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Name: mom_of_waylon_and_benjamin
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My husband works, and goes to school full-time. My entire family works. I was wondering if anyone has suggestions for getting through times of trouble such as these. My sons were 26 weekers and they are on oxygen, heart monitors, medication, plus pulse os monitors that go off every 2-3 minutes. PLEASE[ IF THERE IS SOMEONE WHO HAS GONE THROUGH A SIMILAR SITUATION] I WOULD BE GRATEFUL FOR ADVICE. ↓
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| Name: Dreams | Date: Nov 28th, 2005 12:43 AM |
| Wow, sounds like you are going to have a really tuff time...Any help for at least the first month? I had absolutely no help with my son and there was only one of him. I can't imagine two. It has been done before though. Just use this advice: If God ever allows them both to sleep at the same time, turn off the phone and lay down and sleep along side them and be thankful for that nap. Good luck. ↑ |
| Name: deedeesgang | Date: Nov 20th, 2006 6:52 PM |
| Name: Kim Mori | Date: Dec 15th, 2006 5:26 AM |
Hi! I'm not going through what you are, Thank God for that but my advise would be to play music, all sorts of music it inspires you and lefts your mood and to dance with your babies!
Cheers Kim! ↑ |
| Name: augerkay | Date: Dec 16th, 2006 6:11 AM |
| Hi- my son was also a 26 weeker- but luckily my husband helped out alot. We both were working full time and trying to take turns at night with our son. I can only imagine what you are going through with 2 babies- I only had 1 and we were overwelmed... I also agree with Dreams and try to nap when the boys are . Do you have any close friends who can help you out ?? My parents and my husbands family also all worked, and a couple of our close friends would try to help us out.. Our son is now almost 10 years old... and some how we got through it.. You will also get through it- I know it may seem impossible right now, but if God brings you to it , then he will also bring you through it.. My advise is get as much sleep as you can -- Sweet Dreams..... ↑ |
| Name: Tracey A | Date: Jan 2nd, 2007 3:29 PM |
Hi,
How are YOU doing! I hope you are hanging in there.
Let me say I will pray for patience and strength for you.
How old are your boys now? I had twin boys at 32 weeks. Only one of the boys has severe problems. We have no family in the area (closest about 2 hours away). My husband had to return to work also, which left me with our twin boys and our 4 year old son.
I was able to get help from our church. I had people that I never met before come over...just to hold Jacob for me while I took care of Joshua (our baby with special needs), or hold Joshua while I nursed or took care of Jacob, Joshua's twin. Unfortunately, Tyler, our 4 year old had to watch a lot of tv during the first year. He will be fine :).
Also, the college my husband works for has a great nursing program, part of the program requires the students to do respite care for families with special needs. This was great!! We have met a wonderful student who might as well be a part of our family.
It was hard for me to accept help (that is just how I am, I can do everything...well I could not). As time went on, I was able to feel like things were getting better and I did not need someone every day (which I was fortunate to have). Now I am happy to say, Jacob and Joshua are 19 months old and I am flying solo. DOn't get me wrong, my husband does a ton to help, but I am alone with the boys again. Good Luck! If you get a free moment, which then you should nap :), or if you would like to chat further e-mail me [email protected] ↑ |
| Name: twin_troubles | Date: Jan 3rd, 2007 4:20 AM |
Dear mom I completely understand what you are going through. I have 5 month old twins who both have cerebral palsy and constant lung infections. My husband works way too much and I am left to take care of the babies and our 12 yr old son on my own. I feel exhausted and desperate half the time. I'm not sure I can offer much advice but I'd be a great shoulder to cry on because I'm living through it myself.
