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Name: HOMO | Date: Feb 16th, 2006 7:47 PM
if he says he'sgay he's gay, i think you would know i \f you were attracted to woman 

Name: Tom | Date: Feb 20th, 2006 4:41 PM
Just hope he dosent turn all gurlie and GAYYY acting then your cool but warn him bout the high population of aids in the gay community tell him he can only date those his age or like a year younger always give him condoms 

Name: Dot | Date: Feb 20th, 2006 5:01 PM
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Name: to Martin | Date: Feb 20th, 2006 5:06 PM
Much misinformation out there. You do have options. There is a choice to change....if you desire change. That is not offered to young people with same sex feelings. They automatically assume they are gay. They are not necessarily.

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Name: suzi | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 2:27 AM
Some of my best guy-friends are gay and I love them to death! I understand it can be difficult to accept, but just remember that that's just the way your son is! As to knowing he's gay... you probably knew pretty well that you liked boys by the time you were fifteen didn't you? Just be straight with him, and encourage him to talk to you- it's a tough world for gay kids out there, and more than likely he'll need your support!:) 

Name: joshua | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 11:34 PM
mysontold me he gay 

Name: dot | Date: Feb 28th, 2006 11:48 PM
"...just remember that that's just the way your son is! "
Would you say this to her if he told her he had a sexual attraction to animals? or kids? or his dad? No, of course not.... so why just assume same sex attraction is to be viewed this way? 

Name: metoo | Date: Mar 2nd, 2006 7:02 AM
I came out to my parents when I was 39 years old. It was the hardest and best thing I ever did in my life. I new I was gay since puberty, but hid it from myself and everyone else for a long time. Just love your son for who he is, and dont worry about what others may think. Who is more important? 

Name: Susan | Date: Mar 4th, 2006 5:23 PM
Gemmi is 100% right! I knew I was straight before I had sex, I bet you did too! This is something you are just going to have to deal with and support him through. And if he comes home with a boyfriend, you better accept the boyfriend too unless you want to alienate your son. 

Name: wove yaw | Date: Mar 11th, 2006 1:47 PM
bein gay is just normal..!!
its a feelin tht some guyz feel..!its just that they r attracted
to the male sex more than the female sex!
as u say that he did not mention nethin bout havin sex then there is nothin to worry about!!
it is totally normal for this age!
but just make sure that he doesn't so nethin wild like changin his sex into bein a female or so on..!!!
but EVEN IF he has sex with guyz..!! it does not mean that he is not normal of anything!
as i said! he might have a part of a female brain in him!
i am just worried bout him !! 

Name: ex-gay | Date: Mar 11th, 2006 2:25 PM
Same sex is not normal. Brainwash kids all you want but...

I would point out that by reclassifying homosexuality as somewhat normal as the APA did, along with the homosexual activist, they have done an enormous disservice to homosexuals. They have failed that population of emotionally troubled individuals in the worst possible way. The APA have abdicated their professional responsibility not to let a political agenda interfere with their obligations to their patients. They should all be ashamed.

Overcome same sex attraction not succumb! 

Name: Eric | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 5:20 PM
GAY DOESN'T HAPPEN AT 15 MOM! It happens at conception.

Gay people are your coworkers, neighbors, fellow parishoners at church, sons, brothers, sisters, daughters, and friends. We are everywhere. You MUST accept your son for who he is. He is your son first... gay is just a trait like hair and eye color.

Here's an article for you to read http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/200

Name: Tom | Date: Mar 21st, 2006 4:31 AM
Hi, im 19 & gay, I knew i was gay since i was about 14. Iv recently moved to live in brighton to study and to me it now seems absolutly mad that the rest of the country and world seems to have so much trouble acceptin gay people. WHy is it seen as such a negative thing!?! I find being gay wonderfull! Apart from the fact that we arn't likely to reproduce and set up a family,? I know ther's something gone wrong with us somewher along the line, but nobody's perfect!... Im actualy quite angry that i cant walk down the street (even in brighton somtimes) holding hands with my bf without expectin som mouth. im prety sure its not that it "disgusts ppl" or wateva ppl jst need to get used to it.. In this day and age for f*** sake,..Jst tel him to be carfeful while he's stil at school etc, u get som nasty kids there... the only other thing u parents might want to watch out for is the rampant sex drive that all young males get, but then to be honest there isnt' much you can do about that.... ther aint much else to say realy, try not to be disapointed, i kno im not and ur son probably isnt. 

Name: Lisa | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 12:01 AM
I dont envy you that would be a toughy.I love my son very much but dont think I could accept that.Maybe your son isnt gay at all,how can he possibly know yet unless hes finding hes got (feelings) for boys like he should have for girls?But if hes gay hes gay and then if he is you have to learn to accept it I guess unless you want to have a lonely life without your son in it.I wish you luck in however you choose to handle things.Im glad Im not in your shoes. 

Name: Dior | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 2:07 PM
Umm Lisa,
What you just said is If my son was gay i wouldn't love him.
Thats rather horrible hes still your child, and going back to what ginny said if he said he was straight you would agree. And tom i totally agree with you, i have a few gay friends and they get called gay and everything like its an insult its rather pethetic and i wish some teenagers wern't as immature and one day they migght find out their gay, and i hope they get the same punishment as they give others now. 

Name: ex-gay is OK | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 6:08 PM
There may be a predisposition to be gay but it IS NOT an immutable trait like skin color or eye color. Biological fact..

That being said predisposition does not mean "you must be gay" or "need to engage in same sex behavior".

Just as their are many predispositions to many out of the norm behaviors such as polygamy, alcoholism, beastiality, gambling etc., etc. ....would we then say they all should succumb to those abnormal "feelings" of a predisposition they didn't ask for but nevertheless have - NO.

