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My 13 yr old daughter started shaving without my consent. It's not the worst thing in the world, I just felt kind of sad that my baby girl didnt ask me about it. I think she thinks that i dont know, and she trys to hide it.

should i tell her i know? should i punish her for hiding it? shes never mentioned wanting to shave, and to tell u the truth, she didnt even have hairy legs (although she would tell u a different story)

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Name: kayla | Date: Dec 5th, 2005 6:24 PM
hmm . i shaved my left leg at my friends house, but i had asked my mom if i could shave and she said wait till ur older. but we did truth or dare, and i had to shave my left leg

i dont know if my mom noticed, but if she did, i would hope that she didnt punish me . she could ask me about it...why i did it.

i think u should just wait and see if she tells u . and if she doesnt... confront her

good luck

and ps . its not that big a deal ! relax 

Name: kelly | Date: Dec 11th, 2005 11:07 PM
I didn't ask my mom about it when I started, and I was around 13. she's just doing what she feels like doing, and she probably thinks that if you notice it, you'll make a big deal about it. that's why she might be trying to hide it. if you want her to be more open, tell her you know, but that you don't mind, and that whenever she wants to start something new, she can ask you at any time. DON'T punish her. that's ridiculous, she's not doing any harm to herself or anyone else, or making things at home difficult. those are the things that could require some form of punishment, not shaving her leg. jeez. 

Name: Brittany | Date: Dec 29th, 2005 2:07 AM
thats about the age when every girl starts shaving, she was probably feeling a little self concious about her "hairy legs" and as long as she doesn't stop unexpectedly then I'd say ots ok. 

Name: grace | Date: Dec 31st, 2005 6:37 PM
i thnk u should 

Name: Katie | Date: Jan 4th, 2006 3:58 AM
Hey Im almost 15 and its a pretty big deal, I think you should talk to her but it doesn't deserve punishment. Don't you shave your legs? She has obviously just became a teen and it can be very hard to fit in at first. Friends start doing it, And all of a sudden, shes the only one that hasn't. She is probably worried that you will tell her off or punish her. Don't just support her maybe confront her and tell her tips and advice so she doesnt severly cut herself. 

Name: Makel Lang | Date: Jan 6th, 2006 7:33 PM
I have been shaving my legs since i was 8 and my mom still hasn't noticed why does it even matter! please anwser me back i wanna know why it is so important to not shave ur legs until your old and hairy i do not get it HEELP ME!!!!!!!!!!! 


Name: denise | Date: Jan 9th, 2006 5:38 AM
I have an 11 yr old sister and im the one in charged since our mom passed away and shes begged to get her legs saved.so i tell her what for , that she doesn't have other bussiness but to go to school, why shave her legs i think shes to young for boys to start noticing at least if she does'nt shave she will be emberrassed for someone to touch her legs or anything like that. she will be allowed to shave at 15 i feel bad cuz but gt to take care of her. 

Name: Raina | Date: Jan 9th, 2006 9:51 PM
Hi #1 Mom. I started shaving my legs and armpits around 12. I shaved in private, without my parents knowledge or consent, as I felt somewhat embarrassed about the need to shave (boys at school were teasing me about leg and underarm hair). When she noticed, she simply asked me to show her how I do it, then gave me pointers on how to do a better job. She also took this opportunity to tell me that there would come a time when I would need to shave my bikini line before swimming and to let her know if I ever found hair growing outside of my swimsuit line and she'd show me how to deal with it. I felt relieved and appreciative of her response to something I felt was a delicate topic. Because she opened the lines of communication the way she did (and continued to do with sensitive matters), she was always the first person I went to for advice or to talk to about embarrassing issues. Many years later, when I felt it time to go on the pill, she was the first person I talked to. I learned a great deal from her on being frank and open and respectful, and I use the same approach with my kids. The result is they talk to me about everything and everything. I hope this perspective helps. 

Name: b | Date: Jan 16th, 2006 1:03 PM
my mom was like you too! i am the oldest, and girl. She didn't let me get my eyebrows waxed for my eighth grade pics, so i looked like a cross between groucho marx and a teenager with excessive hair disease. I was wearing dresses when all my friends were in call outfits. Well, she finally realized she couldn't hold on to me and if she did, man, i could get a rea complex! Show your daughter that you are open and then maybe she won't have to hide her shavers. Have mother daughter days with her- you'll see, you could still grow close, even if she's growing up!!! 

Name: mocott | Date: Jan 17th, 2006 7:40 PM
I remember being that age, and not aloud to shave my legs. and I am 33. I took alot of teasing then, and I can imagine what she is going through now.. I think that you really need to talk to her, and let her know that your there, and tell her that she needs to talk to you. It could be a long and bumpy road without the open door of communication. 

Name: roxy | Date: Jan 20th, 2006 7:42 AM
hi im 12 and started wen i was bout 11 i was sooooooo embarrassed to tell my mum and i used to always hide da shavers and one day i just came out and said it and she said it is fine that u shave but make sure u dont cut ur self and she was really good bout it and 13 is way to old to not be shaving coz trust me u get teased alot if u dont shave 

Name: Danni | Date: Jan 20th, 2006 1:41 PM
Ugh - my parents wouldn't let me shave until high school and they never ever let me pluck my eyebrows. I got teased and had terrible school pictures. Please, please, please just have a talk with her and show her how to shave properly. It will save your relationship and her self esteem. 

