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I am 32 years old, 18 weeks pregnant, and have just been taken for a complete fool by a complete loser. I'm going to try not to whine while I tell my story. I already have a 13 year old son I have been raising alone. Until a few years ago, I didn't even date. I met Doug in December and he convinced me that he was wonderful, he even managed to fool my son. In March, right after he moved in, I found out I was pregnant and that he was cheating with multiple girls at his job. He was a restaurant manager. He got fired when all of this came out, but I was too afraid to leave him because of the pregnancy. Well, his jealous and controlling nature along with the cheating finally broke me enough to tell him to get out last month. He has since been living in GA and has been happily dating and lying to everyone there. I know this because I've spoken to many of the girls. None of them knew anything about me or the pregnancy. They also didn't know about each other until I informed them. I feel good that I have made his life a bit harder, but I'm done with that. All I want now is for him to leave me alone to raise this child in a happy, stress free environment. I do feel apprehensive about it because I feel children should be exposed to both sides of their family. However, I don't feel my child will benefit from the extra stress that he will put on both of our lives, not to mention the child I already have. I'd really appreciate opinions on this issue as well as advice on how to keep him out of our lives if he tries to cause problems when the baby is born. We live in different states now. ↓
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| Name: s.s. | Date: Jun 5th, 2006 5:48 AM |
| Since he is gone to another state and seems smitten with so many other women,my guess is that you probably won't be hearing from him anymore unless you decide to contact him which I wouldn't if I were you.He is a snake and I would only consider him poison to have around.You have done just fine all these years without this man so I'm sure that since he was only in your life a few months it shouldn't be too hard to move on as before.Yes you will be having another child thanks to this creep but between you and your son,I think you can manage to do o.k. However,I do hope you have learned a valuable lesson from this experience.If I were you I'd also get checked for any STD"S this creep might have passed on to you.As far as the baby goes,I would tell the creep that you have "miscarried" just to prevent him from staking a claim on the baby later.You don't want that jerk anywhere near your baby after what he did to you!I'm sorry your son had to endure such heartache.Not all men are bad but you have to be careful on who you let into your life and home in the future.Good luck to you and your children. ↑ |
| Name: Lynne n | Date: Jun 5th, 2006 8:23 AM |
| You are doing the right thing you dont need him in your life...Please Please Please dont take him back! ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Jun 6th, 2006 1:10 PM |
Does he suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
Do a Google search and see if he fits the criteria. ↑ |
| Name: Christy | Date: Jun 7th, 2006 3:54 AM |
| Fiona, I researched NPD on the web and it does seem like him, totally and completely! It really helped to read stories of other people who have been hurt by people with NPD. It's also very helpful to see how this affects children. Thank you for the suggestion. ↑ |
| Name: Tatianna | Date: Jun 7th, 2006 5:17 PM |
| You Hang on and dont wory about nothing caus everthing is in gods hands ↑ |
| Name: Annie | Date: Jun 7th, 2006 5:30 PM |
| Your situation is very similar to mine. I can't offer advise as I'm struggling with the same issue regarding the other side. However I'm trying to not worry about it. My son is born now & they really want nothing to do with us. I'm sad a little I guess but am handling it OK. Hang in there, it will all work out. ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Jun 7th, 2006 10:38 PM |
| Learn as much as you can about NPD and try to get as far away as possible from him. Please try to keep him away from your baby. These type of people are a nightmare! ↑ |
| Name: Kent | Date: Jun 7th, 2006 11:50 PM |
| Dear Christy......Am very sorry about your case...anyway...It's all over as you said it's good for you g8t desission..I'll like to Hava a very good Relationship with you that can lead to Marriage..You can email me [email protected] ..I'll be very glad to hear from you ↑ |
| Name: Christy | Date: Jun 8th, 2006 1:24 AM |
Fiona, do you have any experience dealing with people with NPD? I'd love to hear your story. It sound as if you have had an extreme experience.
An update on my situation: I went to see a lawyer today and played the voicemails that Doug has left me in the past few weeks since I haven't been answering his calls. The attorney says that I shouldn't have anything to worry about because they are threats and are taken seriously by the courts. He said that the best Doug could hope for is supervised visitation for 1 hour per week. I don't think he'd pursue it to that extent and I hope I'm right. Anyway, the consultation was comforting. ↑ |
| Name: Fiona | Date: Jun 8th, 2006 8:03 AM |
My sons' father suffers from NPD and I've been having a bad time with him for about 8 years now. I kicked him out of my house when my son was a toddler and he keeps trying to control me and takes me to court over our son.
He's a pain in the backside! I do know a fair amount about NPD, but only from personal experience and not in a professional capacity. I've read up about it a lot and I'm a member of a support forum for people who are involved with Narcissists.
I can give you the web address if you need it. ↑ |
| Name: Crystal | Date: Jun 11th, 2006 4:04 AM |
| Wow that sounds like Doug Foster well anyways i'm pretty much in the same boat you are but with a different guy but i'm trying to leave the door open for this guy because i grew up without my father and i don't really want my kid to do the same well if you want to talk and if that is doug foster you can email me at [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: Christy | Date: Jun 11th, 2006 6:11 AM |
| His last name is not Foster, it's Hutchings, unless he has aliases. I wouldn't put it past him. Are you currently pregnant? ↑ |
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