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Name: confusedmum2b
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I really don't know what I should do. I told my family on the weekend that i'm pregnant. about 7 1/2weeks now. My mom at first was supportive, giving me advice and wanted me to tell other family the next day. Then the next day she tells me that she thinks that my boyfriend isn't going to stick around if I do have this baby, and she thinks its best (even though she thinks abortion is wrong) for me to have an abortion.
I told my guy that and he said that he agrees with her! At first he thought of abortion but told me that whatever I decided, he would be there to support me 100% of the way. He'd even started thinking about getting the child interested in metal music like him when they were old enough, and told me he wanted to tell his brother and his mom. Now he's completely against it.
I really don't know what to do. I thought I could just give in and force myself to go with their wishes and even started to set up and appointment. I don't think I can go through with it. I feel its the wrong thing to do.
I asked my mom the other day if she would come with me to get it done and she said she would, I don't think I'm going. Yesterday she wanted me to call her to let her know how I was doing because I was so upset. She was the one who started crying on the phone because SHE was upset about the situation! I asked her "how do you think I feel?". She had to let me go because she was too upset to talk. Now I think that she doesn't want me to do this either. I feel so alone and confused I don't know what to do. I need HELP
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Name: Roze | Date: Nov 26th, 2008 5:29 AM
Do what you want to do not what everyone else wants you to do. If your mom loves you she will stay by your side now matter what you do. Just like my mom is doing for me and my soon to be son. 

Name: Parker | Date: Dec 1st, 2008 10:30 PM
Hi I can understand that you are a whirl of emotions! Trust me. My parents wanted me to get an abortion after I was raped but I wouldn't. They kicked my out. I had a beatuiful baby girl on 11/19/08. I can promise you that once you see your baby you will never regreat your desision. Right know I watch my baby sleep and I just bawl because I love her so much. WHat is the worst your family can do? I promise you that if you are not 100% sure to get a abortion don't!!!!!!!! Please email me at [email protected]! I really hope everything turns out okay and remember there is always adoption! Have you ever heard of a open adoption? You can see the baby get pictures and really form a bond with the family. Please consider this. I am fourteen how old r u?

Name: Prettymommie | Date: Dec 2nd, 2008 3:51 AM
Please know that the only person that you have to live with whatever decision YOU make...no one has to live in your shoes. I would never tell someone what to do in that situation. I have six children but in my younger years and actually between children I had two abortions. I will tell you that I live with those every day of my life and I also know that the decision was right for me at the time. Follow your heart and you will end up right where you should be. Have faith and trust yourself. With or without your boyfriend you can raise your child or with or without him you can terminate your pregnancy. Trust yourself...you know what you want. Many blessings! 

Name: confusedmum2b | Date: Dec 3rd, 2008 11:16 PM
I think I may have my guy through this after all. He's even bought a new car with 4 doors to make things easier for when the baby comes. I hope he doesn't change his mind.
On the other hand, I told my mom that I've decided to keep the baby and she's mad at me. She gave me a really long lecture about how there is no way that my boyfriend is going to be around to help out, and that there's no way that I can do it alone. She also said that I'm going to ruin my entire life and end up regretting the whole thing. She knows how I feel about abortion and she says she feels the same. If she feels the same, she wouldn't be pushing so hard for something that I'll never be able to bring myself to do. If the situation was different, there may be a way that I would end up choosing abortion but I don't feel it's right at this time. I feel like I've lost my family because they won't accept my decision. 

Name: morgan | Date: Dec 16th, 2008 3:54 AM
what ever you do DONT DO IT! there are so many things that can go wrong including lossing your own life! that is never an option! if you can not aford to do this then you should oncider adoption. there is open and closed, thousnads of couples want a baby but they cant have tham. God has blessed you with this child so what ever you decide do not abort it, that is like murder! 

Name: camden | Date: Dec 16th, 2008 4:02 AM
let me tell you something. i got pregnant at 17! it was the end of my sophmore year. everybody was upset and mad as hell. i looked at my options but aportion was never one of them...but i decided to keep the baby, nine months later i had a beautiful healthy baby girl named hannah. i retured to school the next year and just this past may graduated from high school. i was a single mother working full time, going to school and spending as much time with my daughter as i could. it was tough it was so hard sometimes that i just wanted to give up...but i never did. now things are getting a little better i am in college and working full time, going to school to be a nurse. my advice to you is just to find all the recorces that you can, it is ok to ask for help! i hope that what ever you decide to do makes you happy with no regrets! 

Name: confusedmum2b | Date: Dec 18th, 2008 3:54 PM
Well I have good news. My boyfriend has decided that having a baby isn't the end of the world after all, he's told his family and everything. He really seems to have had a comlete change of heart. My mom on the other hand is still unhappy that I'm pregnant, and thinks its a big mistake for us to keep the baby (which is what I decided to do). I'm flying out to Langly BC with my guy to spend christmas with him and his family. I was really dreading spending christmas with my family because of my mom's reaction and the fact that she was pushing so hard for abortion. She was really hoping I would choose it so we wouldn't have to tell the rest of the family. Only my parents know so far because she hadn't wanted me to tell anyone. Aside from that everything is going well. 

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