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Name: solonz
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I am 35 years old, single, and have decided that I would like to become a mother. I would like to chat with anyone that has actively taken the steps down the path that I am thinking of taking...
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Name: Pinkguin88 | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 8:00 AM
I am 36 and pregnant and single. The father of my baby is very supportive but our relationship is new. I was on the pill and got pregnant by accident. So this is a gift. I decided to have my baby and if I am going to raise it alone I feel good about it. Sure, I will be older than most moms. BUT, I am more financially secure, mentally stable and happier than I was 10 years ago. 

Name: Leslie | Date: Jun 27th, 2006 10:08 AM
I have a 3 month old daughter. I had her by artificial insemination. I was 42 years old and hadn't found that prince charming that I wanted to have a family with. And I had no more time to wait. So, I did it on my own. And she is perfect! I can't tell you how in love with her I am. Or how much time I spend just sitting there, look ing at her in total awe.
It hasn't been too difficult for me because I was raised, along with three siblings, by a single parent. I wasn't plagued with doubt that it could be done. I know it can. But there are those out there who will try to convince you that it can't be, or that it's selfish, or that it's bad for the child, etc. You need to clear in your head of what you want and strong enough to tell those people to take a flying leap!
As far as the process itself. Be prepared to act quickly once you go into the doctors office. You should already have your donor picked out if possible. I went in to the office in April. Less than two weeks later I was being inseminated. That one didn't take because I had polyps. So in May I had surgery to remove them. Then in June, immediately following my first post surgery period I got inseminated again, and that one took. It took two cycles for me, plus the surgery as well as a roto routering of my fallopian tubes. That was done not because there was anything wrong, just because I was told by my doctor that it significantly increased the pregnancy rate of her patients.
It's an expensive process. The sperm alone was approximately $500.00 a batch. I used 2 batches each time. Then there are the doctors visits, the lab work (there will be a lot of blood draws), the medications (pills and injections), the ultrasounds....it all adds up quick. And that doesn't count everything you'll need once you're pregnant. From maternity clothes to nursery room furniture. Be sure you have some money set aside for last minute surprises too.
When are you thinking of doing this? Have you honed in on any donors yet?
I'm very excited for you. 

Name: ChoiceMom | Date: Jul 1st, 2006 3:59 PM
Check out the ChoiceMoms yahoo group....or ChoosingSingleMotherhood.com website. 

Name: ChoiceMom | Date: Jul 1st, 2006 4:00 PM
Check out the ChoiceMoms yahoo group (currently 150 members)....or ChoosingSingleMotherhood.com website. 

Name: Dorothy | Date: Jul 2nd, 2006 5:38 AM
I'm heading down the same path. 35 was my self imposed deadline for it to happen the traditional way and now I'm investigating donor insemination. Good luck to you! 

Name: caleb | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 10:16 PM
love you baby 

Name: caleb | Date: Jul 11th, 2006 10:35 PM
whats up mom 

Name: kay | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 9:02 PM

Name: joe | Date: Jul 13th, 2006 9:06 PM
what is 

Name: sally24 | Date: Aug 14th, 2006 3:00 PM
Have you considered adoption ? if you have the means I understand the power to want to have your own baby but there is a world full of so many children that need good homes , my aunt never found anyone she wanted to be with or have a family with but she still wanted children in her early fourties she sought out several doctors and found out she could get pregnant with fertility treatments and such she weighed all the postives and negatives , but in the end she realized if she had so much to give why not give it to a baby that was allready out there needing it. Adoption was a year and a half long process that was somewhat costly , but she found a wonderfull 9month old baby girl who is know 10 years old and they both got what they wanted and most needed. 

Name: trivelle | Date: Aug 20th, 2006 5:22 AM
I say go for it. When you are ready, you will know. I am in a good position financially and emotionally now that i wouldn't have been in 10 years ago - when many of my friends had kids. I will be able to give my baby all the love and emotional supports she needs without having to worry about missing out on things because I've already done them. I'm hoping my child will appreciate my life experience as we navigate our way through life together. Make a plan and go for it. Good luck. 

Name: newly pregnant momma | Date: Aug 26th, 2006 6:56 PM
Im so happy for you! I am not 35 but Im 25, this might still seem young but I have served in the military for 4 years, have my masters degree, have a stable job and my own home now for 3 years in a great family neigborhood. I can't seem to be in the right relationships but have a passion for children, anyone's children. what I did was get a sperm donor who was willing to donate for free, I checked everything out including testing for various diseases. What I did was I took evening primrose oil from my period up until ovulation, It's important to stop the evening primrose oil after ovulation because if you get pregnant, it can cause contractions. I took ovulex(www.ovulex.com), pre-natal vitamins, my periods are typically 31 days long, so I brought clear blue easy ovulation predictor, the previous month my surge was on the second of the month, about the middle of the cycle. On the second of july no surge, on the third a took a flight to UTAH(1 hour), got there at 9pm I tested and I was surging, my donor gave me a sample in a syringe, he came back that morning gave another sample, the third day I was still surging, so I got one more sample. So I only had the cost of the flight and a hotel. On July 13, I got the positve pregnancy test 6 days before I was do for a period. Some other women he donated to would not get pregnant, they started chatting with me and did the things that I did and got pregnant, I think there are 3 of us. People may judge but I have a big heart, I am smart financially stable, and ready. I am in my 3rd month and the minute I saw that heartbeat tears came, I love this child already. I say go for it! Don't worry about being judge, If you can provide, You deserve that baby, good luck Hun. If you need any tips,let me know. 

