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Name: Rebeca
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Hi i was wondering what do you thing about becoming a seregent mother. How do you know if you can do it? I have a good friend who cant have babies so i was wondering if it would be a good idea to help her out and carie her child for nine months. Do you think it would be that easy. My son is 6 months old. So i have done pregnancy and birth before. But would it be easy to realize that the child that i would be caring inside of me is not mine.
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Name: atomic snowflake | Date: Aug 2nd, 2006 5:48 PM
Don't do it. It will screw with your head. You don't need that going on for you. 

Name: spankyx0711 | Date: Aug 3rd, 2006 2:18 AM
I think that's a great idea of yours to try and be a surrogate mother! ! When I first found out I was pregnant, I felt guilty because I'm so young and unprepared and there are so many other people out there that are more suitable for parenthood that can't have children.
All I can say is try doing some research on the internet and see if there are any laws, or regulations surrounding it. I don't know much about it personally, but I think you can do it in private with your friend. Just run the idea past her and if she thinks it's a good idea decide on a sperm donor or a suitable male partner together and go for it! ! 

Name: Rebeca | Date: Aug 4th, 2006 10:58 AM
Does anyone know of any good sites that i could go to? 

Name: shannon | Date: Aug 5th, 2006 4:12 AM
me and my best friend have actually been researching being seragent motherhood. i am 21 and she is 20. it has been our opinion that it would be easier knowing that the baby would go to a good home and the person really wants children. plus for me already being a mother would help 

Name: Rebeca | Date: Aug 5th, 2006 2:00 PM
shannon- oh yes the lady that i have been talking to is a good friend. and has been wanting a child of her own. And she will most defiantly be a good mom and her husband will great also. My friend cant carried any babies. Cuz she had a bad hart. So i know that i will be doing a good thing. She just god married and truly wants to start a family. She asked my mom if she would. But my mom is a diabetic so there isa chance of her passing that on. and my mom doesnt want to do that. But im young have great helth. and by doin this would really make me happy. But i just dont know is i can pass on the baby that i had carried inside of me. Do you think that you would be able to do it? 

Name: Erica | Date: Aug 8th, 2006 3:13 PM
I have actually been thinking about this alot here lately. The women is not really a friend of mine she is someone i met through a friend and they have spent all kinds of money and time on all the treatments and they would be wonderful parents. I think it would be easy to give up the baby because it is not at all yours. I mean i know you would be carrying it but it is her egg and his sperm so it is not yours at all. you just share blood with it for 9 months. I think my situation would be easier than yours because i will not see the couple that often after i have the baby and they live an hour and a half away. anyways i hope i have helped you and if you need someone to talk to let me know. 

Name: Rebeca | Date: Aug 9th, 2006 1:14 PM
Thanks Erica, my friend and i live like almost 3 hours away. so we wouldn't get to see each other much either. I just really want to help her out. she has really been through a lot. She holes inside of her. A hart the once belonged to a lil girl who died. So if she cant have babies she is just grateful that she is alive. I just truly hope that once i have the baby i can go home oh with out the baby. Go in all full to the top. and come out empty handed. 

Name: solanna | Date: Aug 21st, 2006 2:35 PM
i am looking for a seragent mother. i am going to be 30 in december and have 2 beautiful daughters but due to some health problems i had to have a partial hysterectomy 2 years ago i am now in a relationship with an amazing man and would love to have a child together. if you could help with websites or doctors or names whatever that would be awesome. i also have an email to contact me [email protected] 

Name: Amy Abbott | Date: Sep 10th, 2006 8:22 AM
Well first of all you cant just wake up one day and think that you can handel it to reall need to do some reserch on the topic and if you have had kids before then you know all about the hormone changes that happen yes in the end it will be hard to give up somthing the you kept a live for so long but you have to tell your self that its not my baby and you are doing it for a very good cause to let someone elce feel the joy in there lives that your own kids brought to you 

Name: momof1 | Date: Sep 15th, 2006 11:59 PM
Hello.. I'm actually on the road to becoming a first time surrogate mother. I have been thinking about surrogacy for about a year. And through much thought and prayer, I have decided that this is something I would like to do.
I have been talking with a wonderful couple for a couple of weeks now, and we are talking about meeting in the next few weeks.
I'm a single mother with a beautiful 2 year old son (he will be 3 in OCT), and I can't express in words the love and joy that he given me. And it would be an honor for me to help another family experince the same joy.
By no means is this going to be easy. Especially after the birth of the baby. That's why I believe it's so IMPORTANT to have the support of family and friends, and also to go a trained counselor during the pregnancy. I know it's going to be bitter sweet.
My only advice for someone that is thinking about doing this is to do alot of research, and to know the family you will be working with. And have an attorney or agency that is familiar with surrogacy. (Because each state has different laws about surrogacy...FYI..surrogacy is illegal in Washington DC).
Another good website to visit is www.surromomsonline.com.
If anyone has any questions or would like to talk about this further, please feel free to email [email protected] 

Name: Surrogate | Date: Sep 16th, 2006 1:07 AM
How does that all work?? Do you actually have to have sex with the husband?? or do they use intra uterine insemination? 

Name: momof1 | Date: Sep 16th, 2006 1:54 AM
There are 2 types of surrogate moms. GS (gestational surrogate),,,this is were they IP (intended parents) already have their own embryo's. You go to a clinic and the inseminate the embryos in the surrogate mothers womb.
The second type of surrogate mother is a TS (traditonal surrogate). There is were they use the surrogate mothers egg, and the IP (the fathers) sperm. This is usually done in a doctor's office. Though I have heard of some people trying to do this at home via the old turkey baster method (HEHE).
Never should a surrogate mother get pregnant via the means of any sexual contact. In my opinion this is HIGHLY unethical. 

