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Name: AddisonsMommy
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I am currently 36 weeks pregnant and newly single. My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years decided three weeks ago that things arent working out, and broke things off with me. We have been living together for over a year and making plans for our future together. We had both been through so much together, and I thought our worries were over and we were going to live out our dreams in life together. I had lost a baby last year, and we were able to get pregnant again 5 months after the loss. We had our problems; every relationship does. I never dreamed that this was the way things would turn out for me and my child. Come to find out, he has began a relationship with the mother of one of his children. We still live together, but in seperate rooms. He has said he does not want me to leave, but is telling me differently from day to day. He has wanted to continue a sexual relationship as well. I'm so confused and lost. I lost my best friend, and I feel so empty and alone. Im trying to concentrate on my baby girl, but I just cant shake feeling so down and depressed. He says he loves me and cares, but it sure doesnt feel that way. I do have some support from friends and family, but I just cant seem to pull myself together. How can he just go on with his life and be so happy, and make plans with someone else? He says he plans to leave at some point. I feel like Im being left high and dry. I've given this man everything and I just dont get it. At this point we arent even speaking because I thought it was best to try and separate myself from him as much as possible...but living under the same roof is torture. It just hurts so bad and I wonder just how Im going to be able to do this on my own. Luckily I dont have too much longer to go, but this last few weeks is going to take forever. If anyone has any advice or encouraging words, I sure could use them. I know Im not the only person going through this. How do I manage and keep hope until my baby arrives? I feel like I need him in my life.
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Name: kellyr16 | Date: Apr 6th, 2009 1:52 PM
trust me when your daughter comes,nothing else in this world will matter. all you need is you,your daughter,friends, and most important is your family. i wish you the best.goodluck with everything. 

Name: georgina | Date: Apr 15th, 2009 8:30 AM
The same thing happened to me , i had a 1 year old, and pregnant with my second child, both boys, the father of the my boys, was lieing to me the whole 5 years of being with him, he didnt want to commit with me 2 kids later, i had my second son all on my own, pregancy and all , alot of depression through all this , but it mostly hormones playing up in your body and mind, believe me , when your baby is born ,that will be the only thing you will worry about, he sounds like an inmature boy, and it will come back and catch up with him later, like they say what goes around comes around, you will be the happy one--- good luck== worry about you and your beautiful baby- because she is a gift for you from god= enjoy. and take care. 

Name: georgina | Date: Apr 15th, 2009 8:34 AM
The same thing happened to me , i had a 1 year old, and pregnant with my second child, both boys, the father of my boys, was lieing to me the whole 5 years of being with him, he didnt want to commit with me 2 kids later, i had my second son all on my own, pregancy and all , alot of depression through all this , but its mostly the hormones playing up in your body and mind, believe me , when your baby is born ,that will be the only thing you will worry about, he sounds like an immature boy, and it will come back and catch up with him later, like they say what goes around, comes around, you will be the happy one--- good luck== worry about you and your beautiful baby- because she is a gift for you from god= enjoy. and take care. 

Name: trish | Date: Apr 16th, 2009 10:52 PM
i totally agree with kellyr16, i was i a similiar situation to you, but i found an inner strength and left when my baby was 10mths, the father has no contact, but i wouldnt swap my little girl for the world and its his loss. my family and friends have been there for me and made it a little easier, if you are miserable, depressed and stressed the baby feels this and it affects both of you, we are both happier out of that environment. you just need time, take care 

Name: Shelley | Date: Apr 18th, 2009 9:09 AM
Hi, i know what u are feeling, tho i am not living in the same house as my ex, he still left me pregnant with his baby that he wanted so much, only just the monday gone, im 20 weeks monday and alreay have 2 kids to a previous relationship before him, i like u thought we had a life together, havin a baby been a family. It is hard very hard. he is doing the hole silent thing but, I have in my head how will i go thro the rest of my pregnancy alone without him and manage with 3 kids. but at the end of the day all that matters is our kids... 

Name: jenny | Date: May 2nd, 2009 3:42 AM
PLEASE, girl. Forget about the loser. He seems really shallow to still want to be intimate with you. I was pregnant and had to leave the father because I knew it was in the best interest for my son. That is all that is important. I was so afraid, so scared to be single parent. BUT after considering all the messed up things that went on in my screwed up relationship I had to be the strong one and could not allow my kid to be around anything that would mess him up. After awhile I wasnt afraid to do it alone. I have been single for a year and half now and it feels good to be independant . Do it for the babies, you will be so much better off! THey dont need to be around any drama-it will mess them up in the head. 


Name: Bounty2009 | Date: May 6th, 2009 3:51 PM
Aww bless you hun, so sorry to hear that you have had a tough time. Just think though, when you hold your baby girl for the first time, you will feel so much better! Good luck with it all hun! Have you picked any baby names yet? check out http://www.bounty.com/babynames/ where you can search names by meaning and origin. My little boy is called Marlow and he is just perfect (although a very hungry and greedy little scamp - hence me being pretty tired). Its all worth it though, you will be a team forever x 

Name: Natalie | Date: Aug 29th, 2012 9:14 AM
Im sorry your going through all this. Ive had my share of going thru what ur going thru. I dnt have family except for my sons father and I guess ive had to do keep my feeling in. I dnt have friends that are close to wht im going thru therefore I keep to myself. My best advice to u is to pull strength out from within and have faith that you can and will do it with or without him. It will be very hard but get on some housing program and get help to do it alone. We wont be the first single mothers do do it or the last..be strong! 

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