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Name: Martin

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HI,

I have beautiful four year old son who is the pride and joy of my life - I have just returned from university to my home town where my boy lives with his mum (incidently she has finished university too), I came back with dreams of starting again with her and my son to give him the family that any child deserves. As with all the best plans, it was not to be, his mum has very different ideas about our relationship and treats me with complete contempt. I try to be friends but there is a cycle of hate - one time shes nice, the nexts shes nasty. I've told her how I feel, and she reinforces that we are not getting back together. In a sense she seems to know exactly what buttons to press - and I give her (presumably) the desired response every time? The latest tactic is to boot me out of the house when I return our child in a nasty and abrupt manner and restrict my access to him - much to his dismay. I have also recieved texts threatening the Police when she causes conflict, and I react?

I would be very pleaesd to have a womans perspective on this matter? and any advice on how to improve the relationship? I'd just like to add that we have been split up for two years, she is an amazing mum, but a very troubled person not only from arguements in our relationship but witnessing divorce and a distraous relationship between her parents.

Many thanks x ↓

Name: mckenzie | Date: Sep 8th, 2006 4:14 AM

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Name: molly-may | Date: Sep 8th, 2006 10:57 AM

I think your best bet is to go through the courts and make sure you get your parental rights. As far as a relationship goes, would you really want to be with a women who is so mean to you and can change her moods on a dime? Just remember you don't need to be together to be a family. I would give her time, just pick and drop off the child, nothing needs to be said unless it is about your child. Maybe she will come around when she notices you not caring about her anymore. Good luck! ↑

Name: sally24 | Date: Sep 8th, 2006 1:18 PM

Well doesn't sound like she wants to be with you , but she shouldn't be treating you this way even if she hates you this is not good for your son to witness , try telling her that say you can hate me all you want but can we at least be sociable in front of our child, can we sit down and figure out something that works for both of us if she is still diffucult take her to the courts you need to see your son and should be able to if you want to. ↑