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Name: hopefull | Date: Jul 7th, 2007 3:16 AM
my child is almost 15. She is the sweetest little girl. That loves to talk fairy tales and movies. She also has Turners syndrome. 

Name: hopefull | Date: Jul 7th, 2007 3:19 AM
I need advice on how to help her with the obbessive disorder that will never let her relax!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Name: sammie | Date: Jul 11th, 2007 4:41 PM
hi there i would like 2 chat 

Name: Cindy | Date: Jul 12th, 2007 3:10 PM
I have just had my son diagnosed with Aspergers. The outbursts are UNBEARABLE and the agression is UNTOLERABLE. I would love to connect with other mothers who are experiencing this to share coping strategies. Also my husband has it too ( I am pretty sure) So anyone who has a husband with it or other adults with it, I would love to get info on how to handle that better. I know I am not alone in this, so please reach out to me for sharing. Thanks : ) [email protected] 

Name: Linn | Date: Jul 20th, 2007 4:18 PM
Hi 

Name: adamu | Date: Jul 23rd, 2007 10:22 AM
i am just new 


Name: Garrett | Date: Jul 26th, 2007 5:26 PM
Hello. I have asperger and people are men to me also.
I get called stupid a lot because of how asperger makes your wring and spelling horrible. I know I'm not stupid. I have a 3.8 gpa and I will fax that to you if you want and If I can. I hate obnoxious people and I'm over senitive to what people say.
I have poor social skills and would to become your all's friend. 

Name: jake | Date: Jul 28th, 2007 10:19 AM
hi 

Name: robinsnest | Date: Aug 18th, 2007 6:59 AM
need help with aspergers child 

Name: Peg | Date: Aug 28th, 2007 11:50 PM
I am raising my nephew and niece. He has Asperger's and ADHD. We have had him 7 years. It has been one of the worst experiences I have ever gone through. We have tried every medication available. Some helped at the beginning but now he is almost 16 years old and the dosage would be near impossible to correct or help with the problems he has now. We are trying going without medication this first six weeks. The worst problem we have with him is constant lying. We have tried everything, including counselling by 2 different counselors. We have tried rewarding good behavior only. We have tried grounding, spanking (early ages), taking things away, write-offs, etc. Nothing works. His first instint is to lie and usually about things that wouldn't really matter much. He is very intelligent when it comes to school work, loves to read, and he has never had to take special ed classes. We have helped him with school work at the beginning but he does most of it now himself. He is very unorganized. He is a procrastinator. We feel someone else may be more educated in taking care of a special needs child. We have been at the point of giving him up on numerous occasions, but don't know where to go to do this. We don't want to put him in state custody, too many horror stories. He also has a physical problem. He has familial polyps and will have to have his lower intestines removed next summer. He can be loving, and responds well to touch, but with the lying I really don't feel like giving him a loving touch. I don't think he has gone over 3 to 4 days without lying. It is a huge problem I can't handle. He has very few friends. I think he makes friends easily, but can't keep them. They realize he is different. We are struggling with what will happen to him after he graduates, because I am not willing to continue taking care of him. His mother is in a group home (bi-polar). My parents are very ill with cancer and they could use my attention more now than ever, but I can't leave him alone at home. He gets into things he knows he shouldn't get into. Like drinking a fourth of a jug of chocolate syrup. He's done that 4 times. Now I don't buy it at all. He got on our computer and found a porn site. We didn't know until we got a virus that he had done that. He is very clever. He would get up in the night and get on the computer. We had to take it out of his room. We did without internet for 3 years because of him. I don't think we are good for him anymore. He needs someone with a different view on how to deal with his problems. I have about reached the end of my rope with him. It is causing problems with me and my husband, his sister, etc. He has outgrown a lot of the Aspergers' symptoms. He can look at us in the eyes now (when told to). He doesn't "touch" things and rub them like he used too (like velvet), but he is very sensitive to touch and feel. His eating habits have improved enormously. He used to would not eat foods with "lumps" in them. We have tried to teach him right from wrong, but everything is not "black and white" to him. He manuevers around it somehow, trying to make his way seem sensible. This isn't helping you on how to deal with your problem tho. Your child probably has an interest in something (planes, trains and automobiles). Help him to develop new interests and to excel in the ones he has. Check with your school system to see if there is a group that meets for children with aspergers or other autism. Don't let anger eat you up like it has me. Make sure to save time for yourself. There are surgeons, professors, etc. with asperger's. It is possible for them to develop their skills and work outside the home. Good luck. 

