sweetheart dont worry!! if he lives with his mom at 27 the courts are going to understand and not give it to him NOW he might be able to get him over the weekends of maybe everyother weekend.. does he have a job?? did u get abortion papers when he asked u to get an abortion?? like info on it.. or something to prove he wanted u to?? that can stand up in court also!! do u have a job?? a place to live?? are u liveing with anyone else?? ↑ |
Chances are great that if he can't take care of himself he's probably not going to be able to find his way to the courts to start the battle for custody. He doesn't sound like a very motivated person in other aspects of his life I doubt his son will get him motivated, especially if he wanted you to abort him to begin with. My advice to you is just live your life as if he never existed. If he wants to cause stress let him do it to someone else. Take care of yourself and your son and don't worry about anything else unless and until it happens. ↑ |
Pleasen get legal visitiation rights. Also go after him for child support there are places that offer costs on sliding scale. ↑ |
I can not tell you, just give my opinion... my ex husband used to do that to me when i was younger..... i had my 2nd child (by him) when i was 18, and we weren't together after that. He would threaten that he was going to take our daughter away from me, and i would cry and get upset..well, that's been 8 years now, and i've learned a lot since then.. And, all situations are different. When it came down to it, he didn't really want our daughter for the weekends, he would just do it, because he found that he could use that to hurt me. I just had to call his bluff. But, i can understand that yeah, how can a guy take care of a child, if not himself? Are you guys married? If not, then perhaps it would be easier to make sure you get full custody, and wouldn't have to worry about the dad doing that stuff..
but, good luck in whatever you decide to do. ↑ |