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Name: kissablyme

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please help me. i have a three year old that will be four in november. just last night he told me that he was sexually abused by his care giver. i dont know what to do about it. my son has never told a lie like this b4. most of the time he will even telll on himself if he has done something he shouldnt have. but this person is a family member and i dont know if he is really telling the truth. i continue to ask him what happened to him and he tells the same story. i am taking him to the doctor tomorrow but still i looked to see if there were any marks on him and there isn't. i am so confused because sumthing like this if it is true can impact his life forever and if not true it could destroy someone elses ↓

Name: bebe | Date: Oct 22nd, 2007 2:58 PM

The one thing that I know for sure is that a child that age NEVER lies about that issue. EVER....
I would trust your child and do whatever you can do help him and let the other person deal with their own consequences. They are certainly old enough to deal with it. And your child needs to know that you believe him. ↑

Name: taylord | Date: Dec 5th, 2007 4:41 PM

Hopefully your not allowing this person to care for your child any longer until you get this cleared up. confronting this person first would be a good idea. Follow you gut. Has this family member ever been suspected of abuse before? Sometimes kids do lie but it still needs to be followed up. I hope its not true. ↑

Name: David | Date: Dec 14th, 2007 9:09 AM

Once thing that is a fact: Children never lie about someone touching them in a wrong way.
YOU really MUST believe him, investigate your Childs claims, and PREVENT the potential abuser from being alone with your child. THis is REALLY CRITICAL!

A child will NOT lie about something like this. THINK about it, how would a child with such limited life experience even come up with such a claim if it is not true?

When you confront the potential abuser, try to have ATLEAST 1 other person there with you... what the potential abusers eyes, if they blink allot (more than usual) or behave untypically, then pay attention! ↑

Name: Dawn | Date: Dec 19th, 2007 2:39 PM

First talk about good touch and bad touch thenif he understands that get help from a child center that can determine how severe this is. Do not distrust your child or even give it second thought, he may think you do not believe him in the future. It is a long process but you will get thriugh this my 4 year lod did get help get help before it is too late. ↑