Name: Surrogate | Date: Sep 16th, 2006 12:05 PM
momof1~ so like your becoming a surrogate for someone?? How much are they paying you if you don't mind me asking?? 

Name: yvette | Date: Sep 17th, 2006 12:32 PM
i was thinking about the same thing, my cousin had a baby boy, died of cancer, had 5 pregnancies, all misscarried, i just had a baby3 months ago and want to carry their baby 4 them. i think it would be a greatest gift that anyone could ever give them, i just dont know how to go about it. help!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Name: gina | Date: Sep 18th, 2006 10:48 PM
well i have alway wanted a child of my own and now that i am a mother i know how wonderfull it is to have a child and giving that to some one else would make me fell as if there is apart of me with that family all the time. and know that they would give that child all the love and comfort a mother will give there own child which they have given birth to. 

Name: Dee - interview | Date: Sep 21st, 2006 6:52 PM
I am looking to interview a pregnant surrogate mother for a Early Childhood Education paper due by Oct 3rd. Any names or locations would be changed for confidental reasons. My e-mai is [email protected] - thank you for your time 

Name: momof1 | Date: Sep 21st, 2006 7:44 PM
Dee...may I suggest you go to the website www.surromomsonline.com. I think you would have a better chance of finding someone that may be able to help you. I'm looking to be a first time surrogate, and I'm talking with a wonderful family right now, but I'm not pregnant. 

Name: Danielle | Date: Sep 23rd, 2006 4:55 AM
Actually i think that it is a great idea yea it may be difficult for you to realize that it isnt your child but just think, you are helping out a good friend of yours....i know for a fact that my best friend is going to do the same thing for me once i am ready to have another baby she has already done it once for me. i mean i love her to death and thank her everyday for the son that i already have thanks to her. in my opinion its just going to be a stronger bond between good friends. my friend has became like a sister to me. i help her raise her daughter and she helps me raise my son. we are just like a little family. i know that one day we arent going to be able to do the things that we do now with them but we are taking advantage of it now. if i could do it i would.
Best of Wishes

Name: Murr | Date: Feb 18th, 2007 11:36 PM
I have been wondering for a while and have been trying to look it up but I cant find anything anywhere about how much a seragent mother cost. so if anyone has an idea I would really appreicate it!

Name: mel211985 | Date: Feb 19th, 2007 2:59 AM
hiya im actually considering doing it after ive had my children but only after i have completed my family. Once ive made the concious decision that i do not want more kids it will be alot easier. I think its a wonderful thing to do i have family members that have been anable to have kids and ive see the hurt it can cause. I phoned up a surrogacy agency and spoke to a surrogate mother where are you from? im in the uk ive still got there number. 

Name: SoConfused | Date: Mar 1st, 2007 5:10 PM
I'm going through something similar to what you are going through. My friend can't have any more kids and she really wants to have a baby with her new husband! they're a really great couple and all and I would do anything for them. The other day she asked me to carry their baby for them because she doesn't have a uterus anymore she just has ovaries. I just dont know what to do because I want a baby of my own so badly Im scared I'll get attached to hers! does this make sense? I hope someone could help me decide! Thank You Soo Much 

Name: mel211985 | Date: Mar 1st, 2007 10:36 PM
my advice to you is not to do it. When i talked to other surrogate mothers from the surrogacy agency they advised me that i would find it really difficault if i had not completed my own family although if you are friends and i mean really close friends you could be part of the childs life anyway but if you already feel that you would become to attached personally i wouldnt do it. 

Name: mel211985 | Date: Mar 1st, 2007 10:38 PM
your mate will understand if she is a true friend explain your feelings. 

Name: Sara | Date: Jun 18th, 2007 4:09 AM
Hi i am looking into being a seragent mother 

Name: jen | Date: Jun 18th, 2007 9:33 PM
How much would you have topay a serogant mother? 

Name: Heather | Date: Jun 25th, 2007 1:06 AM
I am 28 years old I have 4 beautiful girls. I have my tubes tied but we can always do intro vetro. I would love to help anyone that needs me to carry a baby for them. We can even use my eggs if you need to. 

Name: Andria | Date: Jun 25th, 2007 4:07 AM
Hello my name is Andria as I said I am about to turn 22 in July. I am healthy and young and fit. I would love to give the chance for someone to have children that can't any more or has not been able to. I hope that I can be of some help. 

Name: teebabe21 | Date: Jun 29th, 2007 3:25 PM
Hi... I am from Louisiana and my husband and I want to have a baby of our own but we dont think I can have one on my own..Any advice 

Name: Teebabe_21 | Date: Jun 29th, 2007 3:34 PM
Hi I would like to talk more to you. I would love it if you would beable to help us out with this.I know it is alot to ask of someone to carry your child. But we really want to start our own family. My husband is 21 and I am turning 21 in November. We have been together for 6 years and still counting. To find out more about us please email me at [email protected] Thanks for everything and hope to hear from you soon. 

Name: Beautifull | Date: Jul 12th, 2007 2:19 AM
Hi is there anone here that will have a child for me? 

Name: LoveCristin | Date: Jul 13th, 2007 6:06 AM
being a surrogate is one of the best things a woman could do and to be able to do it for your best friend!!!...OMG!!! It would feel so great giving her that gift and then being able to see that baby grow and be loved.....I would do it for her!!! Good Luck and God Bless!!!!! 

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