have to battle this. Support her and let her know that no matter what she is feeling you love her unconditionally. My parents have been wonderful. I feel blessed that I have a great support team behind me. My parents started seeing a therapist to "help them be able to help me through this" This is not an easy road, but there is hope. 

Name: Astrid | Date: Jun 16th, 2005 8:36 PM
Thank you so much for your reply Noelle, but I can't help but feel a bit overwhelmed. I was hoping people would come on here and tell me it's a normal adolescent thing and nothing I needed to be worried about (aside from the weight/health issues). Where do I go to get her help? Should I make an appointment with her doctor? Should I talk to her about it? She always gets angry at me when I've tried in the past. I don't know if it's related (could be a "chicken or the egg" thing), but I think/suspect she's getting teased at school because of her weight (I don't know if she eats because she gets teased or if she gets teased becuase of her eating). I just want her to be happy and I feel so lost because I know she's not! 

Name: Myer | Date: Jul 7th, 2005 4:47 AM
I've stuggled with an eating disorder for a couple of years. Over the past six months I've done so much better. I've learned to never let myself get ravenesly hungery. It's much easier to keep it under control if you're not starving. One of my big problems was I would eat very little all day long then come home to make supper and because I was starving eat way to much and throw it up. It's something you have to work at but only you can conquer it. You can conquer it!!!!! 

Name: lily | Date: Jul 23rd, 2005 12:06 AM
lock up the fridge 

Name: leanne | Date: Aug 10th, 2005 9:20 AM
i have an eating disorder i have lost 2 stone in about 4 month though being sick.im 19 years old.im sick of feeling fed up i also keep crying all the time. 

Name: saskia | Date: Aug 27th, 2005 4:11 PM
hi well my names saskia and am 13 and i sometimes make my self sick or dont eat anything all day am 9 stone i think i have went up tho am really unhappy and am really fed up of being fat also i have done everything to lose it but well it aint happen for me and i always get called fat i need help and i want some 1 to talk to plz some 1 reply ? 


Name: Sarah | Date: Sep 27th, 2005 7:03 PM
As a grown woman with a lingering overeating disorder (called compulsive eating -- basically, eating for reasons other than physical hunger, and often too much for the body's needs), I can tell you one thing that made both my eating disorder and my relationship to my mother worsen significantly when I was a teen, the time period when my weight and the disorder became evident: my parents' efforts at controlling my eating. There's nothing worse. Overeating, like undereating, is a way of claiming ownership of one's body and actions, controlling the relationship btw. inside and outside, self and others, often when "regular" methods of control prove less effective or seem insufficient (the first misconception to get around: that anyone can control others' reactions, be approved of by all in the first place, satisfy parents completely, etc).
I say, first and foremost, buy the book "Breaking Free from Emotional Eating" by Geneen Roth (I'm still reading it and will re-read it as soon as I'm done) for YOURSELF. Maybe your daughter will pick it up of her own accord, but don't even mention it to her. In any case, it will help you to be less invasive and get insight into what might be going on for her: it's always emotional and is taking the place of something else, like a frank discussion (w/herself, first) about what she's afraid of, angry about, avoiding, etc. Please don't force anything on her, it will just make things worse and she may end up really resenting you for it for years. Statements of unconditional (TOTALLY, not followed by "if only you'd..." or "but I just wish...") love as well as open invitations to explain to you what she's going thru at this time in her life, promising (and coming thru with) zero judgment, could help. Also know that eating is always body related, and if this came on suddenly, she may have had a negative sexual encounter or abuse. Don't flip out, just try to make her comfortable to talk to you about her life at this time. YOu could start by reflecting on your own adolescence and first sexual feelings and experiences and decide what you'd be able to share with her to start off the dialogue. Good luck. 

Name: Melissa | Date: Dec 31st, 2005 2:58 AM
Wanting to talk to anyone who has ever done through an eating disorder.... I have a few questions!!! 

