| you must think of your child, trust me history repeats itself through you children . You must not let your choice of a husband determine your self worth, he is abusive because someone was abusive to him, its a revolving door that someone has to be strong enough to close FOREVER BE BLESSED ↑ |
| hi hon.i was married to a man for 15 years who used me to be a maid,cook,nurse and anything else he needed.he broke my spirit and made me feel like a piece of crap. iwas told that i should consider myself lucky1after i turned 40 and he did nothing to celebrate that milestone, i told him to leave.i didnt have a car or a job and i have two kids. it was like jumping off a cliff without a parachute. i worked at all kinds of jobs to make ends meet. he pays child support and takes the kids sometimes but its still a struggle. my parents are dead,the rest of the family lives far away and barely keeps in touch.all of our "friends" sided with him. i have a reall nice guy now,and he thinks my kids are great. hes 10 years younger than me but he doesnt care about that. he didnt rescue me by any means.he lives separately and just visits. i hurt my back and need surgery so i had to go on public assisstence. its still hard, but i am soooo much happier. my problems didnt go away, but i feel better about myself.i found reading books about loving yourself helped me. in particular dr. phil helped me see i was special.get involved with a hobby or something that you enjoy. it will get better-have faith in yourself. you are the person with the control now-dont let him or anyone take htat away from you, please email me if you want to talk,[email protected] ↑ |
| I've been with an emotionally abusive man and it was the most difficult time in my life. Hang on! Find the help you need, even if he won't. Get some counseling. And keep your son safe. Good luck! ↑ |
