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Name: sissy003
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and have lived together for the past year. We are both 19, soon to be 20, and we are more or less engaged, I just haven't been able to find a ring that I like yet. Anyways,we were talking one day, about a month ago and I made the comment that I needed to go get my birth control filled and then after made a sarcastic comment "unless you want a baby," [even though I've wanted to consider getting pregnant for the last few months]. And he said yeah i do. I'm finishing up my 2nd year of taking online classes through a university, and he graduates in november from a tech school. He already has a stable job in the field he's going to school for. And I'm starting a new job shortly. We have a stable income and a place of our own, and I really want to have a baby. How do I bring up the subject of having a baby again, without it seeming awkward? And is it possible that we are too young??
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Name: raychelrampagex | Date: Jan 30th, 2009 5:55 AM
I am 18 almost 19 and I know exactly how you feel. Lucky for you, you both have a stable income and are going to school. I, unfortunately do not have that luxury as of right now.

This is just my opinion, approach him in a non-aggressive manner. Don't try and force it on him.
Say something along the lines of "Remember awhile back when you made the comment of wanting a baby?" and take the conversation from there. Easy and no tension.

There is a possibility that you two are too young. BUT, if you honestly think that you two are ready to take on the responsibility to have a child and take care of another life and KNOW that a baby is not a toy, then I say go for it. It will bring you two closer.

MARRIAGE should come first. Find a ring ;) Get that man girl! And keep in mind that you are going to be out of work for awhile being pregnant!

Good luck and God Speed. 

Name: mommaellis | Date: Apr 16th, 2009 8:45 PM
I was 19 when I got pregnant with my first. I wasn’t married, but I was with his father. That changed quickly after having my son. Suddenly, I was a single mom at 20. Honestly, at 19, I thought I was grown up and knew what I needed to know. But, in reality, my son and I basically grew up together. He is my life, don’t get me wrong. But, I struggled...financially and emotionally at times trying to raise a baby boy on my own. And held resentment towards his dad because he didn’t help me at all. I am 33 now and I am married and have another baby and expecting another and my husband adopted my oldest son. But, you and your boyfriend have all the time in the world. Get married, make time for the two of you. Turn 21, go out with friends....and then when things settle.....you will know that you are ready and there will be no question. Good luck! ~ Lori 

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