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Name: Jane
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The baby is due May 1st. and I hadn't thought much about labor until now, After my exam the midwife made a comment about how great it was that didn't abort the pregnancy and that the baby is growing well ,stong and healthy. The baby's father is a married trucker and I did not know that until I told him I was pregnant. He thought I aborted the baby. When he came by last month he told me that he couldn't be involved and ended the relationship.
I am giving this baby up because I just don't think I would be good at parenting a baby that I am not happy about carrying. Now just thinking about how long and painful labor is I am really scared. In 2 weeks I will be leaving the state I live in to have the baby. The adoptive parents have a guest house and I will be staying with them. They are so excited and honestly I just want to have this baby now before it gets any bigger. I hate the way I look and with these braxton contractions starting I get reminded that the real labor is coming
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Name: Kristina | Date: Mar 17th, 2006 4:56 PM
I could tell you not to worry, but that's just not realistic advice. What I hope you can think of instead is the beautiful baby you will be bringing into this world and the loving and unselfish gift you are giving a family who without you could not realize their dream of becoming parents. I am an adoptive parent too and I love my daughter's birthmom and pray for her everyday. There is not a day that goes by that I don't say thank you to her for the gift she has given me and my husband. You can do this. You were strong enough to go against this man's wishes for you to abort, you have been strong in your pregnancy, and you will continue to be strong during the labor. If no one else says it to you, I want you to know that you are an amazing woman and I am so proud of your convictions. God Bless and I know you can do it. With love and respect. 

Name: Courtney | Date: Apr 6th, 2006 5:06 PM
Dont be afraid. My labor was 42 hours, and I would do it again in a heart beat. I didn't have any drugs! The worst thing about it is probably the last 10 minutes before you start pushing. Then when you start pushing its more of a relief than anything. Dont be afraid, you'll be great!!!! 

Name: Jane | Date: Apr 13th, 2006 12:02 AM
I went for a check up with the new midwife. She said that the baby needed to be turned. That hurt so bad and I think my belly is a lot bigger since the baby was turned. She thinks the baby is about 7 lbs. She gave me exercises so that the baby stays right for a vaginal birth but a csection seems easier . I just want this baby out. . The midwife wants the baby to come in his time. I just have this over with. Everytime I look down at my huge belly and feel the baby move I am reminded about what a pig his father was for wanting to kill him. But the idea of pushing out a seven pound baby is really scarry. Even my maternity clothes are tight. Any advice for speeding things up. I just want to be done 

Name: sue | Date: Apr 13th, 2006 10:32 PM
As you progress in labor you can get an epidural and delivery is really more pleasant. Only when you go totally natural do you have a lot of pain but it is soon forgotten. The staff will walk you through it. Don't be afraid. 

Name: Holly | Date: Apr 14th, 2006 5:13 PM
I admire your courage about giving up your baby and agree you are doing it for all the right reasons. As far as labor goes....OUCH!!!!!OWWWW!!!! I would recommend an epidural so you feel nothing. I did not get the epidural and it hurt like nothing I had ever felt in my life! My son was 8lbs.5oz. and healthy though thank GOD! The best way I can describe labor is ,if you have ever had a crap attack ,the kind where your stomach is in cramping pain?? Multiply that pain by 10 and you got labor!! Women on welfare who keep having babies should be made to go through childbirth without an epidural,it would probably cut down on the # of kids they had and the # of kids the state had to support. I was on welfare when I had my son but to this day I remember how it felt and to this day I only have 1 kid and my tubes are tied. 

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