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Name: Julie F. | Date: Oct 11th, 2007 11:36 AM
My twin girls with AS are selectively mute especially in school causing many difficulties. Anyone with the same problem. 

Name: sean | Date: Oct 12th, 2007 5:11 PM
and i have it 

Name: sean | Date: Oct 12th, 2007 5:12 PM
and i have it 

Name: Celeste | Date: Oct 15th, 2007 9:05 PM
Hello Everyone, I'm new to this forum and new to the whole autistic world. I have a new family with a 16 year old son w/Aspergers Syndrome. He's very functional, in fact his major set back is not being able to maintain conversation - speech pragmatics skills. I'd love to hear from you Moms/Dads any suggestions or recommendations regarding programs, organizations or websites for home-school learning or otherwise. Thanks. 

Name: Tanya | Date: Oct 24th, 2007 6:20 PM
Can children with aspergers act good at school and then out of control at home?? 

Name: Cheryl | Date: Oct 29th, 2007 7:03 PM
This is for Peg. I recently married a man who has a 15 year old son with Asperger's. He adopted this boy when he was only 2 mos. old. It has been very difficult for me coming into this situation. Although I have worked in a pediatric office for 5 years and have seen these kids come and go, I could never have imagined what it would be like to actually deal with this on a daily basis. I consider myself to be pretty well educated as to what Asperger's is. I have done and continue to do research trying to learn as much as I can to make life easier for all of us.
I can relate with you on the issue of eating. Our son will get into anything and everything if given the opportunity. He wakes up at 5 a.m. every morning no matter what and generally would have strange concoctions and horrible messes made before we would even be out of bed. We have resorted to locking our food cabinets and refrigerator. It is a big inconvenience but saves alot of stress that came with waking up every morning to the messes he was making.
The things we are dealing with now are temper tantrums, destroying things when he doesn't get his way, head banging, disrespect in the form of making smart remarks, and just disobedience in general. He is a master manipulator and it's very hard to stay one step ahead of him. If I am on top of it, I can see it coming and stop it but his father doesn't seem to pick up on this alot and it is causing a huge strain on our relationship.
I am at my wit's end right now because recently this boy has started engaging in some strange new behaviors that I'm not sure are related to the Asperger's.
He will leave feces all over the bathroom in the shower or on the underside of the toilet bowl. I have found it on the sink faucet, on the countertop and on the walls. I have to check the bathroom every time he leaves it because I am terrified that a guest will walk in and find this. This particular behavior has just started in the last 2-3 months. I'm not sure why he does this...he just says he doesn't know when we ask him. I do make him clean it up, but of course I have to go behind him and clean it thoroughly.
His hygiene in itself is horrible which I understand is one of the things they deal with. I have tried to teach him proper hygiene and have made some progress there although he still needs to be constantly reminded. He will take a shower now whereas when I first moved in about a year and a half ago it actually took his Dad physically putting him in and washing him all the while he would scream like a 2 year old who didn't want to take a bath.
I have gone to the extent of making step by step lists on poster boards telling him HOW to do the daily things like showering, brushing teeth, cleaning his room, etc. The first time he decides he doesn't want to do one of these things, he tears the list down and tears into tiny pieces.
My husband and I have been to psychiatrists, psychologist, Drs., and classes trying to learn how to deal with this child and minimize the stress in our home . It has gotten to the point now where I truly believe that we CAN"T help him. I have talked to my husband about putting him in a care home that teaches these kids correct behavior. One of the pysychologists we spoke to suggested this to us. We were told these are 6-8 week programs. I truly believe that this child knows what he is doing and why he is doing it and could benefit from a program like this. We get nothing but good reports from school and he doesn't engage in alot of these behaviors at school at all. My husband is dragging his feet on this and I'm not sure why. I think he is concerned about his son's feelings but I am more concerned that this will ruin our marriage if he is unwilling to take this step. He feels like he is a failure because he can't teach him. I feel that if I had a child who had appendicitis or some other condition, I wouldn't try to deal with it on my own, I would find a professional who could.
If there is anyone who has heard of this kind of program, I would like to have some feedback or if there is anyone who has had a child with this particular behavior and has any advice on what to do, please help. Is this related to Asperger's? 