Connie ↑ |
| Name: lanaandalexis | Date: Jan 7th, 2007 1:44 AM |
| hi my name is jamie and i also have twin girls lana and alexis my husband works all the time and i also have a 3yr old i hd the girls a month early and i was put on bed rest alot i just about had them, at 27 weeks it is a hard job but i know that u can do it some time u your self needs a break if it is just a couple of hours i know that it will be hard but that is what u need for the babies twins are so wornderful they can get through it they both have a bound that u wouldnt belive mine still sleep together and they have been through alot with acid reflex and gaining weight so i di know what u r going throgh my blessings r with u thanks jamie ↑ |
| Name: Jeanette | Date: Jul 14th, 2009 3:06 AM |
| My twins are now 7 mos old, I also have a 5 yr old and my husband is only home 1 wk out of the month. It is really hard. My twins were born at 36 wks one was on a monitor that went off all the time. I cant imagine what you must be going through. I really did not have a lot of help. The best advice I can give you is to try and find help if possible, and to just take it one day at a time. It will get easier, just keep telling yourself that. I've come to realize that you can survive will barely any sleep, because I'm still here. Depression will set in if it already hasnt happened. Be strong and know that you will get through this. ↑ |
| Name: Angie | Date: Jan 29th, 2010 8:04 PM |
| I’m hopping I can get some help from someone that has a little more experience then I do. I am married with a great husband that works a lot!!! I have three kids my oldest son is going to be 4 on May 25th of 2010. My second oldest is my daughter and she will be two October 16th of 2010. My youngest son is going to be 1years old August the 18th of 2010. My daughter and my youngest son will be a year old together for at least 2months. It’s been hard and night’s are crazy!!!! But the little sleep I get now, is something I take advantage of when I can. That’s not the part I need help in. My husband and I just found out we are having twins in September of 2010. Does anyone have some advice for me? I know this means less sleep, less me time. I am very aware of what God has in store for us, but how do I handle this by myself? Thank you all for taking the time in reading my desperate plea for help, I hope I can get some advise. ↑ |
| Name: Jay | Date: Jun 27th, 2010 11:31 PM |
| I can relate...I recently had twin girls (now 4 months). I delivered them at 36 weeks and had 36 weeks of severe nausea and vomitting. I was placed on bedrest at 4 months and was hospitalized many times throughout the pregnancy. I lost a lot of weight during the pregnancy and was on IV fluids. I delivered healthy normal twin girls weighing 5 lbs each. ..they currently weigh 15 lbs at 4 months and are thriving. I have a 3 year old son also...who is doing great. It's very hard, but rewarding. I work full time and so does my husband. My work environment is negative and my boss is unkind and has no compassion for anyone with kids...especially women.. My husband works long, long hours so I take care of the children the majority of the time. My kids keep me going. Its not easy...and I am often exhausted. I enjoy my children's voices, noise, smiles and giggles. I try not to be too hard on myself and I am proud of the job that I am doing...sometimes I wish I had more hands to help me and sometimes I wish people could be a little bit more kinder, compassionate, understanding, forgiving, less judgemental and patient toward me, but I try not to dwell on that...I just do my best and be positive...when things get overwhelming I find a few minutes alone to cry and then I feel better and can go on. Hope this helps you know that you are not alone and there are many of us going through situations of this sort. Keep your head up, pat yourself on the back and have a good cry every once in a while. ↑ |
| Name: cynequa | Date: Sep 16th, 2010 4:06 PM |
| i have a set of 2year old twins ↑ |
| Name: Meganok | Date: Sep 17th, 2010 6:34 AM |
| Best advice I can give you from a mother of premature twins who are now 8 months old and I'm also got my BSN. Have the babies sleep in a pack-in-play or crib in your room! Have bottles made before you go to bed and have the rest clean for the morning. If the pulse ox. Keeps alarming it's because they are moving around and it probably isn't stuck on well. Try some more tape and cover it with a sock or mitten. If the heart monitors are constantly beeping they are probably coming off when the babies move too get a new set of leads or ask you dr for the tape that is appropriate for a premies skin since it years so easily, and just tape the leads on better. It should definately help reduce the alarms going off much more! :) ↑ |
| Name: idajennifer | Date: Feb 20th, 2011 1:32 PM |
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