I hear your pain and can relate. My 14 year old daughter is following in her father's foot steps and he has been dead for 5 years now. She cuts herself, is "in love" with a sociopath that does drugs. She cuts herself and I suspect she also does drugs. We are active in church and I take her to numerous counselors. It took me a long time to distance myself from the mistakes her father made and I had hoped that his death would keep her far, far away from people like that - it worked the oposite, She seems to run to these individuals and I can only assume it is deep down desire for a relationship with her father. Step dad is great but she completely rejects all rules and pushes the edge on rules and discipline. I am trying to distance myself in telling her SHE is responsbile for her actions and she will bear the consequences. She knows if she gets busted she goes to jail, and I will not run to get her out. She also knows that if she drops out of school and runs off that I will plan for her funeral as it will come with that type of lifestyle. Dont let this ruin YOU. take care of YOU first - they will do their own thing but hopefully if raised up with good values they should return to it. See a therapist, counselor, someone to help you work thru this - see if there is a local NA group in your area and see if they can offer some type of intervention. I know it is hard - I also have a special needs child and he got most of my attention when he was younger and I fear that's what lead my daughter to pull in there - Hang in there !! ↑ |
I really need to talk to someone who is going through something similar. My 16 year old took his belongings and left home today, thanks to his dad (we are not together). He is not attending school, and is smoking pot, and I am pretty sure selling pot as well. (all the things he dad did/does). I am angry, hurt, etc, but I have another child to be concerned about as well. She is well behaved, does well in school but is constantly upset by what her brother does.
Need someone who can relate. Help. ↑ |