Name: Lily | Date: Dec 31st, 2005 3:14 AM
That sounds frustrating. I'm not sure what exactly to do, but if I were you one of the things I would do would be to make sure your daughter gets lots of excersize. Maybe sign her up for extra cirricular activites, such as swimming, or track and field, or soccer, (sport are a real work-out.) and then maybe sneak some excersizing in, without her thinking your trying to do this to help her lose wieght. Just go to her and say something like: "Hey honey, I'm going to go for a walk, want to come with me?" And then make the walk about a mile long, (half a mile, then half a mile back home.) Stuff like mother/daughter walks and bike rides are a great way to get some excersize, and even spend some quality time with each other. As for her eating habits, I would suggest keep her from eating stuff with too much fat, (as you have alreay tried.) and too many calories. The less calories, the better. Try packing her lunch yourself for a while with things like fruit, carrots and dip, low fat yogurt, rice cakes and water bottles or juice boxes. Make her get used to eating healthy things, and make a point of saying that foods that are good for you can taste just as good as chocolate and candy. Maybe stop buying ice cream for a while, and make sure she doesn't get hooked on things like starch, (breads, crackers, etc.) Things like that need to be eaten in moderation. Make eating in her bedroom a no, and whenever you see her in the food closet, stop her from eating anything. (my mother always used to do this when i was little.) Tell her you think she's eaten enough for the day, and that she will spoil her regualr meals.
Hope this helps! 

Name: emma | Date: Jan 2nd, 2006 3:50 PM
while i was in high school i weighed 147pounds at my highest, being only 5 feet 2 i was quite over weight - the reason i gained weight was simply through being bored i wouldnt eat breakfast, then id skip lunch through embarresment of eating in front of the 'thin girls' and as soon as i got home at 3.30 id eat 2-3 choc bars my dinner which was often large and then not move all evening i just sit there watching tv. im now 18 and have lost the weight through starving myself basically i now weigh 111pounds yet because of how messed up my body image is i cant see the difference from when i was 147pounds. im incredibly unhappy with myself all i think about is food and whether i look thin, i try and avoid eating meals with people so i dont have 2 eat. iv had 2 years of therapy it helped for a while but now im back 2 binging then starving. you need 2 get your daughter to therapist, hypnotists now. ask her y she eats so much, get her involved in a sport MAKE her be active. set up a strict eating plan 4 her. if she likes cookies allow her 2 instead of a whole pack, just dont let it drift along she will wake up one day and hate her body then develop an eating disorder. u need 2get her proffesional help. my heart nearly stopped because my eating disorder got so bad at 1 point, im very ill and evey1 and everything in my life is suffering. its a awful cycle its a selfish vain illness and it makes u hate yourself. 

Name: laura | Date: Jan 2nd, 2006 9:56 PM
sincce ive come back home ive gained weight and feel depressed aand uncomfortable in myself my stomach hurts and constantly feels bloated i want 2 lose weight fast so i feel better i ave suffered wiv depression and bullimia d only time ive eva bin happy wiv myself was wen i wasthin i want 2 b dat way again i want 2 hate food 

Name: Jennifer | Date: Jan 7th, 2006 3:20 AM
Hello. As someone who has struggled with several types of eating disorders for over 10 years, I would say this is DEFINITLY considered disordered eating. Try to get her in some counciling as most who struggle with this illness are not willing to talk to parents about it. It's most likely emotional issues, trouble at school, or maybe depression. The earlier you act, the better it will be. I would also suggest taking her to a nutristionist. Many times having someone else involved is better for both your realtionship and dealing with the problem. Sorry about the spellling (always been horrible at it :) and good luck! God Bless,
Jenny 

Name: borboleta | Date: Jan 9th, 2006 8:24 AM
my mother tried to force me on diets all the time and that's how i became obsessed with my weight and became anorexic. so i don't know what to tell you. you need to comfront the problem but maybe don't force her to go on a diet. she might be depressed about something. try talking to her more. tell her she's beautiful. i wish my mother had told me that more instead of that i'm fat. 

