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Name: Whirlwind
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My story is a little complicated. I'm 23 and two months pregnant, and my boyfriend of four years who is my best friend has moved out and declared he wants nothing to do with me unless i have an abortion. He tells me 'its just a bundle of cells' and that blood-loyalty is stupid. Mostly he thinks i am as unsuitable as a mother as he is as a father. In the past he has often had to pick up the pieces as i've had a long standing battle with anorexia and depression caused by a negative relationships with my mother and step father and to him i see this is just another example of my recklessness; it was an accident though. I should say i don't go out partying, do drugs, or even drink! I'm a real homebody and wanted nothing more than to be a mother and a housewife. Everyone says i'm not maternal. I am quite emotionally dependant and not very strong and i have low confidence. I don't even have a job although i intend to get my masters degree part time whilst raising the baby using my savings, and do some more temping from my second trimester onwards. My mother has already said she will help out; my family are wealthy. I really hate routine 9 to 5 though! But who doesn't? I worry that i would hurt the baby if i have it, but i also wonder if it could help me grow. He says my reasons for having it are selfish, that yu don't have children because you think they will offer you new challenges, or love, or even because you just want them, so why do people have them then? Tradition? He's the rational one, but he's walked off, he says it isn't him who risks messing us both up, it's me, for having the baby instead of having an abortion which is the responsible thing. But i've wanted a baby so long, maybe i just wanted it because i couldn't have it... i keep having nightmares that i've been asked to catch mice and that when i find them, i have to break their sweet little necks, and i can't do it, its horrifying, so i hide them away, even though i know someone else is going to come along and kill them instead if i don't. I'm completely freaking out. If my boyfriend was here i would want this baby 100%, even though that might make me really stupid and he's promised me an engagement ring, a house, a dog, and 'children in about seven years time' - can our relationship even survive the hell he has put me through? I know i'll always carry resentment and regrets if i get rid of it especially as his sister is planning a baby and my cousin (only 19) just had hers. For me getting an abortion, even letting those doctors near me, makes me want to completely freak out (which he says is why i'll make a terrible mother, i'm so emotional and he's right). I feel like the universe has given me a gift, and once again, i have to turn it down because i'm too weak.
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Name: Shelley K | Date: Jun 3rd, 2008 7:59 PM

Have you ever thought about having the baby, giving the baby up and that way you two can stay together and have a baby when you are ready to have a baby together with him?

Good luck

Name: titch in tummy | Date: Jul 9th, 2008 5:55 PM

I can't scream that loud enough! This is exactly how my ex reacted and is still reacting and I am 4 months pregnant now. He kept saying that I was being selfish but he was the one trying to force me into an abortion because he can't face up to his responsibilites. Abortion is the easy way out for most men, and the hardest for most women. I had an abortion 3 years ago, I was forced into it and given no time to think and I have regretted it ever since. An abortion will be a lot worse for you than bringing life into the world. When you look into you little baby's eyes you will know that you made the right decision. Trust me, I've been there. 

Name: Joeys_Mam | Date: Jul 9th, 2008 10:27 PM
Adoption would be the worst thing you could do. It would mess you up completely. You'd miss your baby so much and blame your bf for making you give baby away. Keep your baby. :) 

Name: cherisalorraine | Date: Jul 10th, 2008 1:21 AM
You should do what you feel is the right thing and with what you have written it sounds like you want this baby. Your BF knew what could happen when you had sex and so he has no right to ask you to do something that you feel is wrong. Tell him that you are your own person and that you can find strength and support elsewhere. You never know he may just be scared and need time to adjust to this. If not then you will have the love of your life in just a few months any way! 

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Name: lexinlauz | Date: Jul 19th, 2008 2:56 PM
Hey im Lauren. I was 18 when i fell pregnant and alot of people were telling me to have an abortion but i had an abortion a year before so i wasnt willing to do that again. When i have the abortion i felt so empty and depressed i felt like id killed my baby which in some peoples eyes i had. But only being 17 with no house job or money i thought it was fair on the baby. Now i have my gorgeous little baby girl who i dote on evey minute of the day. Im not gona lie it is hard being a single mum but u get on with it and it works out. Although im not working my angel never wants for nothing and she always has what she needs. You dont need a man at all us women are designed for this lol. My advice to u is dont get rid cos u will hate urself for a long time like i did. Alexis has not replaced my other baby but filled the hole that i made when i had the abortion. Just be strong and think i can do this with or without him. Its the most amazing thing ever. xxxxxxxxxx 

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Name: renee1984 | Date: Oct 16th, 2008 4:10 PM
i know how you are feeling. i am 24 years old this is my first pregnancy and i am about 7 weeks along. the baby's father wants nothing to do with me nor my child. he has called me and told me that he has had dreams of me having a miscarriage and he stresses me out like you would not believe. he promised he would be there, but just the other day ofter having my first pre-natal drs visit alone he changed his phone number. he knows that i am a high risk pregnancy yet it does not phase him. on top of that i was on anti-depressants until i found out i was pregnant. i thought about adoption but i really want this baby but it is hard knowing that the father is not there. do not do anything that you do not want to do. rather than abortion if you don't want it maybe look into adopotion give the baby to someone who wants one but is unable to have one 

Name: Klaudia | Date: Oct 31st, 2008 2:23 AM
Your child is more important than your ungraitful boyfriend. Killing your child will mess u up emotianally you can become suicidal never forgive yoruself that you killed your own child I really hope youll b ok. 

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Name: angel22 | Date: Sep 29th, 2012 7:20 PM
I am not going to judge what you are thinking about.. I do not believe in abortion, but it is you life and your decision... However, I do know that there are parents, loving parents, out there that would love to have a child (a blessing) that are not able to conceive. Think about adoption... You will one day regret the abortion, I promise. 

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