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Name: CindyMK

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I have a 3 year old son with an ex boyfriend. Said ex calls to see my son once every month or two, he's never paid child support, has no phone number to reach him at. This man has a nasty temper and has never shown any true interest in being in my sons life, on christmas he asked to take my son for a day to spend time with him, I told him no becuase my son barley knows him. Besides that i told him he needed a set schedule to see him on a regular basis and he needed to get a cell phone and a safe car seat before he would be taking my son anywhere. He recently told me that his room mate is a drunk and that he was going to move in with one of his friends who last i heard does a lot of drugs. I'm not sure what to do, should I get a custody lawyer and start setting things in motion? he owes me $13,000.00 in back child support and I'm hoping to entice him to give up all parental rights if I don't make him pay it but I just don't know, I'm stuck! any advice? ↓

Name: alice20 | Date: Dec 28th, 2006 12:07 PM

You need to do whats best for your child. My sons father chooses not to have anything to do with him but i still got advice,it maybe diff where you are but i was told before you go to court you must go to mediation and see if you can agree on custody and visitation only then if you dont will it go to court. As for the child support your intitled to it get it i went a year without it just to make life easier for him and regreted it. Giving parental rights away is a big step i asked my sons dad to do it and even tho he wants nothing to do with him didnt like the idea of it just in case one day he did. If it makes you feel better talk to a lawyer see what they recomend but at the end of the day do what you think is best for both you and your child. ↑

Name: mel211985 | Date: Dec 29th, 2006 12:09 AM

you gotta do wot you think is best my daughters dad is not around at all he phones regually to speak to his eldest but he has not seen her since i was 5 months pregant and has never met his 5 month old he has never paid anything in 4 yrs to either of my girls. I went to a solicitor to ask about him giving up his rights the solicitor said he dosent have many anyway as we were not married. you will never get that money back personally just take things slow with him meet him a few times without your son but with a friend if you dont feel comfortable on your own with him see how reliable he is then you can slowley introdue your son. ↑