Okay, I am pregnant. I know I want to tell the father, but I am quite scared that he'll deny the child as being his, or he'll just completely disregard his responsibilities. I am 19 and he's 25 with two children. This is my first.
I just wanted some advice on telling him. ↓
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| Name: marco3502 | Date: Oct 7th, 2006 12:20 AM |
Hi there. I am a guy, and my girlfriend was afraid of telling me that she was pregnant at a very young age as well, as well as tellibng her parents. Now, she's my wife and pregnant again.
This is the sort of situation where you will be able to tell his true feelings and love for you. He might be a little upset, scared, worried, but that doesn't mean right away that he is a bad guy or will deny his child.
But, there are guys who are jersk, who will outright deny their child, and at 25 with two children already, I would think he'd be more responsible.
try to work things out with him there, and I truly hope he is with you for all the right reasons, because he loves you.
Iam only 19, and my wife is 17, our parents forced us to marry young 2 years ago, because my wife got pregnant at 13 years old. We realized our mistakes, but have fought to stay together, and I have never stopped loving her or my daughter, or my new daughter she is carrying now.
Your boyfriend should treat you the same, and own up to his responsibilites to you. ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Oct 8th, 2006 9:41 PM |
Basically when i first found out i was pregnate i was so scared to tell him, i thought he would react the same way, because the type of person he was. In the end i just gave him the positive pregnacy test and said here...im pregnante.
What i learnt from my situation is once you have told him, and you dont know how he is going to react about the situation..give him a couple days to let the idea settle in his mind..before talking about it more seriously
If he is going to flip out at you and denny the child as his or not take responsiblity...tell him you will be missing out on a wonderful thing in his life, and tell him you will gladly do a DNA test. That should shock some sense into him. ↑ |
| Name: jplaw0821 | Date: Oct 9th, 2006 4:04 AM |
| You just need to sit him down and tell him one on one. The longer you wait, the harder and more stressful it will be. No matter how long you wait, his reaction won't change. He will deal in his own way. If he denies it, then tell him you have no problem doing a paternity test. A lot of times, guys use that as a way of dealing and avoiding the reality of the situation. Let him know you will test if that's what it takes. How he handles his other two kids should be at least a small idea of how he will handle this child. Hope that helps. ↑ |
| Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Oct 10th, 2006 10:05 AM |
| Let us know how you went f.klee :) ↑ |
| Name: goodmommy22 | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 3:58 AM |
| I did not tell my sons father about him until he was 3 months old and he doesnt believe that he is his and he will not talk to me my son is now 3 and never seen his father. I think that it would be best to just tell him and discuss everything with him and do not be scared to talk to him and tell him how you feel and that you need his help with this. You didnt get pregnant by yourself. ↑ |
| Name: Lizzi | Date: Oct 12th, 2006 3:34 PM |
| I would sit him down and show him this post! ↑ |
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