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Name: Sonya

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I am so lost and frustrated with how to deal with my daughter and her Dad. Because he was gone a lot while she was younger and she found out about his infidelity they do not have a solid relationship. The least little thing sets off a chain reaction-she says something rude, he bristles and tries to control her, she resists and he says something really hurtful and cruel. I am stuck in the middle-he gets mad if I am not supportive of his actions and she gets mad because I dont stand up to him for her. I love her so much and she says that I dont care about her. If I try to stand up for her he gets mad for days. My poor son just stays out of the way. does anyone else have this problem? Most fathers and daughters seem so close. ↓

Name: Rachael 12 | Date: Mar 16th, 2006 7:08 AM

I am the same way with my dad. I think that he is used to always winning battles and since I turned 12 I don't let him push me around anymore. I have been fine with my dad since my mom surprised us with a trip to Boston to see a Red Sox Game. Just us two. I don't think we fought since then.

I am a Red Sox Freak ↑

Name: Lisa | Date: Mar 31st, 2006 4:18 PM

WOW! Youre in quite a pickle! I think what I would do is say hey,look,I cant take this crap anymore from either of you and if it doesnt stop Im going to leave for a few days so I can get some peace and clear my head and do some serious soulsearching that could affect all our lives as we know it! And if it keeps up,pack a bag and leave for a few days. Call your husband and daughter after 24 hours and say ,I told you I was serious whats it gonna be? Do you want me to come home or do you want this situation to happen more frequently until it eventually becomes permanent and no-one is happy??? It should straighten them up or you will know what you have to do. ↑

Name: Lisa | Date: Mar 31st, 2006 4:23 PM

continuing.....take your son with you when you leave and leave your husband and daughter at home by themselves for a week-end so they will be forced to hash out and hopefully resolve their differences or at least come to a mutual understanding/agreement where one another is concerned. ↑

Name: Lisa | Date: Mar 31st, 2006 4:27 PM

............tell them to call you when things are settled amicably and talk to each of them to make sure before going back home.Let them know you are done tolerating the chaos and will leave again if you have to its their choice. I wish you well,I really do. ↑