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I'm 26 years old and 7 weeks pregnant. This will be my first child. My boyfriend is so unsupportive. I'm going through a lot of emotions and he's so distant. He doesn't understand my mood swings nor does he try to make it better. I didn't feel like having sex yesterday and he slept in the living room. Needless to say that didn't make anything better. Now we are not even speaking. I was up until 5:00 a.m crying while he was on the couch sleeping comfortably. This is supposed to be a happy time for me yet i'm sooo unhappy and all I want him to do is show some support or understanding. At least try to understand shit pretend to understand. I feel like I'm doing this all by myself even though he is here. Its pointless he's not even sharing in this experience with me. I thought he was happy when I told him I was pregnant I guess not. I don't think we will work out and my child will be fatherless. I wanted my baby to have a stable family with two parents. I don't see that happening and that is depressing me. I feel like I let my baby down. ↓
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| Name: Reale21 | Date: Apr 7th, 2007 5:54 PM |
| You are not the only one. I just want to say that to start off with. I can relate to the depressing feeling of feeling unwanted for both you and your baby. I don't know your current situation now but, maybe he is a little scared and worry about how he can provide and make it happen for his new family. This is scary for men that is why most of them leave but, he is still there. Give him sometime if, it hasn't changed, say exactly what you wrote today to him. Find out where he stands in the relationship and in the baby's life because, there's nothing more stressing then not having a plan B. You need to know if you need to start preparing to be a single mommie. I know that is not idealistic for you and most. It isn't for me either but, this is what life throws at you. I am 21, 16 weeks pregnant, the father is studying aboard in Brazil, he will return in July but, I am unsure if he will be there for "us". In the beginning when I found out I was 6weeks pregnant he told me things I don't even want to repeat if, I were to keep the baby. When his decision seemed clear to me I knew what I had to do in order to make a good life for my baby. So far am successful in that path. It took awhile to be happy because the father wasn't but, it was my decision so I made it my own happiness. You can do the same too. Its takes time though. ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Apr 9th, 2007 1:15 PM |
Don't lose faith in your boyfriend just yet. I am married and have three kids. I know how real this pregnancy is for you but, for a lot of guys it doesn't seem real untill your stomach gets bigger or untill they can feel the baby kick. Make sure to take him to your sonagrams that might help. Now him getting made just because you don't feel like having sex is silly. So let him be a baby and sulk. Try not to let it hurt you so bad. Sometimes men can just be childish like that. Men act like that sometimes even when your not pregnant. He might as well get use to it women don't want to have sex as much as men. They tend to get horney when the wind blows and women need attention to get that way. Thats a fight I still haven't won. I tell him I need him to love on me with out expecting something in return for me to want to be that way. He tells me that if he pays attention to me it makes him want to have sex. So that one is a losing batlle we all just have to learn to deal with. If he said he loves you before you got pregnant just be patient he'll probally come around when it feels more real to him.
lol,
Michelle ↑ |
| Name: dmt | Date: Apr 9th, 2007 1:21 PM |
Oh yeh, about the depression try not to thing about him so much right now that wil make you depressed guys just aren't as sensitive as we are. Try concentrating on the wonderful life that is growing inside of you. Look at baby clothes and car seats and stuff. That is always a good way to feel better when your pregnant. Another thing my husband never had a whole lot to do with the pregnancies in the beginnning because, he was scared of getting attached untill he knew for sure I wasn't going to miscarrie. So my husband never got excited untill I was at least 12 weeks. We have been married for 8 years now and have 3 children. Think positive you guys will make it.
lol,
Michelle ↑ |
| Name: briseis | Date: May 5th, 2007 12:11 PM |
| It's a horrible situation to be in, and I can relate to it. My fiancé and I have had a few horrible fights since I've been pregnant. And I've felt like walking away too, and I would if I thought it would benefit my baby. No baby should be born into a warzone. If you and your boyfriend don't communicate, then your problems will never be solved; the best you'll get is them swept under the carpet. I know how men don't communicate, and don't want to talk. My fiancé genuinely believes that muttering an emotionless 'sorry' makes everything better again, and always asks me to tell him what I want him to say. But if the good times outweigh the bad, and you love this man then it will, sadly be up to you to make the effort and force him to communicate. If he bluntly refuses and you continue to argue, then you might need to consider other options. I hope it works out ... xxx ↑ |
| Name: Ava | Date: Jun 19th, 2007 12:37 AM |
| Hi Kiki, where are you from? ↑ |
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