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Name: Val
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My daughter is an athlete. She's 16 and is an avid cross-country runner. I know that eating disorders are quite common among these high-energy/drive girls. The issues have been prevelent for the past 6 months and I've consulted with her dr. I know she is vomiting. I know she exercises compulsively. I love her very much and we talk often, but I want to be sure to do the right things. She has dropped from about 121 pounds to 103. She was absolutely beautiful before, but now has rough, red hands, wrinkles on her forehead, and no butt. Her resting heart rate is 47 BPM. Her blood pressure was so low 2 days ago that the nurse couldn't detect it (this has happened before several times). She has heart arithmia and is anemic. Any advice on what to say?
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Name: lucie | Date: Jan 3rd, 2007 2:27 PM
Hi Val,

im not a mom but my mom confronted me about my ED. My mom let me know she knew and made it clear it needed to stop. I wasn't ready to stop, but it gave me a push in the right direction.

If you daughter wants to discuss it with you she will. Just avoid putting any pressure on her and never bring attention to, food, weight or excercise. In time when she is ready she will come to terms with it and hopefully stop. It is HER that has to want to stop.



Name: jessica2006 | Date: Jan 4th, 2007 6:39 AM
Hey Val,

Try to look at www.mercyministries.com web site
Mercyministries is a non profit free place for yound girls and woman ages 13-28 to go to free of charge to get help. They are very good with woman that have all sorts of problems but i know especially that they are good with eating disorders. There is much help there and the staff is great. Read the testimonies that are on the web site. They are also good. The best advice that I can give to you is that. and also try to get help sooner than later. 

Name: Catherine | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 9:36 AM
how tall is she? i am anorexic and used to weigh at my lowest 78lbs at 5'6" i was the same way before i got help i had extremely low blood pressure and a slow heart rate. i just wanted to tell u that i used to go to the bathroom b fore the doctor weighed me and drink as much water as i could without exploding. just wanted u to watch out for that. please get her help. she will feel better once it is all over. i did. 

Name: Catwoman | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 10:03 AM
Just be there for her always. Talk to her about things other than eating and weight. Do fun stuff with her like shopping and going to the movies- anything to show her how much you love her. Somethimes only sitting with her or giving her a hug will be enough for her to talk to you. But it's up to her to come to you 

Name: Val | Date: Jan 15th, 2007 5:25 PM
Thank you all for the advice you've been sharing. My daughter has an appointment with a dietician today. Her weight dropped to 101 over the holidays. I found much evidence of purging behavior in our home. We read a wonderful article from the New York Times Magazine called "One Spoonful at a Time." I suggest you all read and share that article. We both recognized how many years this has been an issue for my girl. It's been a rough weekend, but today we will begin the journey back to health. By the way, for those who continue to "ask" how to become anorexia or bulemic, grow up and learn the facts. It's not a dieting technique, it's an extreme illness. Once damage occurs to your heart and brain tissue, there is no repair. 

Name: lucie | Date: Jan 15th, 2007 5:58 PM
thanks for letting us know Val, im glad things are looking brighter now.


Name: hudson22 | Date: Dec 20th, 2007 12:05 AM
I feel your pain. I only wished my mom had figured it out when I was your daughters age. I am now a 31 year old mother of 2 young boys. I was anorexic all through high school and worked out excessively. Once you get to the low 100ís you need to be pro-active as a mom. Believe me, she will thank you one day (most likely not right now though). I waited until I was 23 before I got help. It seemed to be working for a while, but I was great at hiding it. BTW, the ironic thing (as a processes of trying to self-heal) I got a honors BA in Psychology and when on in nutrition). I got married and after my first child, I became bulimic as well (I only gained 17 pounds and delivered an 8 pound baby). A long story short, I have 2 boys (3 and 4), divorced my hubby 9 months ago, and have never felt better. Unfortunately, my bulimia is still here (4 to 5 times a day). I also have recently developed another problem (alcoholism) that really plague the ED community. PLEASE GET HELP FOR HER. Believe me, she does not to be in the situation I am in at 31. I wish you all the best. 

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