Name: mama sue | Date: Jan 24th, 2006 7:28 AM
My 14 yr old didn't tell me. I didn't think nothing of it. Just say something casual like Oh I see you shaved your legs. I'm sure most of her friends are doing it. You don't want your daughter to be afraid to tell you things. So if you are kool about it she won't be afraid to tell you the next time she wants to do something. But don't punish her for that. Our baby do have to grow up even if we don't want them to. 

Name: terri | Date: Jan 27th, 2006 3:14 AM
when i was 13 i started shaving my legs also, i didnt tell my mum because it was embarrasing! if you punish her for it in the future she wont tell you anything, like when she starts periods, boyfriends etc. talk to her about it in a positive light and let her know your always there for her 

Name: katie | Date: Jan 28th, 2006 9:21 PM
i think you should belive it a alone because there could be worst things like cutting and eating disoreders and alot more 

Name: Agnes | Date: Feb 6th, 2006 1:07 AM
My parents wouldn't give me permission and I was embarassed to be around other kids. I just started on my own. Don't punish her. Just buy her a nice pink girly kind of razor and some shaving supplies and put them in a pretty bag and give it for Valentine's Day when you two are alone. It'll mean a lot to her. 

Name: huummm | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 2:57 PM
My mom told me years back now, when you are ready, I was a tomboyish kind of girl shaving my legs were the last thing on my mind. Living in a very rural town and all the girls were shaving early starting periods early and having kids early (kids and shaving was to have something to do) and well I was getting teased even tho I had such blondeish color hair on my legs it didn't matter if it showed or not because it was barly visable. I told her and I think I was 13 I can't really remember I think that is right though. I wanted to shave my legs because I was tired of getting teased about it because they said I was too old to not be, she said ok and went to get shaving cream and me a razor and let me shave and said becareful not to cut your self and let me go. I nicked my skin and it took me more time to get to shave my legs again because that hurt now I am 20 and shave all the time, well they get kind of wild sometimes because of a toddler I can't get to sit in a tub and relax my showers consist of hury my toddlers up and going to get in to something now a days 

Name: Hannah | Date: Feb 11th, 2006 9:13 PM
your daughter was probaly feeling really left out b/c most girls that age shave. it a self consicous thing for her. you should porbably tell her you know and tell her why you didnt want her to shave in the first place and have a disccussion with her about it but dont get angry i think she needs to know your side of the story and teens dont really respond well to anger. also she already knows she did something wrong and thats why shes hidding it so theres no need for punishment 

Name: Lisa | Date: Feb 15th, 2006 12:45 AM
Don't fell bad that your hunny didn't tell you about it. When I was younger I didn't tell my mom cuz I thought I would get into trouble and she would tell me that I'm too young. And I was determined to shave my legs! Remember that 13 year olds are trying to be more independent. 

Name: Jlf | Date: Feb 18th, 2006 4:38 PM
i started to shave my legs when i was 12 i would sneak around and do it in private 

Name: krystal valente | Date: Feb 18th, 2006 10:30 PM
TELL HER 

Name: ema | Date: Feb 19th, 2006 8:01 AM
trust me this is not a big deal. i know your worried but it could be so much worse. she could be cutting or doing drugs or having sex, be thankful its only shaving. sometimes it can be kinda embarrising to ask your mum something like that speshily if people at school shave too. its just a part of growing up shaving dosent harm anyone so let it be. its just what happen when kids become teenagers. 

Name: sam | Date: Feb 21st, 2006 1:18 AM
haha i started when I was 13, I told my mom but she didnt really approve. Dont make a big deal ou tof it!! it will just make the situaion more awckward. Just like wen you are at the store ask her if she wants to buy a razor and sum shaving cream. 

Name: sarah | Date: Feb 22nd, 2006 5:49 PM
hi 

Name: hey | Date: Feb 23rd, 2006 9:26 PM
dont tell her u know she will figure out that u know
i dont think u shood punish her it is hust her growing up 

Name: Kelly | Date: Feb 25th, 2006 7:57 AM
TELL HER. coz if u so not one day she might cut herself and u will feel guilty. xxx 

Name: Rosie JH | Date: Feb 25th, 2006 7:58 AM
well, i shaved my legs at 15 and told my mum. she helped me get it right, and wen she could do it right i left her on her on her own. 

Name: Jaida | Date: Feb 25th, 2006 12:42 PM
can you get diseses form using your mums razor? i dont shave my legs, but i do under my arms. ahve any of you got an answer? 

Name: jen | Date: Feb 26th, 2006 7:27 AM
your daughter doesnt need you sheeltering her her whole life 

Name: opi | Date: Feb 26th, 2006 3:01 PM
Yes, i am the kid. I am tweleve and i just started shaving. It is all the rage at this age, for shaaving u r legs. Maybe ur daughter feels that she needs to be with the in crowd. DO confront her though, and tell her that it is ok, but tell her to ask you before you do anything 

Name: Jesse | Date: Feb 26th, 2006 9:47 PM
I was about 13 when I started shaving. I didn't tell my mom until later, she wasn't mad nor she didn't care. As long as I din't cut my self to badly...LOL 

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