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Name: Tina
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I have been seeing this guy for 2 1/2 years and i love him so much. I got pregant for him in April 2005 and he wanted be to get an abortion so i did, just for his sake cause he is not ready. Im 22 and Now im pregant again and i dont want another abortion, but he does. So he said he will leave me if i keep the child. So what do i do? I really want to have this baby, i was so depressed over the first abortion.
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Name: FYI | Date: Jan 9th, 2006 6:55 PM
Keep the baby or place him/her for adoption. Abortion is NOT a form of birth control! 

Name: Lonely | Date: Jan 9th, 2006 7:52 PM
hi Tina
ur guy maybe not ready but if he threatens to leave u if u keep the baby, how can u rely on him in the future?? He just wants relationship without commitment, and if he can leave u when u need him the most how much do u think he will hesitate before leaving u in any other situation?? I don't mean to be nasty but girl u need to wake up.
killing a child is a sin, and killing for the sake of love is also stupid and naive. If this guy loves u he won't leave u, and if leaves it means he doesnt love u, so what do u need a guy like this for??
My advice is keep the baby, and if he leaves u'll know he would in future anyway.
We have to be responsible for our actions, when we have sex we enjoy it, but when it comes to the outcomes we love to run away. By the way did u know that babies feel the pain when we abort them?
Good luck. 

Name: tina | Date: Jan 10th, 2006 3:02 PM
Thanks for your advice, i really need it. 

Name: tina | Date: Jan 10th, 2006 3:05 PM
Hi Lonely,
You know i guess ur right. But he was so good to me we always had a good time, i guess he is a chicken. I just hope in the future he wont do that he will be man enough to take care of us. Im 8 weeks pregnant and i havent told my mom yet, i just hope she is not disappionted in me, im her older daughther. Dam, im 22 and scared!!!! I have one more semester in college, so i know i can do it 

Name: kim | Date: Jan 12th, 2006 2:25 AM
please email me at [email protected] there are so many options you have and i volunteer with an organization that helps and everything is confidential and no agencies involved. 

Name: Snoopy | Date: Jan 15th, 2006 10:55 PM
Let him leave. I know that sounds mean, but why would you want to be with him, he sounds like a jerk. You can come back and force support from him, but an abortion is not the way to go. 

Name: Lara | Date: Jan 17th, 2006 11:59 PM
Have the baby. Let him leave. 

Name: carolee | Date: Jan 26th, 2006 3:29 AM
Start standing up to men now! Don't let him threaten you. It's your body, and abortions whether you agree or disagree with them moraly, are bad for you and can cause infertility in the future when you find a man that really loves you and isn't selfish like this one. If you want to have the baby, have it. If you want to give it life, have it and choose adoption. Don't let anyone pressure you into abortion! There are other choices. 

Name: teliza25 | Date: Jan 30th, 2006 1:17 AM
I'm seven months pregant and the father of my baby keeps cheating on me. So I decided to leave him alone. It hard because I feel like I'm going thru this pregancy alone. He don't call any more or ask how I'm doing since I kick him out my house. He was paying for me to see the doctors but he stop that now. It's such a scary sitution that I'm in. I thank god that he has being giving be the strenght I need to go day to day. I just wanted to tell a little piece of my story. 

Name: Mostunique | Date: Oct 8th, 2008 9:06 PM
Sorry to have to say this but chances are he's going to leave you at some point anyway.. I think you need to stop doing whats best for this guy and do whats best for you . and if he really loved you then he would be there for you no matter what.. 

Name: sunshinesunday | Date: Oct 15th, 2008 2:07 AM
Well..Sorry to hear that . But I want to say there is no use to cry for spilt milk. Maybe you can find a one who really love you. As I know, Singleparentloving.com is a good place . Maybe you should have try there to end you single life! 

Name: charmed1 | Date: Dec 1st, 2008 2:13 AM
Sorry to say but he sounds like a big jerk who likes to have his own way and doesn't care how you feel. Also sounds like a big bully. I'd have left that one a long time ago. I've been a single parent for a while now, it is hard but rewarding :) ill never let any male control my life. 

Name: prettymommie | Date: Dec 2nd, 2008 3:55 AM
Do what you think is right for you...it sounds like this guy likes to be in control and knows you will do what he wants. Depression is very natural after having an abortion...it doesn't really ever go away. That doesn't mean it was not the right thing to do it just means it is difficult. Continuing to get pregnant with the same guy who doesn't want a baby right now doesn't seem like a good thing. What are you trying to get him to do? He doesn't sound like he has changed his tune since the first pregnancy but you seem to be in a different place...do what YOU think is best for YOU. He may not be there for you either way much longer.... 

Name: jennifer | Date: Dec 14th, 2008 4:06 AM
You keep your baby.I was in the same situation, except i refused to have an abortion, yes my babies dad left me, she is now 14 months old, and i have always raised her alone, plus i have 5 other kids from my marriage.. yes its hard, yes it hurts, but if you have faith in GOD[ things will eventually turn out good for you, maybe not when you want , maybe not for a long time, all you can do now is take care of you and your child, god will always take care of us mothers who do the right thing..if you have any faith, read your bible look under conception and you will read there is a soul at conception...just like there is a soul in you and your boyfriend, when you take a way someones soul you kill them, would you pull a trigger and kill the man you love?? then why pull the trigger on your childs life...and in the end if you really love this man, why would want to kill a part of him??? even if he wants you to?? love is doing the right thing, even when the one you love is doing the wrong thing.. 

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