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Name: staceykelley

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ok as you all know my boyfriend left about a month ago and i am pregnant. i am looking for a womens point of veiw on this one. my boyfriend says he has changed blah blah blah but yesturday i was going through the computer and i found out that my boyfriend was into some pretty nasty porn. his email address is linked to his dads and they have been swaping porn like when i say porn its like young 15 yr old girls and i found ads posted all across the internet him looking for a hot and fun relationship so my question to you is when you are in a relationship would you be upset if your bf was into porn? i felt used and horrible about myself do you think im over reacting it just makes me happy that im not with him now and it shows me what type of a person he really is ↓

Name: staceykelley | Date: Dec 5th, 2006 6:45 PM

see when we were together i had no idea that he was into that because he wouldnt do it at home he did it while he was at work and at his dads but then there was a really weird file under our computer and i opened it and there everything was ↑

Name: staceykelley | Date: Dec 5th, 2006 10:38 PM

so is it over reacting it just bothers me you know if we had an open relationship wed be fine but he lies and he has personal adds all over the internet me and my husband used to watch porn but i think you need a level of trust ↑

Name: staceykelley | Date: Dec 5th, 2006 10:54 PM

thank you for your opinions ↑

Name: saxton_emma | Date: Dec 5th, 2006 11:06 PM

i hink porns fine as long as your honest to each other about it. but if hes hiding he may of just been worried to bring the idea up with you.
although the underage girl thing i would not like at all, thats just wrong to me. ↑

Name: SaRaH | Date: Dec 6th, 2006 1:31 AM

so MIZZ, your saying if your over 20 there is something wrong with you looking at porn?

Lol

ok i think someone needs to get out of the stone ages.
There is something wrong if he DOES try and hide it..its differnt if you watch it together etc..to bring some spice back ↑

Name: staceykelley | Date: Dec 6th, 2006 2:03 AM

i agree with that me and my husband used to but when it comes to sneeking and hiding its not good no ↑

Name: marija | Date: Dec 6th, 2006 8:26 AM

sorry ...Im still trying to get over the Dad and Son sharing porn...thats creepy.
I dont have a prob with porn...have a prob with kiddy porn and anyone actively searching it out...different if it is in the file...sometimes they crop up everywhere..."young schoolgirls"..
"teen sex" and then at the bottom ..all women are over 18yo..anyone actively searching these sites out are sick!! The fact that he is been sharing with his dad, makes me wanna puke....THAT IS SO WRONG...ON MANY LEVELS. ↑

Name: amy | Date: Dec 6th, 2006 11:01 AM

15 years old omg thats sick he could get put to jail for this, me and my bf used to watch porn alot but now its just sooo boring but we would never ever watch kiddie porn thats so sick people in england get jailed for that its just so wrong i wouldnt go near him ewwwwwwwww theres name for that as well and im sorry but your husband must be a pedophile ↑

Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Dec 6th, 2006 5:02 PM

If he was looking for relationships on the internet you are better off without him. Better to find out now rather than finding out tens years and three kids later! I think it is strange that a son and dad would share this kind of stuff. It seems like they have no boundaries. Not your typical father son relationship. Big red flag! ↑

Name: Lizzi | Date: Dec 6th, 2006 5:15 PM

My husband looks at Playboy magazine and I'm o.k. with that but he does not know how to use a computer so he doesn't look up porn sites on it. If he did though he would have a choice to make which would be this house and family or his porn site. If he chose the porn site he would be out on his ass! I think there is a big difference between a magazine and the internet. He will never be in contact with the women in the magazine but the internet opens up many possibilities that can turn into a reality. I could not tollerate that. He would be made to choose. ↑

Name: staceykelley | Date: Dec 6th, 2006 6:48 PM

so heres his story the teenage porn is his dads and he knew nothing about it and he actually got mad about it the porn porn is his but the only reason he was looking at it was so he could give it to his dad the adds on looking for someone else was him just being a jerk in which case yes you are right even if it was his dads thats still a sick family if he looks at girls like that what will he look at when my daughter is 15 women are not put on this earth for men to get off on i asked him how he would feel if our daughter did that and men were getting off on her pictures his face went blank and and it pretty much made him look at things differently i told him each of those girls are someones daughter and i told him we will not be getting back together cause everything from lying to sneaking around is not for me i made an awsome choice not to get back with him your opinions are greatly appreciated ↑

Name: luckey_in_life | Date: Dec 6th, 2006 6:57 PM

Some of the stuff he is downloading could be a federal offense. Child porn is illegal and he could get in real trouble for that. Even if it is his dad's stuff. If it is on his computer he can get in trouble. Make sure he didn't put any of it on your computer. If he did, delete it quick. ↑

Name: Jennycakes | Date: Dec 6th, 2006 9:02 PM

]]so my question to you is when you are in a relationship would you be upset if your bf was into porn?

no, not if it was just porn, but being 15yr olds... no no no.
what i say is confront him about it.
tell him you think he's not satisfied with you
see what he has to say.

and about him and his dad sharing... thats just flipping wierd.

good luck with the baby :) ↑