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Name: Email me! | Date: Apr 4th, 2006 9:53 PM |
[email protected] I want to help as a friend if no more! ↑ |
Name: Hey | Date: Apr 5th, 2006 3:44 AM |
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Name: help is here | Date: Apr 5th, 2006 5:30 PM |
You feel distant from Mom. You have nothing in common. You fake affection. Join 99% of adult children who experience this at some time in their lives with their moms. Question is: What are YOU going to do bout it? Here are some mom-bonding ideas to get started: Show appreciation for what she does for you by thanking her even when you don't understand her. Recall some of your favorite times with her throughout your life, and talk to her about those memories. Respect her, as you would any other valued friend. As soon as YOU change your attitude, things will start to change. Parents can make mistakes, too. If your mom treated you unfairly or made some other kind of mistake, try to put it in perspective. Think about what kind of mom she is in general. And if she apologizes for her mistake, consider cutting her some slack and forgiving her. Remember how imperfect you've been over the years before you go off on mom. Did she forgive you over and over again, without rejecting you? Time to do the same for her. Accept that you'll disagree sometimes and that's ok. At first, you may feel awkward trying to get close to your mom, but once you find out the kind of source of advice, companionship, and love she can be, it's likely to come more naturally. Trying to make a fulfilling connection with someone so meaningful in your life is definitely worth the effort. You'll want your children to do the same for you! Being a Mom is the hardest job in the world -- aren't you glad you're in the "profession"? Pass it on ©1995-2006 iVillage Inc. All Rights Reserved. ↑ |