Name: Derek | Date: Aug 30th, 2007 7:15 PM
I have known about my aspergers for only five years 

Name: juliew | Date: Aug 30th, 2007 11:09 PM
I am about at the end of my rope. My son is 7 and has been diagnosed with asperger's. He is a very wonderful loving child who, I know is going to be something spectacular but right now his behavior is destroying our family and I do not know what to do about it. He is currently taking 3 different meds but he is still out of control. The main issues we are having with him is that he loves to irritate people and cause as much caos in our home as possible. He is constantly picking fights with his sisters and will not listen to me or my husband about anything at all. If he does not always get his way he either cries and pitches the biggest fit you have ever seen or he tries to get revenge by busting holes in our walls or breaking stuff around the house. Then he runs and locks himself in a room. He always receives some form of punishment for this behavior but it does not make any difference. It is like dealing with a possessed child most of the time. This morning he did not want to brush his teeth so he flung himself on the floor, then he ran out of the house all together, then when he came back in he ran into my closet, etc. This went on for about 10 minutes and then he got a spanking for it and finally brushed his teeth. However, the spanking will not make a lasting impression because tomorrow morning he will do it all over again if he feels like it.
He is in 1st grade at a public school and so far this year has only had one incident where he poked a girl with a pencil in the back because she asked him to quit tapping his feet. Last year in kindergarten he was suspended 5 times but through many meetings with teacher's and the principal we were able to work together and he managed to pass this grade.
I am not trying to write a book here, I just want to know if anyone else has seen this type of behavior with asperger's children. What works? We have tried everything we know to do and he is just a complete mess. His 4 yr old sister is scared to death of him and his 8 yr old sister cries every day because she does not want to live in our house anymore. She asked me today if we could try to sell him on ebay. I love him more than anything and I want other people to love him also.
How do I help him? Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. 

Name: JodiW | Date: Aug 31st, 2007 3:04 AM
One thing that you have to understand that children with Aspergers syndrome (or autism) for that matter is that they are easily anxious, especially in situations that are unfamiliar or that go against routine. When a child wiht ASD (atusim spectrum disorder, so autism or asperger) becomes anxious they tend to behave in ways that would normally be considered to be 'bad' behaviour. In the case of an ASD child it is not bad behaviour, rather a behavioural response to the increased anxiety. As for your child destrying things to get back at you, yes that may be the case but I personally would be looking into whether it is the way your son modulates (regulates) his anxiety that has been brought on by the situation. It is very very common for a child with ASD to engage in repetative (ritualistic) behaviours that are familiar to help lessen their anxiety....this is why most children with ASD either enage in 'odd' but consistant behaviours (ie wheel spinning, hand flapping), lash out physically destroying property or engage in self-hearmig behaviour (ie head banging) You have to remember all the behaviour your child engages in serves a functional purpose for your child, whether you can see/or understand it yourself or not. The behaviour serves a important puropse that helps him cope with not only his enviroment but also his physiological state...even if the behaviour itself is not ideal or even in some cases harmful the child needs ths behaviour to be able to function. What you should do is go and see a behavioural psycholigist or behaviour managment specialist that will be able to analyse your sons behavior, wourk out the function of the behaviour (individual puropse) and the reinforcing factors. When the behaviour is fully understood there are then intervention methods (depending on the behavour) that can be utalised to help your child learn and use more effective (and less disruptive) coping skills. If I were you I would personally loof for someone who specalises in Functional Analytical Therapy (FAT) or if you can't find that someone who specalises in Applied Behaviour Analysis (ABA). I persoanlly specialise in both and would be happy to give youn any more advice or insight into your sons behaviour, although it should no replace someone actually seeing your son. My email is [email protected]

Oh and personally without having met your son or seeing his diagnosis I would not be recommending any type of medication unless it is absoloutly needed. Medication is a band-aid solution, it may work to a point but you are not teaching your child any new skills or behaviours to help remove the problem, you are just masking the problem with drugs. In the long term it is better to have a drug free child wh with therapy will have less and less behavior problems than a child that is dependent on mediation for the rest of his/her life, not only will the affect of the medication lesson over time (toleance) the child may become physically and emotionall dependent (addicted) and aquire medical issues associate with long term drug abuse (physical and mental) 

Name: jdourt | Date: Sep 1st, 2007 11:39 PM
Turnip (Brassica rapa L.) is a root Brassica crop and has been used as a vegetable for human consumption in Europe since prehistoric times. Turnip root has been a popular livestock fodder for at least 600 years wherever the crop can be grown. For most of that time turnip roots have been managed as forage. Researchers in the United States determined in the early 1900s that turnip roots are valuable energy sources for young ruminant animals. However, livestock farmers at that time were turning away from the Brassica root crops (which also include rutabagas or swedes) for fodder because much hand labor was required for the production and utilization of the large roots. One study showed that the labor requirement on a nutrient basis for these crops was three times that needed for corn silage production. 