Same with ssa - you don't have to succumb to those abnormal "feelings" and can overcome them just as you can any "feelings" out of the norm. Why all "feelings" are rooted in berhavior and all behavior can be changed when one desires change. If one does not want to change than so be it. But, don't tell the rest of us we must accept said behavior.

I repeat although same sex attraction is not asked for and that is a fact, the resulting behavior is a choice. At least give gay folks the "choice to change if they desire to change."

Ex-gays are proof this choice is a viable one. Be tolerant enough to allow it.

btw: the CBS report was speculation, not fact.

Read more here if you dare to know all sides of this issue:




Name: mzmartipants | Date: Mar 25th, 2006 6:11 PM
CBS: 60 minutes

You called Michael Bailey "a psychology professor at Northwestern University and a leading researcher in the field of sexual orientation," but I'd call him a hack.

Bailey resigned as chairman of the university’s psychology department in October of 2004 after being investigated for his research practices. He also was investigated in 2004 for having sex with one of his transsexual subjects. He did say, of his book "The Man Who Would Be Queen," "the book is intentionally controversial, I write about things that matter and that people are uncomfortable with. The cover (as well as the book) is meant to be provocative." Obviously, he wasn't the only one looking to be controversial.

Posted by mzmartipants at 8:04 PM : March 13, 2006 

Name: Andie | Date: Mar 26th, 2006 1:33 AM
Well may be u should put him up for adoption 

Name: Ex-Gay | Date: Mar 26th, 2006 4:26 PM

Name: Tom | Date: Apr 18th, 2006 4:57 PM
What the ^^** are you suggestin ex-gay is OK? you cant change who you are attracted too, should we just PRETEND that we are straight then ? **** that, gay men can only love other men , you expect us to try and love women ? it wont happen, ... "ex-gay" poeple are trying to fool themselves and i feel sorry for them,.

At the end of the day, I know who i love and who i wana ****, and if me & another man wana spend our lifes together then we aint gona be stopped. People who are putting pressure onto gay people to change their sexual orientatoin (or pretend to be straight) are not very understanding and i wish all those people would turn gay themselves and see how they feel then.

It makes me very angry and it seems sooo stupid that a gay family member can cause these issues, .. Other than the fact that he aint gona set up a faimly ? What is wrong with a gay son ?!!! Also, If your son is gay it also dosnt neccesarily mean he's gona go all capm and femenin (if thats the problem). Im gay and im myself and im not atall camp or femenin.

Maybe im going off the point here, but I reaaly cant see why some of you people see this as such a problem, its the people like YOU that are the ****ing problem! 

Name: to tom from bladerunnerx16 | Date: Jun 26th, 2006 11:09 PM
I hate it when gay people decide to act like BITCHES! 

Name: L | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 1:55 AM
Well, he probably knew he was gay for years now! I mean, just think about it: when did you first know you were straight? Probably for as long as you can remember, right?

Love him. Be there for him. Continue being his Mom. He'll be okay & so will you! 

Name: ssss | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 11:07 AM
dont worry ppl are who they are and u cant change that gays are no different i have loads of gay guys as friends they are totally cool 

Name: steven | Date: Jul 5th, 2006 5:55 PM
i want gay guys 

Name: dad | Date: Jul 6th, 2006 8:33 AM
is there any way to tell that your 14yr old is gay, or the tell tail sighn"s 

Name: MIKE | Date: Jul 8th, 2006 11:40 PM
hi im 16 n im gay and ive come out 2every1 and my mum disowned me now i hav a bf and livin wiv him in brighton 

Name: yoke | Date: Jul 9th, 2006 3:42 PM
hey, it's alright :)
homosexuality is verry normal these days, though i understand you.
i'm verry proud of your son telling you he was gay, most american parents don't agree with this and go angry at theirselfes or even their kids!
so most gay teens won't tell they are, in fear for getting yelled at.
i never told my dad i was bi-sexual c'ause he'll beat me if i did :(
don't worry, you'll accept him and eventually he'll love you more for not thinking he's weird or a freak! (or at least at my experiance with 'gay' people.
good luck! 

Name: njmom613 | Date: Oct 8th, 2006 9:31 PM
Hello Wendie, I am also a mother of a gay son who will be 15 in two days. He told us 3 weeks ago and I feel the same as you do. I too, am very open minded and accepting of the gay lifestyle, but when it comes down to it being my son, I feel so sad, confused and scared of what lies ahead in this world we live in. I said the samea thing about having no life experience to back his decision, but he claims he feels this way and that is that. I am seeing a therapist to help me through, all I do is cry. I love him and support him, but hurt so much inside. My heart aches and I need to not let this overwhelm me...it is not easy. 

Name: angel24 | Date: Sep 9th, 2007 6:44 PM
hey wendie are you a mom or a dad 

Name: angel24 | Date: Sep 9th, 2007 6:49 PM
my bad... im 15 and im pretty sure that im gay or bi either one but i knew only because since i was little i showed sings of it, but maybe ur son isnt gay maybe hes just going thru tha weird stage in puberty where straight guy think they are gay it happens all the time. but maybe ur son is just corious or maybe he is but if he is hes still your son and if being gay is wat mekes him happy i think that you should be there for him and not let him deal wit this all alone. just ask your self if he hadn told u and you had found out by somebody else wouldnt that have been worst, atleast he trusted you enough to tell you... be greatfull and love him thruogh his decision HOPE I HELPED ATLEAST A LITTLE. 

Name: CutsBruises | Date: Sep 10th, 2007 2:59 PM
lol her sons like 17 now, i hope shes used to it if hes still gay 

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