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Name: JustmeandtheKid26
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I am nearly four months preggers and I'm 25. The father is 24 and lives in Virginia. I used to live there but just recently left him because I'm tired of the b.s. in what we called a relationship. There was another female he met before me and became attached to her son. They still talk today but of course he and I met, fell in love, and began having children. This is our second child (the first was stillborn). I can't take the fact that he acts as if they are more important to him than me and my children are. She still wants to be with him though she is supposedly gay and this is why I asked him to cut the communication with her if it wasn't about the child.
Also, he was good to me and we'd been through a lot in this last year and a half. The times were good. But he is very childish, a liar, immature, is secretive about his female friends, and is quite disrespectful. I chose to leave and am proud; however, we haven't spoken in a month and I'm wondering if he's hurting just as bad as I am. I have started moving on. I attend church so I can fellowship with other Christians and get to know more about God. I'm afraid, I feel rejected, and I'm a little insecure in my abilities as a parent. If this pregnancy is successful, this will be when my work begins. I'm back in my hometown of Chicago. What do you all think of this situation?
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Name: annie7224 | Date: Oct 31st, 2007 12:12 AM
Well are you sure you want to be aparent all alone? Its very tough. I commenc you for not staying in a relationship that is not healthy, God will lead your way trust in hjim. We trust that someday Our family will grow thru adoption since we are unable to have children and all we want is to be parents, we know that things happen in Gods time and he has a plan for each of us. Do you have family to help you support you and the baby? Do you need help? clothes etc? let me know. [email protected] 

Name: hollyjade | Date: Nov 3rd, 2007 11:34 PM
im in the same boat...the only difference is im still with him...he is my backbone and i dont know where i would go or what i would do..i have a daughter and my seconds on the way he is the main provider and i dont even know where to begin if i left...you must be a strong women to go through the birth of a stillborn and be on your second child...and aslo leave the man you love..i wish had your stregnth...i wish you all the best 

Name: JustmeandtheKid26 | Date: Nov 6th, 2007 4:04 AM
Thank you both. How do I write directly back to you on here if I don't have your email addresses? Anyway, he called me probably the same or the next day I posted that and has since asked me to come back to Virginia. That's sweet but he still hasn't changed the things he needs to change. I'm nervous about that but I don't wanna care. I want to be here with my own family, who supports me, and loves me no matter what my issues are. I know he loves me but if I don't make it clear and if he makes no changes, it's definitely going to be a strain on the relationship as far as the child goes. I'm really afraid. I'm surprised that I'm not more interested than I normally would have been about him "seeming" to come to his senses. I'm nervous about telling I DO NOT want to come back there. I don't want to be around his family anymore. Not that they terrorized me but come on, they're only there for him. My family is for ME. He can't come here because he just started this new job and he gets paid a pretty penny. I don't wanna go back and I don't know how to tell him. I don't want to go backwards. 

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