I've never had an eating disorder, but I've been in abusive relationships and mostly beat myself up because I listened to stupid ass people. Consider this for a moment and our esteem issues will be solved...
Does self esteem really matter? Would you yourself ever subject another human being to the misery you put yourself through everyday. Would you be more willing to mistreat someone if you thought they were fat, ugly or stupid? NO. Because as a human being you deserve to be happy. The truth is, you think worse of yourself than anyone else in the world does. ↓