Name: vivian | Date: Sep 6th, 2006 6:02 PM
i am single girl looking for a serious relationship with honest man ...i am 25 years old from washington 

Name: kams | Date: Sep 6th, 2006 6:10 PM
i am kam from usa looking for a honest woman for a maried .......here is my email [email protected] am 41years old 

Name: brianv7 | Date: Oct 17th, 2006 9:41 PM
pick me pick me 

Name: l3itchyl3unny | Date: Oct 18th, 2006 3:31 AM

Name: rebecca | Date: Aug 5th, 2007 2:46 AM
Hello solonz,
im a single mother but mine wasn't by choice, my boyfriend dumped me 2 weeks after our daughter was born. It has been farily difficult raising her on my own and as i am only 19.
The advice i could give you is make sure you will have a lot of support from your friends and family, and try and get some contact with women in the same area as you.
good luck with it all. just remember a child is a beautiful gift that shouldn't be taken for granted. 

Name: Daniel | Date: Sep 14th, 2007 3:54 PM
hey wats up i would like to go the path ur going 

Name: Lisac | Date: Sep 20th, 2007 3:51 AM
I have recently began visiting a Dr for IVF 

Name: denise | Date: Oct 17th, 2007 1:10 AM

Name: Roxann | Date: Oct 28th, 2007 12:40 AM
I am now trying to concieve via AI. My last cycle ended in a miscarriage and I will be trying again in January. I am 32 yrs old and single. I would be willing to answer any questions you may have. 

Name: Roxann | Date: Oct 28th, 2007 12:47 AM
I would just like to add to my previous post. You are not being selfish by having baby on your own. How many thousands of couple break up after they have a child? You need to make sure you have a good support system and are financialy stable. Research all of your options and don't act until you are ready. Also, there are always people who will try to insult you or act like insane idiots because of your choice (just read the prior posts!!) but know that you know what is right for you. 

Name: Darby | Date: Oct 28th, 2007 3:22 PM
network54 has a single mother by choice forum you might find more women there on the same path. 

Name: Trina | Date: Oct 29th, 2007 2:44 AM
Hi. Is there anyone out there who live with a boyfriend and he makes you sick? Get on your last nerves? And always trying to tell your kids what to do and they are not his kids. Sometimes he act like he HATES them. Please, someone tell me your experience with it. 

Name: mel | Date: Nov 20th, 2007 4:19 AM
Hi Trina,

Please don't let your boyfriend treat your children this way. No one is worth more than your children and their future. I grew up in a home similar to this and felt the hate from a stepfather and boyfriend that my mother had. It takes years to recover from the damage that is inflicted upon children. They are innocent and deserve a great future. You deserve better as well. Life is better alone than with an abuser. 

Name: jorge ramirez | Date: Nov 26th, 2007 2:17 AM
looking for a woman who is attractive 

Name: jo | Date: Dec 10th, 2007 4:13 PM
hi. my name's Jo, I am 23 years old, and unfortunately since I was 5 weeks old I have suffered from a reaccuring benign tumor in my stomach, which already i have had 4 operations to remove. A year ago i found out that I'm am highly likely to have to have another operation in 5 years time (4 years now). This also means I will have more scar tissue, or the longer I leave my next operation, the more tumor i will have. Both aspects can affect pregnancy, causing hernias and other complications, and the more tumor/scar tissue the higher the risk of this.
Therefore i have made a decision not to have another operation until i have beared at least one child, and quite frankly, i have to get a move on!!

I have always wanted children, more then anything in teh world, and therefore I cant bear the thought that one day i may be told I have "left it too long" and never have any. call it woman's intuition but something is telling me now or never.
Mentally, i feel ready for a baby (think i have been for a long time actually) and I have always been good with children. And i am fortunate that an ex partner of mine also knows how much having children is important to me, and a year ago he offered to be a donor.
A few days ago, i asked him if he still meant what he said and he said yes. He even wants to be part of the baby's life. So we made a decision together that we would go for it.
My biggest worry is what people will think, if i'm being fair on a child doing this, can i financially afford this, what help can i get and just need some advice really, .
I've never wanted anything more, and if i could i would wait for the "right time" but truth is, i cant. I think very highly of my ex, and i treully feel he is the only one that understands my situation.
But i don't know if i'm being selfish?
Please help if you can.
Thanks x 

Name: Gol | Date: Apr 11th, 2008 6:42 AM
Good for you 

Name: Antonio | Date: May 11th, 2008 12:28 PM
I can help you and you can help me. Let have a chat or e-mail will be ok too. 

Name: Sami | Date: May 26th, 2008 5:00 AM
I am 19 and am very interested in having a baby. I know i sound you, but i am very mature for my age. I am an actor but i have a steady job while looking for my big break. I am currently enrolled in school for acting. I have been babysitting since i was five and basically taking care of myself since i could talk. I know a lot about babies and love them. The only problem is, i have no guy in my life. So it seems like my only option besides waiting, which i dont want to do, is to be artifically inceminated. Are there any woman out there who have been through this process at a young age as i would like to go through, and if anyone has advice for me, it would be much appreciated 

Name: singlechristina | Date: May 27th, 2008 1:45 AM
For single moms, please go to www.singleparentloving.com** to meet other single parents for friends, relationships and more in your area. 

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