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Name: Irma

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I have just realized (duh mom!) that my just-turned 13 year old daughter has lost almost 10% of her previously thin body weight. We just moved from another state and she was horribly upset by the move (she had just fallen "in love" and that made it worse), in fact she was hysterical for a few days. Got her to see a therapist (once) and she seemed to get better. Somehow I noticed she was getting thinner (she is 5'4" and weighed 106 lbs, now she is 97 lbs), but when friends came to visit they noticed. She has been throwing her lunches away and has little appetite. Now I know from my adolescence that whenever I got very upset I did lose my appetite, and in fact, when I was 16 I got down to 95 lbs (at 5'5"). Never saw a therapist and recovered just fine. Anyway I don't know what to believe. My friend who is visiting says her daughter says Ariel has been talking about being to fat for about 9 months, but to me she always said she liked her weight. As recently as 3-6 months ago she was still eating a lot and showing no signs of weight loss or purging. My friend (who does tend to be a know it all) says she'll have to go into the hospital soon. But her bones don't stick out and she still gets a period. I am wondering if there is a difference between actual anorexia and weight loss due to being miserable and depressed. I am not in denial, just want to know how much to panic right now!! Any ideas? I did get a recommendation to a therapist. And she is eating much better now, I got her up to 1500 calories yesterday(and no, she's not purging--I keep her with me after meals!!) Any input would be welcome. ↓

Name: Klaire | Date: Nov 29th, 2005 5:07 PM

You can loose weight when you are emotional but that is due to not eating usually! I hid my bullimia from my family for two years even though they were in the next room whilst I was doing it! Beleive me if your daughter is ill she will be a pro at hiding it from you as she will feel ashamed for doing it. I still haven't told me Mom even though I am recieving therapy as I really don't feel she would understand. I would suggest trying to talk to her about it, don't patronise or pressure her. she will tell you when she feels ready! Good luck x ↑

Name: peace and love | Date: Dec 9th, 2005 12:25 AM

I can help u
im 14 and im anorexic. to me, sounds like your girl is to. now dont yell at her about it my parents do that to me, and it makes it WORSE. yea it makes me want to eat less. Ya gotta help her, and keep telling her she looks good, ( not to skinny, NEVER SAY SHE LOOKS FAT ) tell her shes pretty. when I first got anorexia, it was becuase i was depressed when i found out my boyfriend had mutiple personalities. I got so depressed that i stopped eating. im now 103 lbs i believe. and im 5 5. my bones stick out and its realllly sick. help her. save her. ↑

Name: katie high | Date: Dec 20th, 2005 9:27 PM

i have noticed wen im upset or sumit has gone rong i dnt eat cos u dnt feel hunggry or enyfin ↑

Name: kelly tonna | Date: Feb 2nd, 2007 1:49 PM

As a mother you can never worry too much!

if your daughter is loosing a considerable amount of weight then you should worry.

See the thing is with anorexia they become very good at reverse pshycology they know all the right things to make you think they are ok and that they may even eat infront of you they find millions of ways of getting around it so that people around them exspecially their parents do not find out, all you need to do is read some of the scary messages in here of girls asking for help to better hide it, which i think is really sad.

You need to tread carefully with your daughter as if she does have this and does not recognise it she may go completely against you which is a defense mecagnisim even if she wants help deep down she wont ask for it and will treat you and say horrible words to you if you are right about it, she will get really moody the closer you get to the truth or may also try the extra happy approach (I'm fine mum don;t be sill yi woud never stop eating and then deliberately eat infront of you) but the thing is you don't know how many laxatives she takes after woods,.

i Don't mean to scare you anymore then you are but it is serious and best to catch it early then late, i guess i am asking you to go with your instints and not with your heart becasue your heart will always guide you to what you want to be true but keep in mind that over ninety percent of parents are the last to find out.

Take care and i am always here if you need to write.

kelly ↑

Name: saxton_emma | Date: Feb 2nd, 2007 1:55 PM

kelly this post is 2 years old hun. = ] ↑