Name: joanne | Date: Oct 30th, 2007 4:47 PM
I run a home daycare. I have had a girl come since she was 1 year old, she is now 21/2 years, she cries everyday while dropped off, will not play with the other kids, does not like the kids touching her, she is fine with me, stands back and watches kids, focuses on tv if it is on and clings to a toy. she has a baby brother now and will not associate with him or touch him. Routine is changed she freaks.ASPBERGERS I BELIEVE. DO I TELL HER MOTHER MY THINKING? 

Name: Shannon | Date: Oct 31st, 2007 1:44 AM
Hi I have a 5 year old son with Aspergers and am just looking for other people to chat with! 

Name: Barbara | Date: Nov 1st, 2007 10:11 PM
Hi! I have a newly diagnosed 4 year old son with Asperger's syndrome and feel very overwhelmed with the dx and the school process. We just went for his IEP with the school and turns out they want to do a 4 week diagnose and see with Dom. Any suggestions or comments?

Name: Barbara | Date: Nov 1st, 2007 10:26 PM
Hi! I have a 4 year old with a new dx of Aspergers. I really feel overwhelmed with all of this. We just had our IEP with school and they want to do a 4 week diagnose and I guess find his weaks and strengths. They said that not every child with a disability gets special ed. I hope this is not true for Dominick. He cannot deal with a normal class room setting. 

Name: sam | Date: Nov 10th, 2007 10:59 PM
hey im a teen with ASD and if you wood like to help me and outher teens with ASD go on http://www.assupportgrouponline.co.uk/ and help us to help outher young people with ASD we wood love to hear from eny one that wood like addvice or just to find out more about ASD love sam and assgo 

Name: meg | Date: Nov 18th, 2007 3:38 PM
i am not a mum but am a 100% sure my partner has Aspergers. I love him with all my heart but i feel so low and down and at times unable to cope. would lust like some links with others who experience Aspergers daily.meg xxx 

Name: Trisha | Date: Nov 22nd, 2007 1:50 AM
I have a 7yr old daughter with an aspergers diagnosis and would like to chat with other parents 

Name: Trisha | Date: Nov 22nd, 2007 2:03 AM
Hi, you might find that your child plays up a lil more at home because they feel more safe and secure. Aspergers kids know on some level the boundaries at school....the crowded classrooms and playgrounds raise their anxiety whereas at home they are in familair surroundings and feel more at ease. I hope this helps a little 

Name: Trisha | Date: Nov 22nd, 2007 2:13 AM
Hi Joanne, as hard as it is i suggest u nurture this little girl while shes in your care, but i don't recommend telling her parents what u think...because no parent likes to be told there is something wrong with their child....u could always discuss it with your family doctor and get advise from them....like i said its a difficult 1....because what we c not every1 does....good luck 

Name: Trisha | Date: Nov 22nd, 2007 2:34 AM
Hi Carol...I have 2 children an 11 yr old son who does not have aspergers he has heaps of friends and excels at nearly everything he does...and i have a 7yr old daughter who has aspergers...she really struggles she tries so hard to get the other kids to like her but her brutal honesty and anxieties get in the way...i feel so bad for her because she doesn't see that shes different...other kids shy away from her because they are frightened of her...they get tired of being hit kicked and biten. what most of the kids her age don't realise is she can't help it...altho she does try ....life in my house gets very full on the jealousy between my 2 kids is exhausting ...the constant struggle over minor issues...going out is such a drama....and not to mention bedtime...bedwetting...anyways carol if u would like to chat...maybe we can help each other 

Name: sandra | Date: Nov 28th, 2007 9:36 PM
My name is sandra my son is 8 and has aspergers. I find he is bullied at school sometimes what is the best way for me to console him 

Name: kirst | Date: Dec 1st, 2007 7:13 PM
i'm a 17 year old female living personally wid aspergers syndrome and i'm finding it increasingly difficult to handle and cope and deal with it gettin way out of control i suffa wid depression,anxiety n maybe bipolar undiagnosed n im scared and frightned i self harm on ma arms legs n stomach i fink im fat n ugli n i hate maself im suicidal ma familys goin throu a hard time atm ma 68 yr old nan is dyin ma mum her full time carer 

Name: mom | Date: Dec 11th, 2007 4:15 AM
can anyone tell me if they think my son who is 9 could possibly have Aspergers? 