Name: Bobby | Date: Mar 14th, 2006 4:56 PM
i have a eating disorder and i need help to get better my friends reject me and i don't eat at all i have 15 days without eating anything i need help and i can't go to my parents 

Name: kathie | Date: Mar 14th, 2006 11:53 PM
i have an eating disorder. i need someone to talk to abut it. 

Name: Kris | Date: Mar 15th, 2006 6:28 AM
I'm 16 years old and i suffered from anorexia in 2005. I hit a low of 76 lbs. You can talk to me. E-mail me at [email protected] I would love to help you and talk to you. 

Name: kelly | Date: Apr 4th, 2006 11:55 AM
im 16 and ive been anorexic for about 5months and ive lose alot of weight which is really good.i was 54kg hen i started now im 32kg an im still not happy....ppl say i look sick and im going to die if i don't eat haha whatever....im happy beenin bone skinny and not eating.anorexia is not a bad thing not for me anyway... 

Name: Genie | Date: Apr 14th, 2006 2:13 PM
Hey,
I'm 13 years old. I am anarexic and bulimic. My mom and dad caught me early. So I was only able to loose 20 pounds. I was admitted to the hospital for two weeks. Now i'm on a feeding tube. I just want to be skinny. I can't go any where to get help because I only lost 20 pounds and I way 123 when I use to weight 135. Please help me! 

Name: umm..me | Date: Apr 16th, 2006 5:51 PM
i know from experience ,shes going through a rough time or major chnage in her life most probably stress and its her way of dealing with it dont talk to her about it i know it seems like the worst thing to do but every time u bring it up its just going to upset her and drive her more to food its better to just keep her occupied that will take her mind off of the stress and food hopefully .enroll her in some acticities or take her shopping or just let her do somthing she enjoys that isnt around food you wont see results right away but eventually you will.and i just realised the eating may be from stress of a boy she has a crush on .again dont bring up the subject its the most stressfull thing to even come close to talking with your parents about somthing you really dont want to.. 

Name: Victoria | Date: May 2nd, 2006 3:16 PM
Your kid is comfort eating. She is supressing some sort of anger or low self worth with food. Its a strange mix of pleassure and pain. Monitoring everything she eats will make a difference to he weight, however it wont solve the route of the problem and it will most likely find other, more drastic ways to express it. By hiding food in her bedroom shows she is aware that her eating patterns are abnormal - and possibly embarressed about it. She needs to talk to you, her school, a professional...someone before this eating pattern becomes a way of life. 

Name: kristen | Date: May 11th, 2006 12:43 AM
ive tried like everything 2 lose weight and nothing has helped me i went on diets,walking,eating responsible, starving myself,anything u can image i did it ...so ive tried somehting new i make my self throw up thats the only way i really want this 2 work ....summer is almost here n i need 2 lose weight ......if i faint or black out i dont care as long as i get skinny i have had enough with everything that i am so despret...i starved my self 4 like 2 day i cant do it it makes me feel so sick my stomach just hurts so bad...so when i go 2 eat sumthing i just feel even more sick so i dont no wat 2 do...ive been 2 diatitions 2 help me eat better n that didnt help either so im stayin with throwing myself up ....I REALLY HOPE THIS IS THE ANSWER.... 

Name: Jazzy | Date: May 11th, 2006 1:59 PM
I have a friend who has always been big. Not because it was hereditary, but because he was a hermit who didn't do any activity and he regularly over ate junk food. now he has turned a new leaf and lost about 100lbs in a year. all that he does is workout and eat fish. He has lost too much. He says that he is happy where his weight is now, yet he eats about 800 calories in a day and I know he is burning more than that in a day. On a typical day he runs 3 miles and lifts weights for 5 hours. I am worried that soon the lack of vitamins and too much exercise will make him really sick, it is already starting to. What should I do? Is he anorexic at all? 

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