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Name: sandy1616
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HI! my name is Sandra im 16 1/2 i been having sex with my boyfriend (My boyfriend is 17) ever since i was 15 and i have been at the risk of being pregnant 3 times already. although we've lucky because those three times we used the pull out method. we like to do it with out a condom for a little bit then he will put it on but this time he lasted a little bit and came in me he told he did it on purpose because he wants to have a baby. i got mad but he convinced me the first day i agreed the 2nd day i was having doubts n the 3rd day i didnt want it anymore. i went to the doctor n told her what can i do n she said i was just in time for a morning after pill but he said i had to take both pills at the same time in order to have a miscarriage! well i took them but i dont know if they worked! my bf says that if i have a miscarriage he was going to leave me because he really wanted the baby, he says its kinda like an abortion!
i been thinking of a baby n well a baby is always a blessing but i dunno if i want to have one this young! what can i do? any advice please! i dont lose my bf but i kinda dont wanna have a baby either!
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Name: michelle... | Date: Jul 24th, 2007 1:04 PM
hey Sandra, I know when you're young and in love, it can seem like your relationship with your boyfriend is all that matters, and the thought of losing him is unthinkable.. right?! Well you dont have to lose him, I am sure you two will continue to have a long and happy relationship. :-) But baby girl.. You dont have to have a baby with him to make ur relationship last! I know two young couples who are family freinds, and honey let me tell you... having a baby at a youung age puts major strain on any relationship! If your boyfreind wants to have a baby with you, then if he truely loves you, he will wait till you both are ready. And if he doesnt think its worth the wait... then he isnt worth it either. Be strong and good luck Sandra! 

Name: question | Date: Jul 24th, 2007 5:49 PM
DONT DO IT!!!! I did it and as soon as I got pregnant he changed his mind.Guys think it is macho to you pregnant then they realize that they're not ready for the responsibility.Just because you had unprotected sex and took the pill doesn't mean you had a miscarriage,so it doesn't mean you ever were pregnant.My bf and I had sex every day for 3 months sometimes 6 times a day,all unprotected before I got pregnant,so just because you didn't use protection doesnt mean your pregg. I would advise you to get on birth control.It isn't easy at all being a single parent,it isn't easy being a teen mum either.Im 25 and it still is very,very hard.Please be careful! If you need someone to chat email me at [email protected] 

Name: sandy1616 | Date: Aug 2nd, 2007 6:50 PM
well thanks a lot everybody! that helped me alot! its true not just because im i n love doesnt mean i need to have a baby! i recently found out he's going crazy! he lives with these people and the girl that lives there likes him! and that whole family dont like me but he is an idiot. he sent them to spy on me and supposebly they took a picture of me coming out my car with another guy.[not true] i havent had no other guys in my car but family and him!he rubbed in my face n told me that he was 100% sure that it was me n just yesterday he told me that the picture was blury n u cant even see the person face i mean its obviouds they tried to break us up [they dont like me] i just dont understand how he could still talk to them knowing that they could do something like that! he doesnt even let me talk to boys at all. he says if he finds that i do talk to boys he will leave me that instant!we been on off for that reason but i always end up going back to him! =[ he also doubts my love because i dont do it with him anymore! i wanna break up with him but i been with him so long like i dunno i dont think well i cant imagine myself starting all over again....its a weird feeling n i dont like it! do u guys have any advice for me plz! 

Name: jess_dudley | Date: Aug 3rd, 2007 11:37 AM
tell him to piss off it's your life and miscarraiges can happen to anyone. he sounds like an arrogant pig. and if you do really love him them just go on the pill and hope he doesnt find out 

Name: jess_dudley | Date: Aug 3rd, 2007 11:40 AM
girl your only 16 there will be plenty more fish in the sea. and he sounds like a freak. and by the sounds of things nither of you are emotionally mature for a baby. 

Name: cjsims | Date: Dec 18th, 2007 11:37 PM
DUMP HIM, HONEY!! there is no way you should stay with him. If he is not discussing this with you BEFORE he tries to change your life forever, then he is NOT worth it. Babies are a BIG responsibility, even for a happily married, financially stable couple. You should not stay with him at all. He sounds like he may be kinda controlling. Also, you guys are young, who says he'll stick around, if he decides he doesn't want a baby when you're 6 months pregnant? 

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