Name: Gayle Heath | Date: Dec 17th, 2007 5:38 AM
I have a son that is almost 11 with Asperger's. They only way I have found to console Grant when this happens is to just let him talk--and I mean talk without being interrupted. He tells me all the time that I don't let him finish. I know I don't. I just hate that he is going through all this pain. I want school to be a good thing for him. He is in the 4th grade, and so far, kindergarten has been the only success. So, I try to let him talk, he loves to hug and hav ehis back rubbed, so I do lots of that, and of course, I do the usual go to the teacher and have a talk. I teach school where he attends, and sometimes that is goog and sometime not. But, I would have it no other way! Have you found any solutions? 

Name: Gayle Heath | Date: Dec 17th, 2007 5:43 AM
Carol-- I would love to chat to you about the day to day things that go on with moms who have kids with Asperger's. My son is almost 11, and it has been a long 11 years. School is the absolute worst. Do you deal with IEP's? If so, HOW??Sometimes I think I might lose my mind. I don't think they have an IEP long enough for what I think out to be in it. Any words of encouragement? Hang in there! 

Name: rose | Date: Dec 30th, 2007 7:03 PM
I have a daughter who am I suspicions about her behaviors 

Name: rose | Date: Dec 30th, 2007 7:10 PM
Is ther any one here??? 

Name: ben kelley | Date: Jan 1st, 2008 4:13 AM
i have none 

Name: Judy | Date: Jan 10th, 2008 9:55 PM
I have a son who has Aspergers. He wasn't diagnosed until last year when he was 18. That was a wonderful day. Four five years we had been struggling, getting him through school (he couldn't stay in regular public school), and never having a real diagnosis. He was very relieved to have a name for his problems. Our newest problem now is that he still doesn't drive. He's taking instructions but the progress is really slow. He goes to a tech school now and transportation is an issue. I wonder what percentage of Aspies drive. Anyone know? I honestly don't think he has the capacity to be a defensive driver because he normally is not very aware of outside of himself. Or maybe I'm just a mom who's scared to let go. 

Name: [email protected] | Date: Jan 19th, 2008 1:04 PM
Hi Carol My daughter is 10 and has no close friends of her own age. Alex enjoys playing with little children, she relates better and also she so likes to control her environment. I pick my battles and quite honestly I do not cope very well, I just survive each day, Mysister shouted ne a trip to Bali for 8 days, I so needed a holiday the first ever I so recommend it as I came back refreshed. Alex is very upfront an painfully honest and will say it as it is, If I can get away with it I try to distract her from what she is saying, but if she gets wind of it she will continued . ..... 

Name: canada | Date: Jan 20th, 2008 12:48 AM
Hi, I'm married to a man with asperger's syndrome. He was just recently diagnosed. There is a name for his abusiveness and neglect. He isn't a good father and has great difficultly negogiating little "bumps" on the road of life. Life has been hard for our children. He can't express "love" but has an extraordinary capacity for sharing anger and expressing all things that bother him with his immediate family. He doesn't do that with his mother or her relatives. We're the only benefactors of his anger. I'm tired of living with him. 

Name: nina | Date: Jan 22nd, 2008 12:04 AM
do people with aspergers have to be told to do thing over and over agian do they always have to be reminded to do the same thing. i work with a 22 yr old young man and from one day to the next its the same brush your teeth,make your bed brush your hair.i want to understand how to wok with him 

Name: pclimer | Date: Feb 4th, 2008 11:09 PM
My client has aspergers and wants to chat with others that have the same please reply to [email protected] and help me connect them, our computer knowledge is limited! 

Name: richard/pclimer | Date: Feb 4th, 2008 11:19 PM
I am writing to Tom for my friend Richard. Richard says that he is 14 years old lives in seymour mo in the usa. He has spergers syndrome as well. He also wants a friend to chat with. Please resond when you are on line , we will check regular to set a date and time the 2 of you can chat live. Any other young teens with AS out there that wants to join in the conversation please jump on board. p.s. Patsy is my case worker so feel safe she's an okay person. 

Name: Richard | Date: Feb 5th, 2008 12:02 AM
hi my name is richard, i have AS and i am 14 i have problems with school and i occasionally stair into space. i hope somebody wants to talk with me

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