Name: Jerriann | Date: Sep 9th, 2007 4:34 AM
I have a 12 (almost 13) year old son with Aspergers. I'm looking for the same thing. Other moms who are williling to be brutally honest about their day to day things. It's hard. He had a meltdown tonight and it affects the whole family. He has a hard time interacting with his younger brother and sister and he gets mad a lot. 

Name: momc3 | Date: Sep 10th, 2007 8:22 PM
I am a mom of a 21 yr old boy/man who is currently in treatment for drug and alcohol abuse. It pains me to see him struggle through this with no "real" friends. He is painfully intreverted and cannot reach out to others, much as he would love to. 

Name: margaret martin | Date: Sep 11th, 2007 3:09 AM
i would like to find out if my son has aspergers 

Name: Em | Date: Sep 15th, 2007 5:22 AM
Hi, i have a 4 yr old son, who is currently being diagnosed with asperger's, i would love to hear from other mothers with child/children with aspergers around the same age. 

Name: Deb_BC | Date: Sep 19th, 2007 5:46 AM
Hi ,Im a newbie here,
Im a mom to a wonderful 9 year old boy who was DX on M arch 28 2005,
It has been a well continue to be a interesting long road a head,Im from Canada live In Winnipeg and trying to meet othere who have child{ren}as
me and im just wanting to chat...who understands what im saying I mean really understand,
My little story im still in the learning period since it been a shock and the only problem my som had at school was his printing and the being picked on. He is known as having AS.S know and I too will like to know how others get along day to day .
Deb
Deb 

Name: lindalu | Date: Sep 19th, 2007 2:26 PM
Deb_BC
You may get more replies if you start a new topic. This one is extremely old, many of the people have long gone. 

Name: VB | Date: Sep 20th, 2007 6:28 PM
Deb_BC
did you see American's Next Top Model last night? there is a model on there w/this syndrome!! 

Name: TRACYJ | Date: Sep 22nd, 2007 12:21 AM
My 9 year old son has been diagnosed and since being diagnosed we have had great success with his teachers and therapist at school. We are having alot of problems in gym class this year and need advice is anybody has any thanks 

Name: Mik | Date: Oct 2nd, 2007 7:37 PM
I'm new to these chat rooms, and am looking for others who have aspergers, like myself, and chat about anything, like some of the problems of living with aspergers, and ways to ease the problems of living with the syndrome. 

Name: shell | Date: Oct 3rd, 2007 3:16 AM
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Name: shell | Date: Oct 3rd, 2007 3:20 AM
My son just turned 12. He has apsergers. He is such a good child, yet I have noticed that now he is starting to get mouthy, that teenage thing. He has a hard time with friends, and thinks no one likes him half of the time. I would love to chat or via email with other parents... 

Name: Lidlamb | Date: Oct 5th, 2007 3:15 AM
Mom of 11 year old son with Asperg's 

Name: Tom | Date: Oct 8th, 2007 4:29 PM
I have good abilities to make friends but keeping them is another story.
I am hoping to meet a friend on here who I could chat to and to be good friends. Someone who will understand my thoughts
I live in the UK and I am thirteen in November. It is as hard to keep up with school work and homework as to keep friends. I have only just found out I have AS and have difficulties in keeping my temper down sometimes but it helps to be in my room with my cars around me to play with and my t.v to take my mind off things. 

Name: emma | Date: Oct 9th, 2007 11:26 AM
is it possible to miss the symptoms in childhood and for them to emerge in adulthood? My son is showing classic symtoms in his 20's although there were some early linguistic problems and he always had a limited number of friends as a boy. I'd love to hear from anyone who can help me here as it's driving me mad and will be the breakdown of a relationship he has with a lovely girl 

Name: Momof 2sweetboyz | Date: Oct 10th, 2007 5:40 PM
Hi Melissa,
My son was just diagnosed with AS, he is 3..
And you are such a sweet sister to feel his pain, I feel my son's pain as well..The mean things they say to him, the cruel way they brush him off and ignore him!
My Son is such a sweetie as well, any sugestions on how to handle the pain and hurt of his pain? 

Name: Julie F. | Date: Oct 11th, 2007 11:33 AM
Is ther anybody out there with identical twin girls with aspergers. My daughters are 9 . 

Name: Julie F. | Date: Oct 11th, 2007 11:36 AM
My twin girls with AS are selectively mute especially in school causing many difficulties. Anyone with the same problem. 

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