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Hi, I seperated from my husband recently. We met through his cousin who used to be a good friend of mine. He was originally on a student visa and was going to have to return home to peru so stupidly I agreed to marry him in a registry office (we were meant to then marry in a more trad way in front of family and friends etc in april, it never happened). I was in love and my 6yr old daughter from a previous rel adored him. He changed straight away, I fell preg (we were trying as I have a medical prob that means I will soon lose the chance to have more kids in the future) and we now have a 3 month old son. He became possessive and controlling, even keeping a diary of every time I went out even if it was simply to take the baby to the clinic, he lied about money and started drinking coming home all hours, kept threatening saying that I better be careful bec I don't know what spanish men are capable of etc. We have since seperated and I know that it is the right thing I was miserable, my daughter was scared and I know it's not the right environment for a baby to thrive in etc but it would have been our first wedding anniversary this sat and I feel like the biggest failure 2 kids to 2 dads how bad does that look? And worst of all hardly anyone knows we were married just a few close friends, I knew that everyone would have tried to talk me out of it bec they would have been concerned about him only wanting a visa. Am such a mess, am normally a strong person but am exhausted but I cant sleep, I am moody, snappy and teary, I don't know how to pull myself out from this. ↓
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