have any mums out there heard or used a home boot or detention camp,a friend of mine tried it on her 14 year old daughter and said it worked wonders, and her daughter has behaved well since, i"ts a way of punishing badly behaved teenagers it lasts at least a whole weekend and in some cases a week.
basically the parent turns the childs life into a srict prison like regime.
first the childs bedroom is emptied of EVERYTHING except bed blankets, and desk for schoolwork, the rules are harsh and very strict. the child is not allowed to speak unless spoken to first
they must reman silent at all times, there not even allowed to wear what clothes they want these are chosen by you , normally school clothes shirt tie etc.
the timetable of the detention camp goes something like this
7am the child is woken and gets dressed
730 breakfast in room.
8am schoolwork: the child stays in their room and writes a esssay on why there being punished, this is then copied out several times making a total of 3 hours work.
11am-- 12am confined to room (locked in)
12am lunch in room
12.30pm chores, the punished teen is put to work, toilets cleaned, floors scrubbed, ironing etc.
2.30pm lockdown: the child is returned to their room and their bedroom door is locked.
4.30pm dinner in room,
445pm final bathroom break
5pm total lockdown: the child is locked in their bedroom for the night they are given a bottle of water and a bucket for a emergency toilet,
they are told their bedroom door will remain locked until 7am and wiil NOT BE OPENED .
at 8pm the child is told to turn out their lights and go to bed.
i"ve shown this timetable to my difficult 15 year old daughter, and just the threat of this punishment has her quaking in her boots.
what do other parents think ,a good form of punishment? or too harsh ↓
|Name: zealousmom | Date: Jul 8th, 2011 6:21 AM
|I believe that we should treat our children the way we want them to treat us. How about letting her join [a href="http://www.teenbootcamps.org/" target="_blank"]teen boot camps[/a]. My teen did enjoy it, she had gained friends and had improved her self-esteem and her behavior in general. ↑|
|Name: KeyAlaina | Date: Sep 12th, 2011 11:40 PM
|This does work. I think giving the kid discipline will enable him to change and be fearful of rules. Detention camps or [url=http://www.militaryschools411.com/]boot camps[/url] does have its advantages. Hope it all goes well. ↑|
|Name: Geertje1971 | Date: Sep 29th, 2011 6:43 AM
|well if showing this to a child helps than yeah okay, but to actually send a child to a detentioncamp no.|
here in the netherlands we dont have those kind of camps. ↑
|Name: forever21 | Date: Oct 11th, 2011 2:40 AM
|Well, exactly what did the child do? I would suggest this: If your teen is 13-17 and having trouble with respecting you and leaving any time he or she pleases than yes I would say a boot camp is the perfect place. However, if your teen is 18 than that is too old for something like that they are an adult. Also, if your teen is having school problems like ditching I would say that this is not the answer. What you need to do is find the root of the problem. The child may feel bored or threatened and may not want to attend school due to their peers. Lastly, if the child is having inappropriate relationship issues than you need to sit your teen down and let them know you don't approve and that you are telling them for their own good to cut it out or off. If your child is abusive towards you, you need to get them involved with a ranch. I have known ranches to help angered teens let out aggression. Please DO NOT use aggression towards aggressive behavior like a boot camp for any other issue than a teen not following anything you say. Teens need you to find out why they are lashing out and than handle every defiant move with love, Not tough love always but silent love. Mostly let them know you are hurting and that they have someone to talk. Any free minded teen will fight against anything you do. They will find a way to leave and you have to find a way around punishing them in need. ↑|
|Name: parents4kids | Date: Oct 14th, 2011 8:56 PM
|They actually do work. I found a good one at http://www.yoohooparents.com. Kids need discipline. I guess it depends on the kids and the camp. The home camp is great though because you can customize everything. ↑|
|Name: Mom_Me | Date: Oct 29th, 2011 9:18 PM
|Interesting concept ... what do you do with a teenager who doesn't care ... who doesn't feel any remorse and views all or any punishment as nothing more than an inconvenience? A weekend might not be long enough ... but longer than that might create other problems ... if it works for you - then great :) ↑|