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Name: Elaine
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I need help. I have 2 sons and am going through a divorce and I don't know where to go from here. My ex has extreme mental problems and I am trying to do the best for my sons but I seem to continual get stomped on by him. He refuses visitation all the time, refuses to pay child support and he is not concerned for the well being of the kids. He wants what he wants and that is it. He doesn't for see any dangers. He thinks it is perfectly exceptable to put the kids in harms way. I need help on trying to manage and mantain a suitable environment for my kids. I also need to find a support group in my area for single moms with boys because I know absolutley nothing about raising boys. I am having aggression problems with my eldest son, he doesn't feel he needs to listen to anything I have to say because his Dad never did. Somebody out there if you have any words of wisdom or adivice or you just need some to speak to contact me.
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Name: Jackie | Date: Nov 11th, 2005 4:28 AM
Hi Elaine - keep your chin up ..... 1st for the boys maybe you could look into a big brother program .... I think they are all over the US .... as for you, stay strong for the boys - you need to let them know how much you love them - and that their dad does too but its just gonna be them and you now ..... maybe pick a 'fun' night once a week, give them a choice of things that they would like to do ... maybe a movie - skating - ice cream - board games etc ....
I wish I could offer more - but these are just some suggestions.

Good luck and keep us posted. If you want to talk email me and we can exchange numbers ,, [email protected].

Look forward to hearing from you soon

Jackie
www.momdad2bee.com 

Name: mother.of.4 | Date: Aug 23rd, 2011 8:26 PM
well you should spank the little devil bend him over your knee and pull down his pants and underwear the paddle this barebottm it will work 

Name: CC51 | Date: Aug 27th, 2011 9:17 PM
Its probably all about getting at you, not the kids. Or he really hasn't that concern of the kids.

The basics first, sleeping time and when when they wake up try to get routine.....the rest is work in progress.

I have no advice, other than what works for me kind of... I'm a mess most the time, but over 3yrs after the divorce its gotten a hell of a lot easier!

Routine will help because then he might become easier to deal with.

Also watching trends, does he become more trouble at night or in the mornings, or in the weekends...holidays etc. for example.

You have to set aside emotions a little and note these trends and you will get a upper hand in responding or avoiding them.

I learned not to talk to my spouse in the mornings...never....and it helped get the divorce started without as much drama.

In the end the divorce was a great thing. It ended her dope addiction and forced her to get a job and stop being a mouthy complaining unappreciative slob. 

Name: Mona | Date: Aug 28th, 2011 1:27 PM
I think that you can find a local church to help you with needed resources. i am going through something similar. find out some of the things your oldest son likes and try to spend some alone time doing those things with him. also, go to meetup.com for support groups 

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