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Name: AdamSmith2
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Hey!

Recently my girlfriend admitted to me that she has bulimia. She doesn't want to go the doctor, I've done everything to convince her... She's so stubborn :(

Any ideas what can I do to convince her? What have you done??

Thanks for any advice... Oh and one more question - is it possible to cure bulimia on your own? Without a doctor?
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Name: tilly22 | Date: Apr 17th, 2007 3:37 PM
i recently told my boyfriend that my doctor has diagnosed me as being an anorexic bulimic, and i was so scared of telling him, but he's amazing and has really helped just by being there and i spose just him knowing whats going on has relaxed our relationship alot more. now that you know she may not feel so strained by whats going on, i think for now dont pressure her into seeing the doctor ease into it and when shes ready all you can do is be there, bulimia for me has become a way of releaving stress and making me feel clean (i know that sounds wierd) by my boyfriend knowing a little bit of that stress has gone, he doesnt know everything but he's letting me tell him what ever i want, if i want. but i have also been seeing a doctor due to my mother also finding out and going behind my back and seeing the doctor about me-dont do that, im still upset that she did this. but am getting help and am getting weighed regularly, which i hate and getting health checks...seeing the doctor did make me realise i really like my teeth and dont want to loose them to an eating disorder and i want babies some day, does your girlfriend know the risks? just be sensitive to her but dont treat her as though she is a delicate little thing that cant think or do anything for herself, like people around me have started to do because of my size, because the more you treat somebody in this way the more dependant on you and frustrated everyone will become. may i ask does your girlfriend do this because she is unhappy with her weight ?
i hope i have been of some help to you 

Name: AdamSmith2 | Date: Apr 17th, 2007 10:34 PM
Thanks, I think you did help me a lot... I just realised that what I've been doing for the past few days was constantly pushisng her towards the doctor. I told my girlfriend that I don't believe she can handle this on her own (which she keeps constantly saying)... It's not that I think she is a delicate little thing, because I know that she could handle bulimia sooner or later - but I think that seeing the doctor is absolutely crucial to give this a start.

It makes me feel even worse because yesterday she told me it was her worst day in this sickness - she was bleeding from her nose and had some problems with her heart (irregular beating). Today I even started crying when we talked about the whole problem.

She tells me that she loves talking to me and that I am of great help to her as long as I don't say the word "doctor". So maybe you are right, maybe I should ease off.

She does know the risks, she keeps on saying that she knows everything about this sickness, which became one of her arguments against seeing the doctor.

I mean we are very sincere, we talk about everything with no barriers... But I feel that seeing the doctor is the most important step in curing, that's why I'm pushing so hard... But maybe you're right, she needs to realise it on her own... The only question remains - will she realise that before it will be too late??

Answering your question - yeah, she's doing it because she's unhappy with her weight... She doesn't want to accept her figure and she keeps on saying that when she gets the perfect figure she'll stop going to the toilet (that's how she wants to beat this, on her own by losing weight and then stoping after accepting her figure).

Please answer, every answer is of great help to me! 

Name: tilly22 | Date: Apr 17th, 2007 11:13 PM
sorry that im the only one replying to you and if it seems a bit odd, but i kind of feel that talking to you helps me relate a little to what my boyfriend is dealing with. it made me cry a little just reading your message, as im going through similar problems, but am getting help, but just as i said pushing is the worst you can do, i shut so many people out because of my problem, my mood is so tempramental because occassionally i want to deal with my life on my own, but remember by her trusting you perhaps in a way thats one step towards getting help. on the other hand if shes bleeding that cant be good, that would be enough to scare me into getting help.is her bmi healthy? when my doctor first consulted me she sent me away with some information sheets i can post them on here if you like,i dont know how useful they are. but to reasure her doctors are more sensitive to the situation than she might think, and im still losing weight and seeing a doctor. 

Name: AdamSmith2 | Date: Apr 18th, 2007 10:14 PM
Huh that went fast... After our talk yesterday, today she made a decision that she will go to the doctor... It's a bit of a coincidence because we talked about it yestarday with me crying and today she read a tragic story about this and made up her mind.

I'm very happy now, but I know it's still a really long way. But I'm pretty optimistic and I believe that we can do it :-)

Thanks for the booklets, I won't need them at the moment, but maybe later? Since it seems that we have a very similar situation maybe it would be good if we stayed in contact and talked about our problems so that we could help each other?

I wish you all the best luck and I'm sure we'll stay in contact, because after talking to you I see how much you can learn from other people's cases... Best luck to you and your boyfriend!!!!! 

Name: tilly22 | Date: Apr 18th, 2007 10:32 PM
im so pleased, shell hate going to the doctors i know i do!but you must be so releaved. thatd be good to keep in touch. i wish you and your girlfriend all the best good luck 

Name: miss_throw_09 | Date: Apr 23rd, 2007 11:09 PM
haha tilly so i am gonna say somthing to this. i dotn member when this was posted but i hope you are goin to the doctor wiht her...i would love to have a boyfriend i could tell my problems to and him being totally supportive of him. But best luck with both of ur guys problems and answers and w.e but yeah hpo[e everything goes well 


Name: Ashlea 88 | Date: Jun 24th, 2007 10:18 PM
it is really hard to cure bulimia on your own it is technically an additcion that you have to face, most times a doctor or a dieititon need to interviene and help caise it takes over your whole mind.. i have anorexia and i thought i could do it on my own but i cant i am enterin a hospital in kingston and outpatient on july 12 07, please get her some help..
good luck to you and her..
ashlea88
here is my e mail if you wanna chat...
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